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now how i penitrate Rudra Granthi?

addyelen — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:44:36 GMT

Hai lovely people,
I am Aditya ...from the last few months i am on the path of TAPA (burning one self in determination)to make my self more aware ,wanting to inlight,storing the more energy and trying to make myself more stable ...by regular meditating,exersizing,with secred fealing....i am on the path of bramhacharya(no sex not physical nor mental desire or imagination)...well iam not forcelly stoping myself for it but i am more oriented towrds my devine pleasure so its all not bothering me....iam thinking about when my decided period of Tapa will complete then how i deal with this energy?..should i go for the sex with an inlighted girl for getting peace and pleaseure...or i i leave all thing on destiny....or should i get the company of the guru....hay lovely what i do...oum namoh narayanay...namoh narayanay

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Hi gang!

TantraTao — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 18:14:01 GMT

Hi everyone,

I'm the co-founder of OneTantra, and I wanted to invite all of you to what is now becoming the hottest social network in the tantric & poly community.

OneTantra is a multi-faith, inspirational and motivational new spirituality website. Through its community and significant teaching body (over 25 core faculty instructors including Charles Muir, Mantak Chia, Deb Anapol, Michael Mirdad, etc - and over 50 workshop leaders in the adjunct program), it provides information, community and services on a wide variety of topics, and with a focus on the art of tantra, love and spiritualizing relationship. It is slowly becoming the largest and most vibrant online community in the tantra world.

OneTantra is an all-loving, all-accepting, exploratory, fun, edgy and bold place where anybody curious about, or on the path can meet, learn, grow, deepen, play and love more fully. It's the ultimate tantric learning community -- you will be blown away by the depth and spiritual beauty of the people who have already joined. Plus, the social network will blow you away - and this isn't marketing hype - there are people talking about everything from the neurobiology of tantra to ecstatic poetry to qigong to non-violent communications to sexual healing & tantric case histories to "all about amrita" and slow food and then there are all the regional groups... just about anything you can imagine. You can ask questions, learn new practices and meet like-minded others. Lots of them. It's truly a rich and fulfilling multi-conversation, all about tantra and its impact on the world.

So come to http://onetantra.com/bliss to learn more. And email me at moses@onetantra.com if you need anything. It's a paid premium social network, but we have fun work study programs and stuff so anyone can join.

We're hosting an online workshop with Mantak Chia this week!

Love & light,

Moses

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Orgasmic Mastery: A Course for Men (FREE Teleseminar June 15th)

destingerek — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 20:40:29 GMT

Hey Tribe Community,

After months of preparation, (or 15 years, depending on your outlook), I am thrilled to be launching, Orgasmic Mastery: A Course for Men.

This is not specifically taoist. As I am not specifically taoist. I have been influenced by taoist approaches to sex, tantra, quodoshka, and a wide variety of western sexological-based approaches.

Imagine being able to have full choice over when and even IF you ejaculate.

Imagine having Full Body Orgasms that rock your body and soul.

Imagine having Multiple Non-ejaculatory Orgasms coursing through your entire body, culminating in a powerful ejaculatory orgasm that far surpasses anything you ever even dreamed was possible!

Orgasmic Mastery (A Course for Men) is a home-based learning course designed to help You:

* learn to have more choice around when and if you ejaculate;
* experience Full Body Orgasm;
* understand the separation between ejaculation and orgasm;
* experience Non-Ejaculatory Orgasms;
* and even experience the holy grail of Male Multiple Orgasms.

Here's how the program works. You will receive:

* A 12-week series of home-study online video instruction. I share ALL my best material with you, which I've learned and gathered over the past decade
* Weekly homework assignments. These are usually 15-30 minutes of exercises a day, and if you do them each day, you WILL be a badass lover by the end of the course. It's as simple as that.
* Access to a members-only VIP online forum, where you will be able to share your experience with other men, and get feedback from the other members of the course and from me
* Two (2) live group coaching calls each month where you will refine your skills, get to ask questions, talk about your concerns, experiences, and victories, and get support and advice from me and the other men in the course.

All within the container of a community of men supporting other men towards their individual goals (without the macho bullshit).

This program is not just a book.

It is meant to provide a step-by-step process that anyone can follow that will dramatically improve your sex life. And I promise that if you enroll in this course, and do the exercises, you WILL experience the benefits I've described, and likely a whole lot more.

THIS Monday (June 15th), I am hosting a FREE teleseminar for men interested in learning more.

Check it out:

www.OrgasmicMastery.com/course

I look forward to having you on the call!

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poly intimacy

teamnoir — Wed, 20 May 2009 17:07:52 GMT

Someone on another list recently asked for a description of how someone "who actively and openly participates in the Poly lifestyle" experiences intimacy.

My reply follows.

I don't participate in any "lifestyle". I simply live my life. There's no membership card nor administration council.

I also don't have "primaries" and "secondaries" as to me, that's too rigid, too linear, too much like exclusivity. The place I first heard that language, (primaries/secondaries), was from "Love Without Limits" by Deborah Anapol and her definition included sharing living space, money, children, etc, which I don't currently share with any of my partners. Her definition of primary doesn't include making primary an exclusive position but rather includes the possibility of a group household.

Me, I'm autistic. A group household would pretty much be my definition of hell, even if I loved everyone involved dearly. I need my time and space alone and apart to recharge. Group and social experiences are always challenging for me and are often far more like work than they are like fun. Experiences with one other person, occasionally two, work ok for me. The smaller the group, the more we know each other in context, the stronger our defined roles, the easier it is for me. While the idea of a poly family isn't totally out of the question for me, it's also not something I seek. Nor do I seek polyfidelity, (groups which exclusivity rules), nor N-way relationships, (triads, quads, etc). I'm simply me. I date. I have relationships. And the people I date also date other people and have other relationships. Sometimes we know the other people involved and sometimes we don't depending on a number of factors including geography, which communities we might share, who knew whom before relationships formed, individual strategies for dealing with jealousy/insecurity, etc. I tend to refer to my form of poly as "network" poly in the sense that I'm part of a network of relationships that extends pretty much infinitely in all directions.

Over the 20 years that I've been practicing poly, I've had a number of longer term relationships including one that's going on 10 years, and a half dozen or so in the 3 - 4 year range. Those are relationships that have been more or less consistent, where we meet, talk, play, etc, on at least a monthly basis, usually weekly. I also have more relationships than I can count which are more or less ongoing, but which aren't scheduled nor do they have any particular period. They're more like off and on relationships, or relationships that are slightly more distant. Some of the 3 - 4 year relationships have faded into the latter category and if we include the latter category, then I have probably another half dozen relationships that are in the 10 year old range. And if we add tantric lovers, or playmates, then the number of relationships expands again.

What I do with these people varies. Most are intimate friends and we talk and write and often share online forums where we do more of that. Some are lovers in the sexual sense. Some are SM playmates where we play at parties but don't generally have sex in particular. Others are social partners and we go out together and spend time in other communities, bdsm, swingers, tantra, or other special interest groups. A few have been or continue to be d/s partners in the sense that our relationship has at some time or another been based on a d/s dynamic.

Poly is, IME, easier than monogamy for a number of reasons. It's not easier in the sense of being emotionally easier - it's isn't emotionally easier. Emotionally it's possible to check out of a monogamous relationship for decades, even a life time and to live in that sort of absentee relationship indefinitely. I think that many long term monogamous relationships go through periods of that sort of absenteeism and that many simply check out after the first few years.

It's also possible to hold a monogamous d/s relationship together for at least a couple years based solely on romance, fantasy, and projection about who we think our partners are rather than who they really are. Poly doesn't prevent this, but it does make these sorts of fantasies significantly more difficult to maintain for any length of time unless everyone involved "drinks the kool-aid" and then what you end up with is something more akin to a cult than a family.

The trick to poly is exactly the same as the trick to SM. The skills in one directly transfer to the other. And yes, I'm making a clear distinction here between SM and d/s. While the two overlap, there are some significant distinctions and this is one of them. While it's possible to check out of an SM scene too, experienced players don't let that happen without some clear context. We call that dissociation and a dissociated partner is not, at the time, expressing consent. What happens when one person has dissociated fades from mutually consensual into the gray area between mutually consensual and abuse/assault/rape.

In d/s, it's easy to believe that the gray areas are the point and to live entire relationships in the gray - this is exactly what happens in most domestic abuse situations. However, it's much more difficult to live in the gray area when the gray area physically hurts as with SM. Frontier exploration in consensual SM requires active concentration and clear intention. If either of those falter, the experience changes rapidly from one of wonder and ecstacy into one of horror and simple pain, (not that the two can' be mutual exclusive :).

The "trick" to SM is to learn to talk with your partner clearly - to express needs and desires, boundaries and limits, and to do so while playing as well as before and after play. That same skill, the ability to ask for what you need, be it reassurance, information, hand holding, and to state and defend your own limits is precisely the skill that is necessary to maintain and navigate poly relationships. Both SM and poly relationships are also supported by strong communities and by adopting some of the community values. For instance, both SM and poly require periodic self examination - harsh self examination which requires learning to come to terms with truth about yourself that you might rather never see. Doing so is a spiritual act and an ongoing process which is vital and necessary to the ongoing practice of either of these. People who balk, who can't look at themselves or who look at themselves but can't accept what they find tend to break relationships and cause "drama" in the community. Sometimes that's ok, that's part of what the community support network exists to support. But at the same time, it's necessary for everyone involved to appreciate the goal of self development and the evolution of self awareness that allows for greater intimacy.

Tantra, too, has these characteristics. However, with western tantra it's possible to become stalled in the process without necessarily causing grief for anyone else. In both poly and SM, there are other people involved who will demand one's growth. Failing to participate in such growth will often lead to losing relationships and/or community which can be a heavy blow indeed. That's often a considerable motivator. In contrast, d/s virtually requires that some elements of self remain hidden in order for the romance of d/s to continue to have that magic that people crave an adore.

Poly has been easier for me for a number of reasons. First, as with many autistic people, I greatly favor direct communications. I don't necessarily recognize hints nor do other people generally recognize my hints when I use them. Tantra, SM, and poly are all greatly improved by this sort of communications and the communities around them teach this. Romance, however, and the strains of d/s which are predicated on romance are all greatly damaged by this sort of direct communication. While tantra/SM/poly all teach that romance qualifies as fantasy play and that direct communications is the only way to increase true intimacy, the magic of romance, and of d/s based on romance, is based on some things, some key things, being specifically and intentionally out of conscious awareness.

For me that's very hard. While I do enjoy romance and fantasy, I also need to be able to talk about them and talk about them directly. I don't necessarily know what people will need to keep hidden so it needs to be socially acceptable for me to ask questions about things people deny. I'm going to do it anyway because I don't know when it will or won't be socially acceptable so I may as well find a social environment that values the fact that I do so. Tantra, SM, poly, and many paths of self development all value this trait of mine so working in those worlds becomes easier for me.

Similarly, I don't learn social rules or social behavior the way most people do. Rather, I need to have them spelled out directly and explicitly. I have training in NLP and hypnosis, so I've learned how to ask some of the questions in ways that are extremely subtle sometimes, but I still need explicit directions in many cases or I won't understand what social behavior is expected.

In poly and in SM, and to some degree, in tantra, what matters more than social behavior is how we behave with our partners. No where else in my life has it been more blatantly obvious that different people want different things and that no single formula will make everyone happy than in these areas. Also, no two people are alike. While the patterns, feelings and behavior all repeat, they don't repeat in the same ways from one person to the next. It has been easy for me to learn to ask my partner for what they want as the way for me to learn my interpersonal cues. It's obvious to me that my partner is the most authoritative source of that info and I can generally ask for as much detail as I need. Contrast with, say, d/s where people tend to bring preconceived notions about their roles into a d/s relationship and if their partner doesn't match their expectation, would often prefer to find a partner who did match than discuss the situation to adjust. As many d/s players have told me during potential SM negotiations, "If I have to talk about it, then it won't really be d/s. It won't have that magic - that romance."

Well, sure. But at the same time, I also have no idea what that person might want. They're suggesting that I mind read or that we might just "get lucky" and randomly happen to want the same things. However, I'm extremely weird. I'm not normal. And I promise you that it's extremely rare that someone else and I want the same things, although we frequently want compatible or complementary things.

Poly works the same way for me. I can talk to my partner about what they want, what I want, how we feel, what we would need in some situations, what has meaning and therefor needs to be tread carefully for one of us or another, or what doesn't, and therefor needs little or no caution around it. In the monogamous world, people frequently become offended by those questions. It's like the question of prenuptial agreements - is it simply prudent? or does it presage an expectation of failure to the relationship? Everyone is simply supposed to "just know" what qualifies as monogamy and what violates it. But frankly, anything "everyone knows", I don't know. The word for that "not knowing" is autism but nonetheless, I don't know.

Can I go to a movie with a female friend? Or would that be violating my monogamy agreement? Can I kiss her? What about oral sex? (Cause "everyone knows" and our president said that oral sex isnt' real sex.) What if I'm bisexual? Can I go to a movie with a male friend? Can I kiss him? If all of these things violate a monogamous agreement, then does that mean I simply have to stay home with my monogamous partner forever? And if my partner interprets my even asking these questions as tantamount to breaking up, then does that mean I simply have to risk my entire relationship each time? Or that I have to stay home and never do anything with anyone else?

I never did figure these things out when I was practicing monogamy. And while I'm practicing poly, I don't have to because discussing them is expected and nearly required, which is much easier for me.

Also, relationships don't come easy to me. They're hard to find because finding them means being social which is something which is considerably challenging for me. My relationships mean a lot to me and I'll bend considerably in order to retain one.

When I was practicing monogamy, I didn't even realize how far I could bend or was bending. I didn't notice when a relationship became so restricting that it wasn't fun, enjoyable, or supportive any more. I was particularly susceptible to all of the traps people fall into - where emotionality, even negative emotionality can stand in for intimacy, where mutual fear stands in for security, where security stands in for excitement, where excitement stands in for intimacy, etc. I simply had a difficult time evaluating any of my relationships because a) I didn't have anyone other than my partner to talk to about them, and these aren't questions for one's partner in general and b) I had no context against which to compare.

These days, I examine my relationships more frequently - poly has a way of forcing that to happen periodically whether you're up for it or not. I do compare my relationships. If one has a problem and another does not, then I look to the one which does not have the problem in order to find solutions. If several relationships all have a similar problem, that's a pretty good clue to me that there's something about myself I need to either come to terms with or change. Similarly if one of my partners has a similar problem in several of their relationships. Also, I have other relationship partners to talk to. If I'm having trouble in one relationship, who better to talk to about it aside from that partner than my other intimate partners - my friends, my lovers, the people who care about me and who are, albeit indirectly, affected by how that relationship is running?

In summary, poly isn't emotionally easier. It's hard. There's emotional and spiritual work involved. Like SM and tantra, you can't really be successful at it if you aren't willing to do that work. Although it works in reverse too - if you're willing to do that work, poly, tantra, and SM will help you locate the work to be done and will help you process it as well. IME, monogamy and d/s don't require that work. It's available to some degree if you and your partner both want to pursue it, but it's also anathema to the romance to a large degree.

I had no trouble sticking with one sexual partner when I was practicing monogamy. I never cheated. (Extreme honesty and integrity is another autistic trait). However, where I am now in my life, which includes interests in sex magic, SM, d/s, tantra, relationships, intimacy, ecstasy, shamanism, movies, computer games, entheogens, etc, I find it extremely difficult to find any single partner who is interested in all of those things as would be required by a commitment to monogamy. Poly simply makes more sense to me for my life at the moment and for the foreseeable future. It simply works for me and creates both more intimacy and more concrete spiritual paths through self development than monogamy ever did.

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New Tantra Social Network Provides Community, Connections and 40 World-Class Instructors

Bill — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 18:52:21 GMT

http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=993577

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Mind Yoga Training

Ösel — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 23:04:31 GMT

Auspicious greetings, I'm Ösel Dorje, a yogi of the Drikung Kagyu lineage. Myself and Lama Drubpon Rinpoche have opened a Mind Yoga class to everyone. There are no empowerments or refuge required. This is a very profound level of Yoga in the tantric tradition. It is advanced. This level of Mind Yoga has never been offered before openly.

I have 30 years of experience in Indian Kundalini Yoga and Advaita Vedanta. My grandfather is a 102 year old Yogi from Varanasi and he started my training when I was just five years old. I began learning from Lama Drubpon Rinpoche December 2008. He felt my experience was high level and asked me to teach.

If there are seekers who have some experience with Kundalini Yoga and Tantra, want to progress to enlightenment in this life, and are eager to practice at a high level, then please email me at osel@yogatantra.org. Tell me about yourself and when I receive enough interest, I'll see about scheduling a time to meet.

We are really excited about this opportunity to practice the highest level of Mind Yoga. With the right group, we could make really fast progress. The process of training will provide a powerful energy to your life that will benefit yourself and others.

I am also available to meet privately for intensive training.

www.yogatantra.org

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What is the best way to learn tantra?

none — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 02:23:14 GMT

What is the best way to learn tantra?
Is there a correct way and an incorrect way?

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RESOLVE EMOTIONAL CONTRETEMPS FROM LOVE-INS by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

Fri, 26 Dec 2008 17:33:39 GMT

RESOLVE EMOTIONAL CONTRETEMPS FROM LOVE-INS by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

I’m reading an advanced copy of “Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet”, by Serena Anderlini, who was one of our keynoters at the 2007 World Polyamory Association Harbin Polyamory Conference. I’m in awe.

Serena’s new book’s is a polemic that can shake the world into loving survival, and I’ll have lots more to say about it in future posts. Right now, I abridge a couple of paragraphs to give you a feel for this stirring manifesto:

“Bi and poly ogies are emotionally connecting orgies: orgies of oxytocin where a symbiotic energy prevails; where the spasm of turgidity dissolves in ecstatic duration....The combined practice of bi and poly love empowers individual players to consciously navigate its flow and become consensually immersed in the movement of the symbiotic energy generated by our aural, astral and physical bodies at play.

“When both bi and poly paradigms function together in the orgy flow, No one has control over what develops, yet all trust that it will not destroy what is already in place; no one presumes exclusivity, yet all are aware of possible temporary exclusions ensuing from developing bonds and relationships....Emotions become manifest as sexual and erotic play.

“The correspondence between the emotional and erotic realms enables players to maximize the love energy they share.... and enable the creation of networks of emotional sustainability that result in symbiotic plateaus of enhanced awareness. These plateaus involve crises that manifest at certain points in the network whose collective management can productively turn them into opportunities for deeper levels of symbiosis [and] move the entire network on a higher level of awareness that enables more focused and productive experiments in the management of shared emotional resources ...The network unctions like a sustainable ecosystem for all these interpersonal energies. It creates sustainablity, balance and of resources for all involved.”

The success of poly orgies–we call them love-ins–as growth machines depends upon successful management of the emotions evoked in the flow of the sexualloving. What we in the Lessin Pod use as our management paradigm after our love-ins is a gestalt/centering encounter the next morning. Each participant takes a turn expressing unfinished emotional business, appreciations, learning from the love-in.

Any unfinished encounters are completed using Voice Dialogue bonding resolution below.

I tell each person with unresolved emotions from the love-in to take a turn and tell them:

Let where you’re sitting be the position for your Center, where you hear all your inner voices.

Recall, then tell me when you felt pain, fear, insecurity as we related to [I name the other person involved in the unresolved emotional situation].

Say how you and s/he interacted in parent/child ways.

What bothered you about how s/he acted in relation to you?

Move to a cushion from which you'll roleplay him/her. Pretend you're him/her.; roleplay him/her.. Exaggerate what s/he said or did. Say what you, as him/her, fear, think and suspect.

Now move to a cushion where you'll be yourself in relation to him/her.

Respond to me as yourself again and say more than you already said to him/her; say how you feel toward him/her. Express your feelings, irrational thoughts and impulses; exaggerate your feelings; express more.

Now return to your original cushion, the Center.

[When the person moves, say,] Say what vulnerabilities--feelings of insecurity, fear, hurt--you and s/he activate in each other.

How does he/she represent a disowned voice for you?

Describe your relation with him/her in parent-child terms. Expand what you said before about how you and s/he shift between enacting parent and child roles vis-a-vis each other.

In what ways does the pattern you've described with him/her re-create part of the pattern you had with the people who raised you or a brother or sister?

Stand behind me now, facing the seat in which you enacted voice within you that you projected on him/her. Maintain neutrality; observe objectively. As I review the main things you said in the disowned voice, sense its energy ### [I Summarize what person said.]

Now return from standing in the Witness position to the seat for your Center.

How can you, Center, nourish your vulnerable, Inner Child without stifling your other voices?

How can you integrate the disowned voices the other person represented into your life?

PLEASE SHARE ON THIS SITE HOW DO YOU CONDUCT YOUR SEXUALLOVING SESSIONS & WHAT DO YOU DO TO RESOLVE EMOTIONALLY UNFINISHED ISSUES THAT CAME UP DURING YOUR LOVING

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Winter Solstice and Yule Celebration (Dec 20, 2008)

Trinity — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 23:50:20 GMT

Come to Temple Synergy and immerse in the light on the darkest day of the year.

There will be pagan cermonies, surprise performances, organic treats, massage, hot tubs, and more!

If and when you are wearing clothes, please make sure if you are a woman they are all white and gentleman dressed in all black!

Suggested donation $25-35

YOU MUST REGISTER IN ADVANCE TO COME TO THIS EVENT. To register Please go to www.templesynergy.com and sign up in the event section.

Also, Please join our Soical Network "A tantric meeting place"... http://templesynergy.ning.com

Namaste!

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SACRED MATRIX by Deiter Duhm, founder, Poly Zegg Communities

Mon, 10 Nov 2008 19:01:31 GMT

SACRED MATRIX by Deiter Duhm, founder, Poly Zegg Communities
in Germany & Portugal, followed by a confluent exercise by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

Duhm quote was forwarded by Kelly Bryson. Kelly presents
experientials based on Duhm's work in his Sacred Matrix workshops.

"The unity of the organism is achieved by the individuality and
difference of the organs. In other words, it is only WHEN THE FULL
INDIVIDUALITY OF THE MEMBERS IS DEVELOPED that a HEALTHY COMMUNITY
CAN EMERGE.

"Community and individual are not opposites; they are prerequisites
for each other. The PREREQUISITE FOR A UNIVERSAL COMMUNITY IS AN
AUTONOMOUS INDIVIDUAL, AND THE PREREQUISITE FOR AN AUTONOMOUS
INDIVIDUAL IS A COMMUNITY. That is the natural order in the building
plan of Creation.

"The structure of future survival-adaptive communities is always
connected to the self-development of the individuals involved. The
more they develop their individuality and the less they let
themselves be ruled by preconceived dogmas and false authorities, the
easier it is for them to recognize their chances of development in
the community.

"At some point a deep process of INDIVIDUATION LEADS ALL HUMAN BEINGS
TO NOT SEE THEMSELVES AS private persons, but as ORGANIC ELEMENTS OF
A HUMAN COMMUNITY. For IT IS THROUGH INDIVIDUATION THAT HUMAN BEINGS
EXPERIENCE NOT ONLY WHAT SEPARATES THEM FROM OTHERS, BUT ALSO WHAT
CONNECTS THEM AT A MUCH DEEPER LEVEL. They dare to rediscover and
accept this.

"Without individuation a healthy organism cannot develop. Instead we
get conforming collectivism in which individual differences are not
promoted but instead suppressed. Collectivistic systems do not
tolerate individual autonomy. Instead, both toward the inside and the
outside, they fight everything that does not fit into their ideology.

"THE SACRED MATRIX IS THE ORIGINAL, TRANS-HISTORICAL, NON-ALIENATED,
COSMIC, AND DIVINE MATRIX OF UNIVERSAL LIFE. According to the plan of
Creation for the human being, we are to realize it on earth. It is
not a dream, but a deep, deep memory that wells up inside of us when
we touch the Sacred, and THIS MEMORY KEEPS RE-CREATING OUR YEARNING.
For the sake of truth we cannot but find and follow the content of
this yearning in its entirety, for the yearning that is recognized
and not suppressed or sentimentalized is the signpost that leads us
to our sacred home.

"There can be no peace on earth, as long as there is war in love. The
five thousand year history of the patriarchal era is a history of a
war between the sexes, and the war has not ended yet. The five
thousand year long battle against the female world is the most cruel
chapter in human history to date. We will not be able to develop
fundamental peace concepts for the earth and human beings, until we
understand this fight and its insane results in society and within
ourselves. It is a primary task for all future projects to activate
all energy to LIBERATE THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE SEXES, AND ALL
LOVERS, FROM THE TABOOS, PREJUDICES AND CRUELTIES OF A MAD ERA.

"A new non-violent and loving culture is rooted substantially in a
new loving and non-violent relationship between the sexes. This is a
point we cannot neglect in the new concepts for ecology, spirituality
and healing, if we want to achieve realistic solutions. THERE CAN BE
NO HEALTHY ECOLOGY WITHOUT HEALTHY AND FULFILLED SEXUALITY. We all
came into being through a sexual connection between man and woman.
Sexuality is the biological source of our life, it is truly "issue
#1, since we all exist in the body. A disruption of sexuality is a
disruption of the entire organism. Almost all illnesses in Western
society are at least partly caused by a disruption of the sexual
energy balance, and most emotional and psychosomatic illnesses of our
times are rooted in unresolved problems in the area of love between
the sexes. Many more people die each year from unresolved love
conflicts than from car accidents, and these, too, often have the
same background. AS LONG AS THE SEXES DO NOT FIND FULFILLMENT IN
LOVE, THEY MUST COMPENSATE THIS LACK THROUGH ENTERTAINMENT,
CONSUMERISM, STATUS, POWER, ADDICTIONS, AND WAR. THESE ARE THE
FOUNDATIONS OF OUR CURRENT CAPITALIST WORLD SOCIETY.

"Some prerequisites for a future free of violence is that the war
between the sexes be put to an end, that MAN BE LIBERATED FROM HIS
SECRET SEXUAL ANXIETIES AND FEELINGS OF INADEQUACY, THAT WOMAN BE
RECONNECTED WITH HER ORIGINAL POWER SOURCES AND HER CENTRAL TASKS IN
THE HUMAN COMMUNITY, AND FINALLY THAT BOTH BE LIBERATED FROM THEIR
DELUSION THAT JEALOUSY IS PART OF LOVE.

"Man and woman are the two polar halves of the one human being. They
must now come together in such a way that they "fit", so that they
might find the permanent fulfillment that is an inherent part of the
emotional and bodily love between the sexes. Here, we can no longer
avoid confronting certain carefully thought-out concepts about free
will in love relationships. Love and sexuality are universal powers
of life; in a universal society of peace they can no longer be
forcibly bound to one single person, nor can they be surrounded by
private fences.

"IN A UNIVERSAL CULTURE OF PEACE, FREE LOVE AND COMMITTED
PARTNERSHIPS do no exclude each other. Instead THEY ARE MUTUALLY
DEPENDENT AND COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER. The old patterns of
sexual "faithfulness" and jealousy are based on distrust between the
sexes.

"The deepest freedom, which lies at THE HEART OF ALL FREEDOM, IS THE
FREEDOM OF LOVE BETWEEN THE SEXES. This is the source of a new ethic
and a new order, in which human beings no longer need to deny their
own selves and hide from others. This freedom leads to a genuine,
powerful, and nonviolent joy of life. (Whether the choice is monogamy
or not) This is of central importance in the concrete utopia that we
now must bring to life. Communities of the future and projects for a
new way of life can only function in the long term if their members
know and understand the principle of freedom, if they know that it is
not in opposition to an ethic of faithfulness and responsibility, and
if they know that one is allowed to follow it. In order for this new
force to develop, we need an encompassing environment of freedom and
community. All forms of ideology or group pressure are
counterproductive when it comes to such deep changes in our core
areas. This is true for our erotic as well as for our mental and
spiritual sources."

INNER MALE & FEMALE MEDIATED BY YOUR CENTER by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.
Based on Stone, H. & Winkelman, S., Embracing Our Selves, and
Embracing Each Other both 1989, New World Library: San Rafael).

Do this experiential with a partner

INSTRUCTIONS FOR GUIDING PARTNER. Read your partner the
cues in bold print aloud. Exception: read words in square brackets
[like this] silently. Give your partner a few breaths' time to
respond aloud where you see asterisks (***). If your partner doesn't
respond to a cue-sentence, pause several breaths and read the cue
again.

Address your partner's inner voices respectfully,
appreciatively; do not push his or her limits. Use these cues as
suggestions; feel free to improvise. Start now, reading aloud:

Sit on this cushion; it'll be the position for your Center
(Aware Ego), the place from which you hear all your inner voices.

Tell me about the way you present your masculine or feminine
voice–whichever is primary to you, to the world. What's this voice
like and what does it do for you. ***

Shift your cushion to a new position, a position for that
Primary, that main voice. [Wait till your partner actually moves;
use the name (eg: Mr. Yang, Ms Aphrodite, etc.) your partner uses for
the Primary, where you see the word "Primary" below].

Hi. Embody that Primary voice and tell me who you are and
what your job is. ***

When did your life start? How long have you been around?
What's your history as [partner name]'s Primary? ***

Tell me, Primary, what vulnerable voices you protect? ***

What contributions have you, as [partner name]'s
Primary, made to [partner name]? What would you like to be
acknowledged and appreciated for? ***

Thank you, I liked talking with you. Would you let
[partner name] return to the Aware Ego position? ***

[Wait till your partner moves] Hi, Aware Ego. Tell your
observations on the voice you just embodied. ***

Tell me about the other voice in the inner male
(animus)/inner female(anima) within you. ***

Move your cushion to a position for that voice. [Wait till
your partner moves] Become this second voice, Voice 2. As Voice 2,
say how you are, what you do for [partner's name] and what
you'd like to be appreciated for. ***

Thank you, I liked talking with you. Would you let
[partner name] return to the Aware Ego position? ***

[When your partner has spoken as each of the voices (or
described vulnerable voices from the Aware Ego position) for which
you have time, say] Stand behind me, facing the spaces you occupied
for your voices as I summarize the things you said as each. Feel
each voice's energy from the perspective of neutral observer.
[Summarize what your partner said in each space.]

Return to the Aware Ego place and tell me what you learned.
***

How can you–in both your inner life and relations with other
people-- better recognize, accept, coordinate and synthesize your
inner male and inner female? ***

Please share on this website your reactions to Duhm's article andwhat
you experienced in the Dr. Lessin's confluent experiential of inner
man/inner woman.

www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com

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WAND WORK FOR EMOTIONAL DEPTH, EJACULATORY CONTROL by Sasha Lessin,

Sat, 08 Nov 2008 16:32:20 GMT

WAND WORK FOR EMOTIONAL DEPTH, EJACULATORY CONTROL by Sasha Lessin,
Ph.D.

Sasha: Janet received this email from a female correspondent and
referred it to me for comment. I intercalate some comments, then add
some text
from our training manual.

Wand work and base blessing, outlined in the article following the
correspondent's query, is designed to elicit and reprogram any self-
limiting programs or blocks to pleasure and emotional intimacy.

THE EMAIL
Correspondent: I had questions or issues regarding the Lingam massage
which I have been attempting on a partner recently and hoping to
improve upon.
So I'm not sure if I should be directing this email to Sasha to get a
male's
perspective? But any help, advice, or feedback is appreciated.

According to a brief text I have read online, when giving a lingam
massage, that we should actually 'back off' from ejaculating since it
is NOT the goal of the lingam masssage. However, I suppose since we
are fairly new and inexperience, and also perhaps he is not relaxed
enough, our massages usually do result in ejaculation. The text has
no mention of oral pleasure during the lingam massage process but was
wondering if its something that is or can be normally part of a
massage? Or something that can be incorporated?

[Sasha: We highly recommend oral honoring as part of the sequence,
see below]

Correspondent continues: Either I'm still learning how to give a more
effective massage or maybe my partner is still learning better
control (or both) but I have noticed that i am
more inclined to provide oral during our massage sessions (which might
be incorrect for a "true" lingam massage). OR, by providing oral,
does it no longer qualify as a massage? Admittedly, before we giving
a honest attempt at a lingam massage, I normally would just give 'blow
jobs' and that pretty much served as our "massage". And based on the
text, I always feel like I have not done a proper job with the massage
and with the site of ejaculation triggers a reaction to immediately to
provide oral and ultimately swallow any of the semen (which im not
positive is or is not a part of tantra).

[Sasha: Swallowing honors your lover; male ejaculate contains about 2
calories]

Correspondent: So I'm not sure if any of this made any sense as I
probably started rambling a little bit, and asked a bunch of
questions, but just
basically wanted to know about incorporating oral/fellatio to a
lingam massage
if at all possible. We have so far finding it difficult to withhold
ejaculation
during the lingam massage which I've read is something that we should
have
better control of and if you have any advice on improved control,
that would be
appreciated.

[Sasha: I provide very detailed, 100% effective means of ejaculatory
control below; your lover may need to be shown how to achieve
complete control or he may be able to achieve it by following the
instructions I provide below.]

Correspondent: OR should we NOT try to withhold ejaculation during
the lingam massage? I'm not positive if the text is just one
interpretation of
the lingam massage, but I know with your experience and background,
you might
provide a better answer and shed some light on giving a more
effective lingam
massage.

GRATIFY A GUY by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. schooloftantra@aol.com

Give all-chakra satisfaction to a man; you're Giver.
Gratify a Guy, the set of experiences below, gives the man the
support and emotional access he needs for integrated sexual and
spiritual connection in lovemaking.

Giver, reserve four hours with your Receiver in a lovely,
peaceful, private sanctuary. Arrange music, flowers, incense, food,
your costume and your body to delight him. Then do the
exercise, "Put Him in the Mudra".

PUT HIM IN THE MUDRA
Lie on your sides; face each other.

Put your right hands on each other's hearts

Put your left hands on one another's perineums. Chant "Lam"
three times; tighten your rosebud sphincter after each. Send energy
from your base chakra to his and say, together, "I wish you health,
safety and security".

Move your left hands to each others' genitals, send each
other sexual energy and chant " Vam" three times and squeeze your PC
muscles. Send each other sexual energy with each "Vam". Say, with
each other, "I wish you sensual delight and sexual satisfaction."

Raise left hands to each others' bellies. Chant "Ram" three
times and, with each "Ram," send empowerment rays through your hands
into each others' bellies. Say, to one another, "May you take
what's yours in life."

Put your left hands on each others' right hands, at each
others' hearts. Send love and chant "Yam" together three times.
Say, "I love you; I receive your love."

Lift left hands to the back of each other's throats.
Chant "Ham" three times together and feel the throats vibrate. Hear
(in your mind's ear) words you'd say, songs you'd sing each other.
Make a sound together. Say, "Tell your truth."

Put your foreheads together, look in each other's eyes, place
left hands each others' heads. Chant "Ooo" three times and
experience psychic contact. See your other lives together.
Say, "You know."

Put your left hands on each others' crowns and chant "Mmm"
three times. Picture radiant energy flashes between your crowns.
Fantasize that you meld into a single spiritual being with two
complementary parts–not just a dyad, but a two-part spirit, a
synergad. Say, "We are one."

LOOK AT LESSONS HE LEARNED WITH HIS LOVERS

Lie on your back. Relax. [Give him time] Put my left hand
on your heart, my right on your lingum (penis) and jewels (testicles)
and put your hands atop mine. Close your eyes. [Take three deep
breaths, imagine sending energy into his heart through your right
hand, receiving it through your left.] Ok, let's gently release our
hands; lower them.

Feel your genitals--your sexual chakra; notice your heart,
your love chakra.

Reconsider your lovers from days gone. Tell me their names,
I'll write them. ***
Lover 1 [Write it]
Lover 2
Lover 3
Lover 4
Etc.

For each lover on this list,
a) Tell me the YEARS you were involved and how old you were,
*** [Write them next to the name indicated]

b) Say WHERE you were when you related to her, the key
EVENTS in your relationship *** [Take notes next to the name
indicated]

c) Tell me your EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL SHARING with each. ***

d) Tell the DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS YOU COMPLETED with each.

e) Summarize the events, sexual and emotional sharing and
the developmental tasks we've experienced together. ***

f ) Imagine [Lover 1: Say her or his name] is
before you. Toward her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you
could have shared with her or him. ***

g) Express to her or him any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you
didn't get to say.***

h) Tell her or him your RESENTMENTS ***

i) As you imagine her or him before you, tell her or him
your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from her or him ***

j) Say, to her or him, your APPRECIATIONS ***

k) Tell her or him what you REGRET. Tell her what you
FORGIVE her or him for ***

l) Tell [Lover 1: Say her or his name] WHAT YOU
LEARNED from being together. ***

m) FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better. ***

n) Bid her or him FAREWELL. ***

o) How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in
the relationship with [Lover 1: Say her or his name]?
***

p) How can you apply that improvement to your relationship
with me? ***

Imagine [Lover 2: Say her or his name] is before
you. Toward her or him, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you
could have shared with her or him. ***

Express toward [Lover 2] any WITHHELD FEELINGS,
things you didn't get to say fully ***

Tell her or him your RESENTMENTS ***

As you imagine her or him before you, tell her or him your
DEMANDS, what you really wanted from her or him***

Say, to her or him, your APPRECIATIONS ***

Tell her what you REGRET. Tell her what you FORGIVE her or
him for ***

Tell [Lover 2: Say her or his name] WHAT YOU
LEARNED from being together. ***

FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better. ***

Bid her or him FAREWELL. ***

How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the
relationship with [Lover 2: Say her or his name]? ***

How can you apply that improvement to your relationship with
me/a lover [select appropriate object]? ***

WORK HIS WAND

The man lies on his back. The Giver rests a hand on his
heart and dedicating the focus on him to his healing and the healing
of all men. Then let him set his intention in receiving your love.

Massage him all over except his genitals and base anal chakra.

Treat the Receiver to the following HAND STROKES [suggested
by Charles Muir, Lingam Strokes, Source Tantra, 1997] about five
minutes each. Encourage him to make sounds, give verbal feedback and
pulse his anal sphincter whenever he feels uncomfortable.

Press along his wand with your hand or thumb and
index finger.
Scratch wand lightly.

Pat and slap it lightly.

Throw it from one of his thighs to the other and from
one of your hands to the other.

Point the tip of his penis toward his navel, hold the
base in one hand and, with the heel of your other hand, press penis
from tip to base, them from base to tip.

Slide your hands and pull the wand; vary strokes from
hard to feather-like.

Lubricate your hands. Hold the base of his wand with
one hand and twist the other around the wand in a corkscrew motion.
Alternate hands.

Point his wand toward his navel and alternate
pressing the tip with your thumbs.

Trace circles on the tip and each part of the shaft.

Point the penis toward his feet and caress it from
tip to base.

Roll the wand between your hands.

Tickle and scratch his scrotum.

Lightly hold each testicle separately.

ADD ORAL STIMULATION to his lingam. Salivate generously on
the tip and if he is uncircumsized, gently work back his foreskin.
Lick and kiss every part of his lingam and jewel sack as you
simultaneously stoke his lingum and massage his perineum with your
fingers. Gently stroke, lick, then put your mouth over his jewels.

As you run your lips down the shaft, trace the penile tissue
through his scrotum and along his perineum. Twirl your tongue around
the crown of his penis the way you would like him, if you are a
female Giver, to twirl his tongue around your clitoris through the
clitoral hood. Look up into his eyes as you lick the underside of
his wand, let him see your love for him in your eyes.

Let your tongue move in opposite directions from a corkscrew motion
you
make on his wand with your hands.

Receiver should exercise ejaculatory control. To avoid
squirting before ready, Receiver identifies sensations the moment
before ejaculatory inevitability–sensations just before seminal
vesicles and prostrate empty. If Receiver does ejaculate, swallow
his ejaculate and thank him. You'll at a later time resume your
attentions to his lingam until he learns ejaculatory control.

EJACULATORY CONTROL METHOD: After inhale, Receiver moves his
chin back toward his throat, keeping his neck straight and long. Then
he exhales. While empty of air, Receiver pulls belly in and up toward
his throat). He tightens his anal sphincter and pubococcygeal muscles–
pretends he's stopping urination or preventing vacating bowels. He
imagines pulling energy up from his rosebud and genitals, up through
his spine, out the top of his head and into the Giver's crown
(instead of out Receiver's wand as ejaculate). When he inhales, he
imagines he's pulling energy into his genitals from the Giver.

Avoid last-second ejaculatory blocking techniques such as
squeezing the head of the penis or pushing the external perineum from
outside the body through the intervening tissue into the ejaculatory
duct, thus blocking it. Such mechanical interference with fluid
being pushed out yet prevented from exit may damage the urethra.

BLESS HIS BASE
Breathe together. Adore the Receiver with your eyes, while
you hold his wand. Caress Receiver's wand, jewel sack, jewels and
perineum with your fingers, hands, breasts, lips, tongue, genitals
and other part's he might find pleasurable or interesting. Touch,
hold, then massage each inch of Receiver's perineum and rosebud (the
entrance to his cave).

Receiver says what he feels, remembers and imagines as Giver
holds Receiver's wand in one hand and, with the ring finger of the
other hand, traces the door to Receiver's cave. If the Receiver
tenses but wants to continue, Giver tells him to control the pace,
pressure and depth of digital penetration by pressing his cave onto
the Giver's finger.

When the Giver's finger first enters the Receiver's rosebud,
Giver and Receiver remain motionless for a few minutes. Maintain eye
contact and breathe together. Encourage the Receiver to emote,
giggle and make sounds. Make sounds with the Receiver. Giver sends
love to the Receiver though the finger in the Receiver's cave and
through the hand or mouth on the Receiver's wand.

Then Giver begins a gentle, "come-here" motion with the ring
finger. Giver fondles the front inner wall of Receiver's cave,
pulling gently from the pubic bone toward the jewels. Giver moves
her or his finger like a windshield wiper over the front wall of
Receiver's cave. Giver traces circles and figure-eights on the wall
of Receiver's anal cave. Giver alternates speed, depth and pressure
of stroke. See, in Receiver's eyes, the effects of touches. Giver
says, "Tell me if any place I touch inside you feels pleasurable,
hurts, burns or feels numb." Remember the spots Receiver finds
pleasurable.

If Receiver notices a painful, numb or burning spot, ask him
to close his eyes and notice his fantasies, memories and
associations. Encourage him to express his emotions as he shares.
Ask him how he'd re-do the scenes he associates with his pain.

(When Caroline, my Giver, massaged my cave three months after
Joan, my wife of twenty years abruptly left me for a younger man, I
released all the tears I'd held in.)

Giver says, "If you'd lived the way you preferred, how would
your life have been different? How would you be now?"

Then, Giver, move your finger back and forth from the spot
that had the painful association for Receiver to a spot the that had
a pleasurable association for the Receiver until Receiver reports
both spots feel good. Tell him to remember, in situations that
resonate his painful imprints, that he can live from his re-done
scene (with its growth pattern)-- rather than from the self-limiting
program associated with the story he recalled. He has, remind him,
choice.

Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., www.schooloftantra.com

Dr. Sasha and Janet Kira Lessin teach tantra techniques in their
weeklong training programs on Maui, privately at other venues and
give phone consultations as well. Call 808 244-4103 or write
schooloftantra@aol.com for more info.

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pressure near temples

IronDoug — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 01:05:47 GMT

hi there:

I was wondering if people experience pressure near the temples, whether from tantra yoga or yoga. I did tantra yoga several years back and still do it some and although have benefited from it, I have experienced headaches. I just started yoga several months ago and enjoy it and yet now I feel pressure near my temples.

I wonder if I am not preparing my body enough.

It feels like energy is being blocked and is not flowing properly. I don't feel it when I exercise or do yoga. It is more when reading and thinking, stressed, etc. I wonder if it is my body's way of saying don't think too much. The old way of doing things isn't working anymore.

Any tips would be helpful.

Namaste.

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11/8 - Introduction to Skydancing Tantra - Santa Clara, CA

teamnoir — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 03:36:26 GMT

Introduction to Skydancing Tantra
with Chris English
Saturday, Nov 8, 2008 at Edges in Santa Clara, CA

Ever Wondered About Tantra?

Ever wondered about Tantra? Interested in improving your communications skills? In learning to build further intimacy and trust? Especially around the intersection of sexuality and spirituality? Curious about creating sacred space? Or about developing your connection with a partner?

Come find out how to use your body, your breath and your truth as tools to open a pathway for your sensations, expanding your consciousness and connection to others, moving from fear to trust and from desire into bliss.

Skydancing Tantra Teacher in Training

I'm currently studying with Margot Anand toward a certification to teach Skydancing Tantra. This is a several years long course of study involving a number of one week workshops and some weekend workshops. As part of my coursework, I've been assigned to teach quite a few one and two day workshops specifically on Skydancing Tantra. Other than the fact that I'm teaching these and many of them are being held in local BDSM play spaces, these classes are not specifically BDSM related. Anyone who is interested is welcome.

Skydancing Tantra

The vast body of knowledge and practices developed by Margot Anand is called SkyDancing Tantra: The Path to Bliss. Margot, along with her certified SkyDancing teachers, have taught SkyDancing Tantra to tens of thousands of people worldwide, through nine international SkyDancing institutes.

The path of SkyDancing Tantra came to Margot as a revelation rather than a tradition. Yet the path of the SkyDancer goes back to ancient Tibet, when Yeshe Tsogyal, the enlightened consort of Buddha Padmasambhava, was called the "Great Skydancer." Together they developed Tantric Buddhism. "Skydancers" in the Buddhist tradition were people of great passion who were profoundly devoted to spiritual awakening. The path of the SkyDancer is a path of spiritual partnership between men and women as equal spiritual partners integrating ecstatic states into their daily lives.

For more about Skydancing Tantra including further classes:

* Margot Anand - http://www.margotanand.com
* USA Skydancing Tantra Institute - http://www.skydancingtantra.org
* Steve & Lokita Carter - http://ecstaticliving.com
* Michael Pooley - http://ecstaticloving.net

Tell me more!

The next workshop will be held in Santa Clara, California at Edges, (http://edges.biz), from 10am to 6pm with a one hour break for lunch. There are several reasonable lunch alternatives nearby.

Class is $150 per couple and preregistration is required.

Couples may be of any gender and any orientation. If you are single and interested I encourage you to invite a friend and register as a couple. Exercises will be somewhat intimate although fully clothed so be sure to pick a friend with whom you are comfortable being intimate.

Sign us up!

You'll find a paypal registration button at the bottom of this page: http://teamnoir.name/Skydancing.html

If you have any questions, please feel free to email me: ice@noir.com

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POLYAMORY CONFERENCE, Harbin CA Sept 11-14 PROGRAM Sept 11-14

Fri, 29 Aug 2008 21:16:39 GMT

POLYAMORY CONFERENCE, Harbin CA Sept 11-14 PROGRAM Sept 11-14
Celebrate Sacred Sexuality & Relationship Choice

Harbin Hot Springs Conference Center Middletown CA (2 hours North of
San Francisco)

www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com, worldpolyamory@aol.com

We invite you to the most informative, fun, transformative,
celebrative Annual Poly Conference, a community where we live loving
more and more loviing. You get 6 meals of your choice and can camp,
stay in Group Room or your RV for $370 per person (till Sept 10; $400
at door). All Harbin's clothes optional. Polys and poly-friendlies
attending have their own private sex-positive area, angel counselors
and the best faciltators.

Hope to see you there.

Here's our presentations:

Sept. 11 PRE-CONFERENCE, with Veronica Monet, Dr. Sasha & Janet Kira
Lessin for pairs only ($300 per pair)

CONFERENCE September 12-14
Icebreakers & Pods for Intimate Community - Sasha and Janet
Kira Lessin

How We Do Poly - Janet Kira Lessin, Panel & Participants

The Sacred Intimate: Agent of Love and Light - Sunyata Satchitananda
and Kali Devi

Poly Music - Taber Shadburne

A Filmmaker's Perspective on Polyamory - Moses Ma

Poly-Tantra Compersion Puja - Dr. Sasha & Janet Kira Lessin

Naked Yoga - Carolina Fleishman & Amber Seitz

What Would You Be: Interactive Role-Playing as a Guide for Self-Discovery - Paul Plamondon

Polyamorous HypnoFantay?HypnoMassage - Terry Gibbons

Loving Beyond The Dyad - Dr. Harold Haridas Kornylak

The Myth of Having a Separate Relationship - Kirsten Rose

Tantra Polyamorously: See the Beloved in Everyone, Dance to Unveil
the Goddess Within - Gabriella Shannon

Triads - Dr. Danielle Harel, Ph.D & Celeste Hirschman, M.A.

Ritually Evoking Female Ejaculation in a Poly Pod Ceremony Dr. Sasha
& Janet Kira Lessin

Tansu with Those We Hold Close - Amber Seitz

The Polyamory Movement in the U.S. Past, Present & Future - Gary Shubach, Ph.D.

God & Goddess Party: A Tantric/Erotic Celebration for Polys - Christophe Ceri

Soulful Communication: The Tantra of Telling the Truth - Taber Shadburne

The Heart of Now - Keith Brown & Shaun Shields

Rapid Techniques for Jealousy Management - Dave Doleshal, Ph.D.

Sex, Intimacy & Polyamory in Chronic Illness, Disability & Aging
David Spero & Aisha Kassahoun

Tantric Experience for Polys - Carolina Fleishman

Moving Through Fear to Love - Sonda Beal

Transformational (& Fun) Erotic Events: How to Make Them
Successful...& Ecstatic! - Christophe Ceri

The Temple of Orgasm - Paul Glassco

Link to register:
http://www.schooloftantra.net/worldpolyamoryassociation/forms/Harbin20
08/2008_harbin_conference_registration_form.html

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THE POLY TANTRIC LOVESTYLE by Janet Kira Lessin www.worldpolyamoryassociation@aol.com

Tue, 19 Aug 2008 16:42:26 GMT

THE POLY TANTRIC LOVESTYLE by Janet Kira Lessin www.worldpolyamoryassociation@aol.com
Consider a tantric poly (= polyamorous--loving two or more) lifestyle where you share tantra–sacred sex. A polytantric lifestyle. We’ve considered it and we live it. We advocate it as an option for all.

We’ve explored on our own and heard thousands of poly-loving and tantric people. We’ve shared experiences and led scores of alternate relationship and sacred sex conferences and seminars. In our seminars, we’ve used humanistic and transpersonal psychology as well as tantric meditation to explore multi-lover relating to aid our spiritual synergy.

Many couples today explore polyamory and swinging. Ever-increasing droves of people flock to conferences, new clubs, websites, private "lifestyle" and "playcouple" activities all over the world.

Most paired-up people who swing or love in a polyamorous triad or moresome enhance their erotic and romantic connection with each other. Some couples, however, seek the lifestyle for the wrong reason–to fix their dysfunctional relationships. In such couples, rather than improve their sour relating, polyamory or swapping may trigger breakups. But most pairs who sample polyamory or the lifestyle deepen their love and intimacy with each other when they love others.
Genetic tests show most humans’ actual behavior is not sexually exclusive with monogamous mates. Our sexual behavior resembles that of our genetically closest primate, the chimp-like Bonobos. Like Bonobos, we couple with multiple partners, though unlike Bonobos, who openly copulate in front of their sexual partners, humans more often hide their non-monogamous coupling from sight and knowledge of their mates. Such hiding reduces the intimacy of relating between the cheater and his or her mate.
Most humans are actually covertly polysexual (more than one sexual partner), while only some, albeit a swelling number, are overtly polyamorous (one than one love in their life).
Most of us keep loving lovers even after we or they end our sexual connection. I love everyone I’ve ever loved and most people who come to me for therapy continue loving those they've loved in their lives.
Our hearts open and we love those we make love with, especially if we regularly enjoy sex with them. We fall in love with people with whom we share sex. We humans--male or female--develop affection, warmth, desire to enjoy one another time and again when we make love over and over with each other. We naturally bond. We love.
Society’s realizing the falseness of old beliefs, beliefs like the belief that most of us are faithfully monogamous or the belief that you can have sex without becoming fond of your lovers. Instead, as the growing polyamorous and lifestyle couples attest, We all have a huge capacity to love and enjoy sex. Many of us are more than able to love many and have tons of sex at the same time. I learned by making love with others while I’m still in love with my husband that I’m ever more turned-on to lovemaking.
Many people nowadays stop connecting sexually with their spouses. I’m a counselor. At least ten times a week couples complain they don't make love anymore. Why? Do we simply get bored with one another? Are we angry? Resentful? I know from my own past and the experiences of those I counsel, that partners who still live together but don't connect sexually with each other still love each other. They panic when they consider leaving no-sex spouses who used to make love with them, because they still love them. They’re friends, comfortable with one another. They mix finances and perhaps raise children together. They know and love each other’s relatives; they share friends and interests together. They don’t want to lose what they’ve built. They don’t want to sell their homes, divide their holdings. So many reasons to stay together, crazy to part just because they stopped sharing sex with each other or because they love others.
Counseling helps non-sexual couples open to sex with each other again. Tantra can also help rekindle their desire; I highly recommend it. But what really enthuses a couple to juicy sex with each other is swinging or polyamory. Couples return home to each other, turned-on from their erotic encounters with others and screw each other’s brains out for days. When they f*ck like minks, chemicals flow, they feel close and feel again in love with each other.
I used to be on the polyamory-only bandwagon. But after intensely studying the swinger movement for the past nine years, I see they’re onto something. A strange piece of ass, watching your partner with someone else, touching two or three people at the same time, doing more than one at a time, breaking taboos, or stretching beyond your own boundaries turns people on.
Sure, there’s jealousy. That’s also human nature. We can use, then get over jealousy. Hang in there with your jealousy, ride it, experience it, feel it, talk it out and never make yourself or your lovers wrong about their feelings and soon you laugh seek sexual adventures together. Like explorers, or hunters on the prowl, together you’ll discuss who’s attractive, what’s attractive and actually be able to act on attractions if you chose.
I suggest couples trying polyamory or swinging stay together as they explore other loves. That’s what works the best for us. If you’re at all insecure, it can be harder for you to relax when your partner goes offstage with another lover, easier if you all share loving in each others’ view and, even better, co-participate. Couples who watch and share each others’ excitement build ever-more desire for each other.
Swinging may be too far out for some of us. Living together with more than one mate may be just as far out for others. A few couples whom we see regularly is the poly lifestyle that works best for Sash and me. I like getting to know new lovers on a very deep level and can do this living separately. Living with anyone but Sasha is hard for me; I get anxious with too many people around all the time. I’m a private person, need privacy, peace and quiet. So living apart and loving together now and again is fine with me.
Of course there’s a time for many to be monogamous for parts of their lives. I’ve done it and enjoyed it–for awhile. Though some folks are even happily monogamous all their lives, few love and want sex only with one person their entire lives. We may be mono (one), amorous (loving) part our lives. But cultural conditioning makes many of us continue monogamously despite the death of sex in the monogamous relationship and despite the fact that we have non-monogamous fantasies, desires and affairs. I have friends who fear losing face if peers knew they considered multi-lover intimacy.
However, if we humans are truthful, at least to ourselves in our own hearts, we are going to have to admit, one and all, that we have feelings and attractions for many, many people in the course of our lives. And when we get to that point, where we’re real with ourselves, than perhaps we can begin to forgive those who do what we dare not, and quit being so sanctimonious. Instead of shaming our politicians and celebrities, realize human nature. Bill and Hillary Clinton are probably in an open marriage. Bill just got careless. If they could talk truth, we’d progress light years.
Using modern DNA testing, we found 99.9% of all the species are non-monogamous. Our genetic cousins, the Bonobos practice polyamory, swinging and bisexual sex. We’re similar. Hospitals using DNA tests find many a dad on the birth certificate isn't the biological father.
Polyamory’s a high spiritual practice. So’s swinging. One swing club in Northern Washington State has a Goddess Ritual where a woman takes on all comers. She seats herself on a swing chair with an endless supply of condoms and the men line up out the door. Some women have been known take on 40 or 50 men during this ritual. She ends up in an enlightened, altered state of consciousness.
Besides being a high spiritual practice and very sexy, being polyamory and couple playing are fun. Cut lose and play as you might have when you were a kid playing outside on a hot Summer eve. When you’re all careful about STD’s and respectful, honest, courteous, kind, loving and playful with one another, you can make love in a puppy puddle with the same abandon you had when you were little playing football, wrestling or King of the Mountain. Poly’s fun.
Janet Kira Lessin, Chief Focalizer of the World Polyamory
Association, is featured presenter at the annual Harbin Hot Springs
(CA) Polyamory & Tantra Conference September 11-14. She and hubby
Sasha offer a workshop entitled " RITUALLY EVOKING FEMALE
EJACULATION IN A POLY POD CEREMONY"at the Conference and leads
the panel discussion, HOW WE DO POLY.
See www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com for details

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GENTLEMAN TO SPONSOR PARTNER 4 SEPT 11 HARBIN (CA) POLY-TANTRA

Tue, 12 Aug 2008 21:58:52 GMT

GENTLEMAN TO SPONSOR PARTNER 4 SEPT 11 HARBIN (CA) POLY-TANTRA
PRECONFERENCE

(forwarded from Paul at
support@webmagickian.com; Paul is a presenter
at the conference.)

I am offering an opportunity for a wonderful lady to attend the
Thursday evening event, titled A Garden Bursting with Life!, before
the 2008 World Polyamory Conference; I will pay the $300 tuition.

Who am I?

I am a single man who relocated to a strange land called Arizona from
Michigan.

I have been celibate the first week I was here, October 2007.

My friends consider me attractive. I consider authenticity and
integrity more important in my life than my handsomeness.

There are no behaviors attached to this invitation; meaning whatever
happens will be perfect.

I can be emailed at support@webmagickian.com, and phoned at 480 221
5353

With care, Paul

Here's the announcement of the seminar's particulars:

September 11, 2PM - 6PM, 7:30 - 9PM Harbin Convention Center
Led by Veronica Monet, Dr. Sasha Lessin and Janet Kira Lessin

Enjoy relationship repair and sex coaching in A Garden Bursting with
Life! This workshop for couples explores where soul meets body both
by employing specific sexual techniques and by moving past the
concept of technique and into the art of being one. (For pairs
attending the Sept. 12-14 PolyCon only.)

Come grow your own garden of love, passion and orgasmic bliss by
deepening connection and vulnerability with your chosen partner.
Enter the Conference, September 12-14, bursting with life. Pairs only:
nudity and sexual contact with your partner.
4 Hour Workshop. $300 per pair

If less than 14 pairs sign up before September 1, Dr. Sasha and
Janet Kira Lessin will lead those who've come for Veronica's seminar
to, as a backup option, deepen their experience of the possibility of
extending the art of loving into a path to becoming one with many and
all. The Lessins title this linebacker seminar "The Choreography of
Poly Lovemaking."

http://www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com

://www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com

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David Deida REturning to California in September

DeidaEvents — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 18:20:25 GMT

David has agreed to do one additional Live Intensive on the West Coast this year - in Los Angeles -- in Marina Del Rey on the weekend of Sept 12-14.

To learn more - check in at www.DeidaEvents.com or email me directly at DeidaEvents@gmail.com

Hope to see you there!

Adam
Deida Events

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Looking for place to stay in berkeley!!!!!!

jennifer — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 19:39:29 GMT

So I've realized that this town in the san joaquin valley I live in has been
the cause for some of the negative energy.
I have been feeling the urge to just pack my bags and go for
a long time now, but the urge has now turned into a gut response.
Does anyone know of any open houses or squatter pads or just friendly
people willing to open their home to a central-valley refugee around berkeley?
I am a very down-to-earth, friendly, laughing, hard-working person, and I will
work and help out any way I possibly can.
I am a certified massage therapist and apprentice body piercer (Still need to learn a few things)
so I imagine finding work would not be that hard.........

Please let me know.

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Tantra practice and ADD

Fri, 29 Apr 2005 18:00:48 GMT

[this is a bit of a cross post... I mentioned it in another tribe, but had more thougths later that I wanted to bring here.]

Has anyone ever known/experienced anyone with severe adult ADD who has had trouble with the long tantra practices?

I have severe adult ADD, and even though I don't want to, I often lose focus during extended tantric sex practice. The breathing exercises help, but eventually my mind will wander off.

I'm curious to hear ideas or experiences with this issue.

Thanks
SG

========================================
Background:

A healer who I really trust explained to me that ADD is caused by insufficient release of dopamine in the brain. The brain interprets this low dopamine level as a sign of "completion", that whatever required the focus of attention no longer needs the focus, and it's time to move on to something else. The person experiences this as the inablility to focus and concentrate that is the hallmark of ADD.

Low doses of amphetamines(such as adderal or ritalin) increase dopamine production, and help to "fool" the brain that focus is still required, and the person's attention doesn't wander as much.

I say "as much" becuause the solution isn't perfect.

I realize that dopamine is one of the things released during sex, but so far that hasn't been enough.

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a question

jennifer — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 02:33:21 GMT

I have had trouble with intimacy for a long time.
A lot of relationships I've had have been very sad and heartbreaking.
I have been wanting to feel a deep connection for a very long time,
to tap into the lifeforce and energy that runs through my being.
I have several books on tantra, but as of lately I have felt so lost and lonely,
my chakras need some intense healing from a bad childhood and past energy that floats around me still.
Sometimes the sadness is so intense I feel like I'm drowning.
I want to know how to better myself, to open up to intimacy, to enjoy life more, and to tap
into my inner being and walk a path of enlightenment.

Has anyone ever been through this also and
has some friendly advice?
Or any information on what I should do?
I have several books but my life has been so hectic that
I can't do any reading.
If anyone can relate to what I feel, that would be wonderful.

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Puja Ritual and Celebration this Saturday!

Shakti_Jan — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 16:15:07 GMT

Evening Tantra Ritual for Singles and Couples
Pre-Summer Puja! Saturday evening, June 7th at Vara Healing Arts in Albany from 7:30-9:30pm.
$30/individual; $50/couple; Pre-registration required.

The approach of summer is a great time to revitalize your life by opening your heart and mind to all that life has to offer.

In this upcoming pre-summer puja - a circle of interactive, heart-centered connections in ritual space - we celebrate and open to the qualities that the season offers: joyful playfulness, sensual warmth, freedom, and carefree exuberance.

You will be gently led through a variety interactive, playful and sensual interactions and exercises to expand your capacity to experience more love, and practice meeting others in your divine essence. In this magnificent dance of masculine and feminine energies, you'll discover an enhancement of spirit, and a joyous embrace of the sensual gifts of the body. Singles will meet new people in a conscious and safe setting, Couples will deepen trust and enhance intimacy. Dress in comfortable, vibrantly colorful, sensual attire.

This event is gender-balanced. Prior experience with tantra preferred.

More info at: http://www.tantricjoy.com/workshops.html or jan@tantricjoy.com

''Whereas most relationships are based on getting energy (love/ attention) from others, spiritual intimacy and true Tantra are based on tapping into a higher, unlimited source of spiritual energy and consciousness. Then the need to get energy from others through control, manipulation, dependency, etc. is purified out and replaced with an experience and trust in unlimited, divinely given love. This becomes the foundation for a true Tantric relationship wherein the energetic merging opens the channels for deepened connection and mutual healing'' ~ Robert Frey, Tantra teacher

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RESCRIPT LIMITS TANTRIC TOUCH FIRES by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D www.schooloftantra.com

Wed, 04 Jun 2008 15:50:15 GMT

RESCRIPT LIMITS TANTRIC TOUCH FIRES by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D www.schooloftantra.com

Learn how to process the emotional material lovers release
when you finger their inner recesses in tantric ritual.

When you explore a Receiver's yoni or base chakra with your
fingers, the Receiver may block pleasure, orgasm and ejaculation. If
the Receiver tenses, numbs or burns at the internal touch at specific
places within her or his body, encourage Receiver to free associate,
to remember touch, sex and times that traumatized or closed her or
him down emotionally and sexually. She or he may even have past life
memories or fantasies as you hold the internal point.

If the Receiver yells, cries, laughs or makes strange sounds,
say,"Let your feelings out." Hold Receiver while she or he screams,
sobs and says what s/he needs to say to each person she thinks hurt
or neglected her. If she's angry at you, say, "Express it louder.
Let me know how mad I make you." Stay centered.

CATHART CONTEMPORARY CONTRATEMPS

If Receiver, while you touch her or his inner recesses,
remembers a person or situation in her or his current or recent life,
help her or him experience the immediacy and intensity her of his
organismic reaction to the person or situation by addressing the
person or situation in the here and now. .

If your Receiver experiences thoughts and emotions toward
someone who is physically absent, bring the absent person into the
Receiver's foreground here-and-now. Tell the Receiver to speak aloud
to the absent other as though the person s/he thought of were
present.

Tell your receiver: "Invoke the absent person you thought of
as I touch you here in your yoni [or base chakra]; say the person's
name aloud. Imagine s/he sits before you.

Then identify with the absent person you invoked. Assume her
or his emotional state.

Roleplay him or her and state your existence. Say what, as
s/he, you're like.

Be yourself again and tell her or him what you've withheld–
didn't say enough before.

Express your resentments, demands and appreciations to the
absent person.

Again, change roles; become the absent other and reply.

Alternate being yourself and the absent person..

REPROGRAM CHILDHOOD, ADOLESCENT OR EARLIER ADULT LIMITS

Again, change roles; become the absent other and reply..

Alternate being yourself and the absent person.
.
Ask Receiver to fantasize and roleplay redoing the painful,
humiliating or inappropriate scenes that traumatized her or him; keep
your fingers lightly on the area that stimulated catharsis.

Enact the part of her or his father, mother or lover the way
Receiver wished they were in the scene she or he recalled.

When s/he relaxes again, move your fingers to and from the
area that stimulated the painful memories and an area that felt good
when touched. Let your fingers stimulate these two areas till she
says she enjoys touch both places.

RESCRIPT PASTLIVES

If the Receiver images her- or himself or another figure with
whom she or he identifies in another body, another time, ask her or
him to recount and experientially relive the main events of this
pastlife. Tell Receiver. "Express your thoughts and feelings."

If s/he gets darkness, or no visions, say, "Imagine that
means you died. Replay the story, just before it darkens." Tell
Receiver, "Forgive yourself and anyone you resented."

Tell Receiver, "Say your last words and thoughts, then relive
your death." Then, "Separate from the body. As the separated soul,
feel peace. Rejoin loved ones who already died. Float with them
toward a light.

"Meet the karma committee and your guide. They review the
lessons you learned in that life. They tell you how to bring the
lessons of that life into this one."

Let us know on this site how exploring a receiver's inner
recesses helped them open up and transcend their limitations.

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TRANSCENDENTAL ORGASM by Janet Kira Lessin

Fri, 30 May 2008 13:50:44 GMT

TRANSCENDENTAL ORGASM by Janet Kira Lessin
Relationships, Orgasms and Enlightenment - Entry for May 28, 2008

I wrote this 4 days ago. My life's so hectic, I haven't had much time
to blog. I love writing. Anyway, in between phone calls and people
coming into the office, I managed to write the following:

I journal every morning when I awaken. I guess I was more deeply
affected by the couple we worked with yesterday than I imagined. My
husband and I are relationship counselors. We work with singles and
groups. But most of our clients are couples.

A lot of couples have sexual issues. Many love each other, have
families or have built lives together that are complicated and
intricately entwined. But after a while, resentments, unresolved
emotional and psychological issues and withholds seem to deeply
affect sexuality and eventually lovemaking lessens or falls to the
wayside altogether.

I felt especially sorry for this couple. The woman had never had an
orgasm. Her lack of orgasm was extremely disheartening for both of
them.

A small amount of our female clients have never had an orgasm. Some
may have orgasmed once or twice, but have great difficulty achieving
orgasm at will. Some cannot orgasm during intercourse. Others can't
orgasm with stimulation by their partner and the woman is the only
one who can bring herself to orgasm. Sometimes she can only do so
with a vibrator.

When sexual union doesn't lead to orgasms for both partners, couples
feel great pain, hurt, guilt, anquish and frustration that often
erodes the relationship eventually leading partners to infidelity
which creates further separation and could eventually result in
divorce.

Some couples stay together and deny the importance of sexuality for
themselves and the relationship. Occassionally, couples seek more
modern options, like polyamory or swinging to subsidize and offset
their sexual needs. Mature, more conscious couples can make those
types of options work.

Tantra combined with psychotherapy helps women explore their history
to uncover the origins of their sexual dysfunction. Rape, incest,
molestation, cultural conditioning, pastlife scripts, religious
programming, shaming, blaming and imprinting often are the roots of
sexual disconnection and body dissociation.

The body holds trauma on a cellular level. A good tantric
psychotherapist can help couples overcome these issues and create a
happier, healthier sex life and relationship.

Saturday, May 24, 2008 - REFLECTIONS ON MY TRANSCENDENTAL ORGASMS
We did a session with a couple. The woman has NEVER had an orgasm.
Wow, that has to be frustrating. My orgasm takes me to unity
consciousness experiences. I feel my oneness with the ones involved
with my orgasm, either those connected with me directly, physically,
and those in the room. The veil drops, the curtain parts and I stand
before my Creator and WE ARE ONE. I feel ONE with all that IS, WAS,
WILL BE. I am outside time and space while simultaneously all that
there is. I am the IS-NESS OF IT ALL.

Then I sub-parse, separate, so it seems, to being me. Yet from this
state, I retain my connection with ALL and realize I have NEVER been
apart. Nor will I ever be apart. Yet as the glory of the
orgasm/orgiastic state begins to fade, I devolve, so it seems, to my
Ego Self and begin to doubt, on some level, the unity experience I
just experienced. Such is the power of the Veil and the desire of the
Ego to be truly ALONE with ITSELF. Its sense of importance and
independence is so interwoven with the idea of being separate, being
important, individually that it protects itself with shields of
memories and forgetting.

Yet, there's a point of internalization when the dance between Ego
and Oneness is so purely defined, no matter how hard the Ego Self
attempts to hide and cover up the Oneness phase, the soul remains
connected to WHOLENESS and thus achieves the first level of
consciousness.

Now what? I am aware of higher levels. So I continue to be drawn to
these Unity Experiences so that I can become totally conscious and
aware and assist my fellow souls, my humans, humanity, as they cry so
clearly. I hear you. I am here to help you, help me, help ALL become
enlightened.

How Do You Orgasm? What's your orgasmic peak? What're your methods
of reaching unity consciousness connectiong with yourself and others
tantrically? Share on this site.

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Hi Hi

chel_grrl — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 18:40:56 GMT

hello everyone. i want to learn more about tantra and other things but my biggest issue is expense (well 2nd biggest would be transportation). i live in south bay but i wonder if anyone know of groups or clubs that offer classes where i could volunteer in some way to cut down how much it would cost to participate and learn?

More about me, i am a disabled graduate student who is trying to heal from a sexual injury that happened back in June 2007. At this point and for some time the physical injury has long since healed but the spiritual and emotional healing has not. I want to find my center again and be able to embrace the parts that are hurting and find the bliss again that i know exists in my body. It is like part of me is missing because of the injury. I need to relearn to trust my body again.

Any suggestions are welcome. Have a good day everyone.

chel

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Tantric and Sacred Graphics

Asha — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 08:13:48 GMT

I am an "up-and-coming" artist in SF and am looking to build my portfolio.

I have an interest in sacred, sensual, art- as well as mandalas and more.

please check out my site and if you would like to support me by commissioning a piece or pieces from me, i would be honored.

I am asking the universe for abundance, renewal, creative opportunity and flow.

something people might be interested in is my chakra series (I have root and svadhisthana posted, the rest to be produced at a later date)

please feel free to take a look at my new site: web.mac.com/ashasophia/

Namaste and Om Shanti to all.

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just got back from the Swiss

Mon, 10 Mar 2008 15:33:19 GMT

and had a great Osho, Barry Long inspired Seminar with Raja and Puja. . . would love to hear from other who have been through the workshop http://www.loveforcouples.com . Found it to be very balanced, gentle and touching. . . and you?

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Male multiple orgasms

silvano — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 03:48:18 GMT

I'm sorry if this topic has already been covered. If so, will you please point me to the thread?

One of the practices of Tantra involves male multiple orgasms This ability is achieved by separating orgasm from ejaculation. I have attempted this practice by following the text of different Tantra exercises (all roughly similar), and I have reached some "separation" ... except that it went the "wrong" way! That is, I end up ejaculating without orgasm, which is exactly the opposite of what I was hoping to achieve!

Now, it may be that this is actually a step forward... but it sure doesn't feel like it. I am wondering whether other men here have had similar experiences. I would appreciate comments from men who have tried this or from their partners, or anybody more experienced in tantra practices.

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David Deida is coming to SF!

DeidaEvents — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 23:24:11 GMT

Hi…

I am working directly with David Deida and letting everyone in the various Deida Tribes know that he is coming to the West Coast this Spring for two LIVE workshops…

These intense weekend long workshops will be in SF in April and Seattle in May.

All the details are over at www.DeidaEvents.com

Please come on over for all the info.

We are trying to reach out to all men and women who would benefit from the kind of deep work David offers.

So please spread the word…

And if there’s anything I can do to help you do that, please write me.

I hope to see you at one of the workshops

Adam Gilad
DeidaEvents@gmail.com

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Share the Bliss of All-Chakra Lovemaking w/ Dr. Sasha Lessin & Janet Lessin

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 17:27:00 GMT

Share the Bliss of All-Chakra Lovemaking w/ Dr. Sasha Lessin & Janet Lessin

The Patti Taylor Show, "Expanded Lovemaking" Episode 33
http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/230-expanded-
lovemaking/episodes/3493-sharing-bliss-chakra-lovemaking-dr-sasha

In this show, hear Dr. Patti talk to Dr. Sasha Lessin and his wife,
Janet Lessin, about All-Chakra Tantra. The Lessins are the founders
of the School of Tantra in Maui, Hawaii, where they teach people to
make love with their whole being, and to unblock any and all stuck
places that get in the way of intimacy, personal power and full
orgasmic presence. Learn what the chakras mean, and how to use them
to create a beautiful lovemaking ceremony. Experience for yourself a
dynamic process that Sasha and Janet use to generate connection using
the seven chakras to send shivers of delight up your spine! You can
feel the energy while listening, and better yet, also reproduce this
in your own home with the handout the Lessins give. Then, tune in as
Sasha gives Janet a reenactment of a full ejaculatory orgasm. Sasha
very specifically goes stroke by stroke over exactly how he evokes
every little nuance and pleasure from Janet's clit and "cave", as
well as creating her "gushing" over the edge. Youwill get lots of
specific ideas. Janet's commentaries on the emotional impact of
Sasha's touches, and her vulnerability, are priceless, as are both of
their spoken words to one another. Learn the kind of work the Lessins
do to help others with issues such as sexual healing and emotional
blocks to sex in their private counseling. This show models how
easily true expanded love can be made! Plus, find out how they
connect their work to planetary healing.

How to Really Love A Woman
Transcript

Dr. Patti Taylor: Welcome to the Expanded Lovemaking show. I'm your
host, Dr. Patti Taylor of Expanded Lovemaking dot com, and I teach
you how to give and receive way more pleasure than you ever dreamed
possible. Today on the show, we are talking about sharing the bliss
of all chakra lovemaking with a partner. Usually, we have guests on
talking about what they do. Today, we're so lucky to have two experts
on the show experiencing intimate yet powerful lovemaking and talking
to us as they go through it themselves. I'll be inviting you to join
in energetically and to take back juicy knowledge and energy into
your own lovemaking enjoyment. Our guests are Dr. Sasha Lessin, Dean
of the School of Tantra, with his wife, Janet Lessin, Professor of
Tantric Studies at the School of Tantra. So, welcome, Sasha and Janet
Lessin.

Janet Lessin: Aloha! Thank you for having us here.

Sasha Lessin: Aloha.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Hi, so, Dr. Sasha Lessin is a practicing
psychotherapist and relationship counselor for over thirty years who
brings many special skills to his counseling, including hypnotherapy,
holotropic breathing, healing and past-life regressions, spirit
releasement, and voice dialogue. Janet Lessin is an accomplished
writer and teacher of Tantra. Sasha and Janet teach their diverse
healing and spiritual paths together through their School of Tantra.
They're the authors of All Chakra Tantra and How to Really Love a
Woman, amongst many other incredible books and things that they've
created. They live in Maui, Hawaii, where they offer workshops,
ceremonies, singles events, couples events, residential retreats,
Tantra training of all sorts, and they also do counseling by phone. I
think our listeners will love this show because, in a real life
experience, you can feel the energy instead of just hearing about it.
And I've always loved being able to model myself after experts. So
today, then, we will find out all about All Chakra Tantra and have
some demonstrations of the Lessins' most requested teachings.
Hopefully some of them, anyway. Including creating an intimate female
ejaculatory lovemaking session. So let's get started! Let's find out
a little bit about All Chakra Tantra, and I think we need to start
out finding out what is a chakra. So hello, and can you tell us a
little about All Chakra Tantra?

Sasha Lessin: Oh, I'd love to, and I'll be posting this stuff on your
site, Patti, so people can get it. Tantra, one of its meanings
is "weaving." It means weaving all levels of your awareness, and
these levels we call "chakras." These are things within you and
between you and those you love. Think of the chakras with your body
parts, the bottom of your torso, genitals is the next one, belly,
heart, throat, brain, then the neocortex. And these are the parts
that make you aware of first security, the sexuality, then power,
love is the heart, talk the throat, clarity- that's the vision
center. And spiritual connection. Each of these chakras constitues an
inner dimension within you and an outer dimension between you and
your lovers, and in each chakra you have a number of sub-cells or
inner voices, energies concerned with the tasks of the chakra
involved. Now, in All Chakra Tantra, you center yourself at each
chakra with regard to the sub-cells active in the issues of concern
to that chakra so you have the benefit of consulting them all. That's
within you. And then you also center yourself in your lover
relationship, so you create a two-person, or multi-person if you're
polyamorous- an interpersonal entity. It could be diadic or triadic,
but it weaves your needs with those of your lovers, and you and your
lovers join together in an ocean of consciousness and merge with all
of the humanities. And of course- let's look at each one, really get
a feeling for it. The first chakra relates to your perineum, it
concerns your need to feel, belong, feel safe, secure, and to take
care of your inner child. And balance within yourself means being
able to take care of this vulnerable part, the part that feels
emotions and can be hurt so easily, and the part of you that protects
that, being able to have a balance. You can decide how emotional
you're going to be. It means that if you're in a Tantric
relationship, you help your mate feel emotionally and financially
secure and take care of each other's health. So that's the first
chakra. We do a whole lot of real, real integration, of getting past
the programs that our inner children have from their parents, the
parents in the real world, so that we can be free to be with our
lovers.

Dr. Patti Taylor: And the perineum is located where?

Sasha Lessin: It's between the genitals and the anal sphincter area.
This is how you relate to the earth. Your security, your sense of
belonging to life, belonging to a relationship. It's really critical
that our children, the sensitive part of us, be allowed to be present
in our lovemaking.

Dr. Patti Taylor: I would think without that active, that you
couldn't even really start your lovemaking.

Sasha Lessin: No, it's really hard. You have to distinguish your
lover from your dad and your mother so that you are just present with
what's real for you in the relationship. It's totally critical. We're
conditioned by so many little habits that we imprinted without even
thinking by seeing how our parents interacted, and by our society.
What we want to do is get free to really feel our sensorium and be
present with all of our emotions. And that means you have to feel
safe with your lover. That's the first chakra, and that's where the
bonding patterns take place, and how to keep sweet interaction going.
The second chakra is what we're going to deal with a bit today, which
is your sexual needs, and within you it's being able to express
yourself sexually and when to hold back. So in other words, for every
chakra we try to balance ourselves out, many aspects of us that are
concerned with in this case chakra two, the sexual chakra. We try to
center ourselves among the impulses we have so we can make
discriminating behaviors. For women, what we teach of the second
chakra, we teach women how to have ejaculatory orgasms, where a fluid-
anrida, it's called, it's alkaline -comes down from the urinary
bladder down the urethra and squirts or burbles out, accompanied by a
clitoral and vaginal orgasm, and it's really great. For a man we
teach complete and total ejaculatory control, which is really very
easy once you control your abdominal muscles. That's chakra two. The
third chakra relates to the belly-diaphragm area. We have power,
being able to lead or follow in the relationship, being able to let
the other person lead, and being able to encourage them to take
what's rightfully theirs in life. The fourth chakra- and we're going
to be demonstrating each one of these when we do our lovemaking in a
little bit, the re-enactment. But the fourth chakra is the heart
chakra, being able to give love and to get love, to not- being so
balanced within you means you're not into giving all the time so you
use up all your energy and feel resentful, or not just demanding all
the time so that you're so selfish no one wants to relate to you, but
the balance. The fifth chakra is the throat chakra, and here we're
concerned with expression, being able to both say what's really real
for you in your authenticity and being able to keep your mouth shut
when what you say won't be helpful, true, or kind. So, being able to
choose what we say and don't say, and to really be able to hear each
other. And then the next chakra, of course, is the brain chakra, and
this is where you have vision, where you see things, intuit, and the
intellect, where you think things. And all those, we ask that to be
present in All Chakra lovemaking, and that's really, really
important, too. Lots of times when you're making love you'll have
visions of your childhood or past lives or archetypes or movies your
saw. Let all those things happen. It really enriches everything. The
seventh chakra, your crown chakra, we think of as opening up and
allowing you to become spiritually one, so that you're not feeling
separate at all from the person you're making love with, but you are
one. You transcend your separate-self sense in that sense, so you're
not just identified with little you and not just identified with your
mate, but you identify with everything in the world, and that is the
spiritual dimension that we seek. And there's a little chant that
goes with it. And we're going to show you how we bring all that stuff
into our lovemaking.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Wow, that's really exciting, and I'm really looking
forward to this. I think a lot of our listeners would love to be
having that kind of fully integrated, alive on all levels kind of
lovemaking.

Sasha Lessin: Cool. Yeah, we love to share that, and also on the site
we have a thing that you can do by yourself where you feel each
chakra, where you empower your inner child, you empower your sexual
part. You go through each one of these. There's the chant you can do
yourself looking in a mirror or, as we'll be doing in a little bit,
with one lover putting their legs around the hips of the other and
looking into each other's eyes and then making these sounds called
the Bija Mantra. These Sanskrit sounds that activate these chakras
doing blessings. We'll be doing that after the break.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, cool. Well, I know this is going to be sort
of the short version of what could take possibly hours, so I thank
you for- but I guess you could do this in a long version of a short
version, so let's go ahead and give it a roll here. I'm all juicy and
waiting to let it go.

Janet Lessin: Okay. So, we begin with the setup. While the woman is
taking a bath and preparing herself for her Tantric ritual, her
beloved prepares the space. And he puts out beautiful tapestries, or
lights incense and candles and brings flowers. He's interviewed her
beforehand so he knows what kind of music she likes, what kinds of
things she likes to relax, maybe some fine wine or something. At our
home, we're located high on West Maui Mountain, and for our date
today, we have the phone on today because we're talking to you, but
normally we turn off the phone, and we would lock all the doors, and
turn off the TV, and get into a sacred ritual space. In our location,
we're very fortunate. Our bed overlooks beautiful Maui Harbor, where
we see windsurfers on the north shore. Sasha has prepared our Tantric
lovemaking nest, and there's tapestries showing deities making love
and he's put down all these wonderful, comfy pillows, and lots of
towels so that when the woman- when I -eventually ejaculate, I won't
be worried about wetting the bed.

Sasha Lessin: If she wets the bed, it's the man's reponsibility to
sleep in the wet spot after. So what we do, way before we even
connect like this, we take the time to share our emotions, so we
makes sure there's no unfinished emotional business that hasn't been
resolved and we can be fully present. Then we sit in this- it's
called "yab yung" position, it's got her legs over mine. And now we
breathe in and out at the same time and gaze in one another's left
eyes. As I let my awareness flow through Janet's left eye, beyond her
face, beyond her present form, I go to her deep soul, to the core of
her. And she's doing the same for me. She meditates on experiencing
my essence through my left eye. It's a portal to my soul. And when I
feel her deepest essence, I can feel that contact, and then it
resonates within me. Her consciousness and mine, I can realize, are
identical. She is me and I am she and we are one. We experience this
existential love. Unity.

Janet Lessin: Then we move into syncopated breaths, where one is
breathing out and the other is breathing in. We're sharing breath.
And I breathe out through my mouth towards Sasha's nose, and he
inhales my breath through his nostrils. Then I inhale through my nose
and he breathes out through his mouth towards my nose. Each time I
inhale I say to myself, "He loves me." Each time I exhale into his
nose, I say to myself, "I love you." And he does the same meditation.

Sasha Lessin: I love you.

Janet Lessin: Back and forth. "I love you, you love me," with each
exhale and inhale.

Sasha Lessin: And now, as we keep gazing into each other's eyes, we
chant this ancient Sanskrit mantra. It's got seven syllable
words, "lam," "bam," "ram," "yam," "ham," and "ohm." Each syllable
will activate a different one of these chakras that we were talking
about. The "lam" will pump our perineum, the "bam" will invigorate
our genitals, "ram" empowers our bellies, "yam" heals our
hearts, "ham" frees our voices. Our third eye, from our head to the
occipit vibrates with "oh," and we think and intuit at the same time.
Then we chant "m" and our crowns open and unite us with all that is
and will be. When we complete the seven syllables, we tighten our PC
muscles and our belly muscles, pulse our anuses, and imagine energy
flowing from the tip of our spine, the bottom, up through our bodies,
out our crowns, where our energies meet. So we're going to chant
these, and if you want to and it's safe to do so, you can even chant
them with them, and they are "lam, bam, ram, yam, ham, and ohm." So
here we go.

Sasha and Janet Together: Lam, bam, ram, yam, ham, oh, m.

Sasha Lessin: Belly hold until you feel this whole field of energy,
baby.

Janet Lessin: So we're vibrating together, sweetheart, in every one
of our chakras.

Sasha Lessin: Oh, sweetheart, thank you for letting me worship and
adore you. I delight in serving you, and I love relating this
intimately. May my adoration heal hurts I have caused you or others
have caused you. May our hearts unite, and may we become one with the
universe. What would you like to say to consecrate the worship I
offer you, darling?

Janet Lessin: Sweetheart, I love how you take the time to pleasure
and honor who I am. You slow things down and listen to me kindly.
Your love compels me until time is slow or all stands still. And
nothing else seems to exist but you and me, as we become one with the
infinite and all that there is. You help me to evolve, grow, expand
in my path to consciousness. I appreciate how you meet me and are so
present, touch me sweetly and softly, and speak these wonderful words
to me as I dissolve into higher states of consciousness, and from
there I can see other worlds and other realms and dimensions, and
find new ways of being and becoming a more loving self. Thank you, my
love.

Sasha Lessin: Okay, honey, I'm going to lie you down on your back. I
wanted to dedicate my intention in this connect. I'm going to put
first my left hand on your heart, there. You put your hand on top of
mine. My right hand is going to be on each one of your chakras as I
bless each. These are called mudras, it's to put you in
the "moodras," so to speak. So first, I put my hand lightly on your
perineum. Pulse your anal sphincter, honey. Sweetheart, I love you, I
want you to feel your base, to enjoy health, safety, and security. I
want you to know you belong and please, may your inner child be
present in this lovemaking. Feel the energy, feel the energy. Now I'm
going to touch your labia. I love you at your yoni- that's Sanskrit
for "vagina" -and bless you sensually. May you be sensual, creative,
and sexual. May your goddess of sensuality, the second chakra
goddess, be present for this trice. Now I'm going to touch your
belly. I love you in your power chakra. Take what's yours,
sweetheart. May the goddess of strength enjoy the sensual touch we
share at your genital chakra. Now I'm going to put both hands on your
heart. I send you love. May you feel the touch with pleasure. May
your romantic subpersonality enjoy this experience. Now the back of
your neck with my right hand. I love you, may you say your thoughts,
make sounds, and express as you connect with me. I'm going to touch
your brow. I celebrate how you understand and intuit. I invite your
visionary to give you images and insight as I stroke your grotto. And
lastly I touch the top of your head. I love you and merge with you.
May your spiritual self be present and may you experience unity with
the universe. And now, sweetheart- oh, this feels so good -I'd like
to give you a gentle massage all over. I'm going to especially rub
the grasillus muscles- that is, the muscles on the inside of each of
your thighs -because massaging this grasillus muscle also stimulates
the lateral ends of your hidden clitoral tissues. There we go. Feel
that?

Janet Lessin: Yeah.

Sasha Lessin: Now your belly muscles, just above the pubic bone, so
that the energy can flow from your power chakra- that's the third
chakra -down from your navel to your genital chakra. It takes a
while. We do a long massage. So we'll just jump to the chase, here,
and I'll say to Janet...I'd really like to give some focused touch to
your temple of love, honey.

Janet Lessin: Okay. Please, please do.

Sasha Lessin: I'm going to massage, then I'm going to kiss your
genital drapes and the valance, so to speak, over your pearl-
clitoral tip. I want you to make sounds and direct me with words or
sounds, give me feedback. I'm going to lick and stroke. I won't be
able to talk soon, but what I'll be doing is I'll be lightly stroking
her outer labia. Relaxing her clitoral hood-

Dr. Patti Taylor: Before we do that, can I just jump in for a second,
before I hop on a plane to Hawaii? First thing I want to say is that
it's totally astonishing, and we are just going to have to pause for
break. Can you, like, hang out in that space for a moment?

Sasha Lessin: Sure, I'll just be sure not to rub her the wrong way.

Dr. Patti Taylor: I don't think that's possible. But we do have to
stop for a quick break, to support our sponsors. You guys just hang
out there. I'm shaking from head to toe, so it won't be a problem for
me. This is Dr. Patti Taylor, and I'm with Sasha and Janet Lessin in
their magical space, and we will be right back. You can learn more
about Sasha and Janet at www.schooloftantra.com.

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Dr. Patti Taylor: We're back, and we are talking about sharing the
bliss of All Chakra Lovemaking with a partner. We were talking about
the All Chakra Tantra blessing, and now we are going into the female
ejaculatory orgasm. Why don't you just keep going?

Sasha: Okay. While we've had the break, I've been stroking her labia,
and gently, gently rolling the clitoral hood around the crown itself.
And I notice, now, that her vaginal lips are starting to swell. The
outer lips are swelling and now I can see the beautiful little inner
lips. I trace circles, spirals, horizontals, verticals, diagonals,
figure eights on them with my finger. I alternate long and short
strokes. Playful. Tap, rub, knead. It takes a lot of air time, but we
would do this for about fifteen minutes until the clitoral hood
itself starts to push back and I can see the tip of the clitoris
itself, and then I say...sweetheart, would you like me to polish your
pearl?

Janet Lessin: Oh, yes. Oh-ho, yes.

Sasha Lessin: First I blow on your genitals. It's really important
not to blow inside the vagina because it's an anaerobic system, but I
just want to make some hot air on the outside, little baby kisses on
the clitoris. I'm going to twirl my tongue around the crown and lick
your labia and reach softly into your yoni with my fingers. All the
time, even though I'm down here, I'm looking into your eyes. I
salivate as much as I can to really lubricate your orifice.

Janet Lessin: Ah, yes. Thank you. What I'm experiencing right now-
I've got to come back into consciousness in order to talk to you -is
I'm not really thinking per se, but I'm evolving into this higher
state of consciousness. And Sasha and I are divine, sacred, twin
souls but I know the way. He's taken me there endless, numerous
times. So here I'm experiencing pure pleasure. It's a state of total
bliss, like a continuous orgasmic state where one orgasm blends into
another, and I become one with my beloved Sasha. I recognize that we
are eternal beings, that we've always been together and always will
be. And then I become one with my animal friends, and nature, the
island of Maui, the earth, the solar system, out to the cosmos and
eventually I feel my oneness with Source, that divine, infinite space
of love and light, and I'm simultaneously feeling my oneness with
Sasha here in the physical plane. So I've transcended and I've
brought Heaven to earth. And he comes into his oneness with me, and
he feels it just as if it's happening to him.

Sasha Lessin: Oh, you bet, baby. I'm taking my mouth off of her
clitoris for a minute to ask a question. I would like to enter your
sacred cave with my right ring finger. Would you like that, honey?

Janet Lessin: Oh, yes, lover. Please take me even higher.

Sasha Lessin: Okay, so I lick my finger so it's quite moist, and I
place the tip of my fingerpad just inside the vaginal opening. Now
pull my finger in, honey.

Janet Lessin: Okay.

Sasha Lessin: I feel the muscles pulsing on my finger. Now I'm going
to curl my fingerpad inside your yoni towards your navel and back
towards your inner leg so it rests gently on your G-spot area, just
behind the pubic bone. Let's breathe together. I'm going to keep my
hand still, and I want you to just to imagine that my finger reaches
inside all the way to your heart. Okay, now I'm going to start
a "c'mere" motion with my finger, taking the pad from the cervix to
the orifice. Slowly, back and forth. From the top of your cave to the
cervix, to the cave's opening. And all the while, I'm going to keep
kissing your pearl and lapping your labia, releasing lots of saliva.
This would go on for some time. Then I start turning my wrist from
side to side, and I trace a crescent over Janet's G-spot. Then, very
soft and light at first, I sweep, turning my wrist from up to down,
from the left half of your cave. Slowly I skim the front of my right
finger from the cave roof to its floor and the outside door, and then
I'm going to have to take my right ring finger and put my left finger
inside. Tben I can get the whole other side of your yoni roof.

Janet Lessin: Yeah. Well, after a few minutes, Sasha changes his
position, so he eases his back and neck, and he rubs and taps and
touches all over inside my vagina. He strokes different levels,
different depths, finding the pressure. He alters his speed, and he
goes in and out, and traces the throbbing veins and the arteries, and
presses gently all the way to the bone in each part of my sacred cave.

Sasha Lessin: Sweetheart, would you like me to pet you with two
fingers inside?

Janet Lessin: Yes, please.

Sasha Lessin: Okay, so now I move my fingers from the cervix- I get
right between my two fingers toward the orifice, and I have in my
fingers- I can feel through the intervening flesh, I can feel the
inner clitoris, and also the urethral sponge. I can feel the sponge,
which surrounds the urethra and goes from the urinary bladder to the
urinary viatus where the urine comes out. The tissue gets rough. You
can feel it descending, it's about the size of a little finger now.
It's getting quite stimulated. The area just behind the pubic bone is
swelling. This is the so-called G-spot area. That's it, that's it. Do
I got it?

Janet Lessin: Yes, you have the right spot, sweetheart. If you keep
going like that, in short order I can ejaculate.

Sasha Lessin: Great! Push your uterus out like you're delivering a
baby. Push out, honey.

Janet Lessin: Thank you, sweetheart.

Sasha Lessin: Wow, that's great, honey! Wow! Oh, Janet's ejaculating,
squirting ounces of anrida. Divine nectar! Now's where I say your
affirmations, honey. You're beautiful! Forever young! I love you
forever! You're coming into your power!

Janet Lessin: I love you, sweetheart.

Sasha Lessin: This is so beautiful, sweetheart.

Janet Lessin: Thank you.

Sasha Lessin: Now let me just hold you a bit. Let me come up here.
I'm going to keep my hand in your yoni, the palm of my hand across
your mons. I love you so much.

Janet Lessin: I love you so much. So, in a normal Tantric day, we
would just keep continuing.

Sasha Lessin: The easiest time to have an orgasm is-

Janet Lessin: Right after you have an orgasm.

Sasha Lessin: What is important when a woman has an ejaculatory
orgasm is not to demand intercourse. If she wants to have intercourse
next you can, but what's really nice is to just, if you're the giver,
to just be there quietly and just see what she wants to say if that's
the entire experience. Because usually when a person has an orgasm
like this, it has clitoral and vaginal, as well as a urinal
ejaculatory aspects, and it's so overwhelming that silence and
meditation is just perfect because you feel at one with your mate and
you feel at one with the universe.

Janet Lessin: It's a very blissful state, but it's also very
vulnerable. So it's important for the giver to be sensitive about his
own needs and not push an agenda. Just be there for his beloved so
that she can reconnect and find all the pieces of her soul and
reconnect with the tissues of her body. And that sometimes takes a
long time, especially if someone had a history of abuse of any kind.

Sasha: Yeah. In a more advanced Tantra, I would put some lubricant on
fingers of my other hand and slowly work those fingers into the base
chakra. Then I would move the fingers in different insane patterns
than the fingers I have in the yoni, my tongue on the clitoris, so
that I have many, many different stimulations going at the same time.
I would tap a little finger against the very tip of her lowest
vertebrae so that the kundolini, the energy from the tip of the
spine, starts to move up. I'm looking in her eyes, and saying
beautiful things. So we have all these things going at once, and then
I may take my other hand, my left hand, out of the base chakra, push
through the top, right underneath the navel, through the outside of
her skin. That's called "uniting the fingers," with my fingers inside
and the fingers outside of her belly go in different directions. I
move the entire clitoris, which is quite a large organ. You only see
the very teeny eighth of an inch or so of the clitoral tip, but
actually the clitoris goes back about an inch and a half into the
body, and then bifurcates, goes down each leg, so that this rubbing
that I did in the beginning of the grasillus muscle, which is one of
the ductor muscles of the leg. This massage of that grasillus was
also massaging the tip of the clitoris, which is a really large
organ. You don't know it, but you can sure feel it inside.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Wow. Well, that is...I just can't thank you enough
for sharing so...I know it's just a re-enactment, but still powerful
and intimate and very inspirational.

Janet Lessin: Thank you for inviting us to share.

Sasha Lessin: We love sharing. We should do it on TV for you sometime.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Well, you know, I wanted to say, I checked out your
website, and we'll give the link again in just a minute. But you have
some beautiful pictures on your website, including how to sit for the
lesson that we talked about in the first segment of the show. And you
have the gorgeous pictures that go along with the beautiful chakras,
and your website is a trip. I absolutely think everybody who listens
to the show should go to www.schooloftantra.com and just spend a day
there or, you know, an hour there, and just tool around and have some
fun with you guys. 'Cause there's just more there than you can
imagine. Anyway, we're going to have to take another break, just for
our sponsors. This is Dr. Patti Taylor, and I'm with Sasha and Janet
Lessin, and we will be right back. And as I said, you can learn more,
and definitely we'll have a great time learning more about Sasha and
Janet. They do so many things. They teach, they have residential
stuff, they write books. Schooloftantra dot com. You can also visit
our episode page and we'll put up some links for them and their new
book All Chakra Tantra.

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Dr. Patti Taylor: We're back, and we are talking about sharing the
bliss of All Chakra Lovemaking with a partner. So, before the break,
we were talking about- I don't know if "talking about" is the right
word. We were in the throes of the most exquisite, intimate sharing
imaginable of your experiencing this gorgeous female ejaculatory
orgasm, and I think I'm still almost speechless with the beauty of it
all. I really want to thank you for an incredible gift that you've
given me and my listeners. Our listeners.

Janet Lessin: Our pleasure.

Dr. Patti Taylor: So, just to kind of close down the show a little,
here, I just want to just talk a little bit about what you do with
the people that go all the way to Maui or people that live in Maui.
But, you know, how you empower people. Who are you? Let's find out a
little about you.

Sasha Lessin: One of the most important things that we do is while
we're doing- instead of just going into merely the pleasure part,
which we've done, we take the time to slowly explore every centimeter
of the inside of the yoni and map where it feels good at different
levels of pressure and where there's a numbness or lack of feeling.
Wherever there's numbness or lack of feeling, I say free associate,
and that's when people start to re-live unfinished emotional things.
They're creating blocks to their ejaculatory orgasms and they will
actually start to re-live things that they've forgotten. And I have
them express more than they expressed in the original situation and
then have an imaginary scenario where they act it out so they get
another program that allows them to feel everywhere. And then I move
my finger back to where it felt good in the yoni and then back to
where it felt numb until that feels good, too, until by stimulus
generalization the entire yoni is like a G-spot and the person
doesn't have any blocks to full emotional and sexual feeling.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, so one thing you do for sure is you help
people wake up their potential for full-on orgasmic expression.

Janet Lessin: Right, if they have any emotional or psychological
issues or trauma it'll block their chakras and they won't be able to
experience their sexuality to its fullest potential. So we do a lot
of cowpering, we do a lot of communications, we help couples grow
closer to each other, we help singles learn how to attract and learn
how to keep their beloved. We use a lot of different
psychotechnologies, and communication techniques, like non-body
communication, voice dialogue, gestalt therapy, existential and past-
life and childhood re-scripting therapies. These are all part of our
Tantra school. People can come and learn how to be Tantric cowpers
and therapists and teachers on all different levels. Some people like
to give workshops and conferences. Some like to do therapy,
individually or couples or in small groups. So Sasha Lessin has been
a therapist, cowper for about forty years. He's just one of the best
on the planet and I'm so blessed to be married to him.

Dr. Patti Taylor: You have stuff going on all the time and it's such
a wide variety of things. Even to get to be around you is just a
cornucopia, an abundance of knowledge pouring out of the two of you.
Do you have any examples of somebody that you've helped recently, and
what happened?

Sasha Lessin: Let's just tell you the story of Janet and how this
worked for her.

Janet Lessin: Oh...well, I wasn't prepared for that. I was very luded
in my childhood. There was a lot of rape and incest issues, so I was
kind of on the way out, I was dying and I'd been to all these
different therapists, and when I met Dr. Lessin we started doing the
yoni work and the- I had what was called "mecunhe," I had a blocked
issue about an incest-rape issue. And once that came forth, it
reversed my physical ails, and once that happened for me I devoted my
life to learning this so I could help other people. So as a
consequence we give people all the time to have these issues, they're
not sure what's going on with them sexually, they don't know why
they're depressed or they're having reactions to where they're
stifling their creativity. They get into incredible negative bonding
patterns with each other. Go ahead, honey. What did you want to say?

Sasha Lessin: It's just so gratifying to realize that you're not
stuck, that you can re-program anything to allow yourself all the
pleasures that life has to hold. And the interesting thing about
ejaculatory orgasms is that since it comes from the urinary bladder,
even people that have had hysterectomies can have incredibly intense
ejaculatory orgasms.

Dr. Patti Taylor: That sounds so amazing. And you combine it with a
trip to Hawaii on top of that, right?

Janet Lessin: Yes, so you want Tantra to become a lifestyle that
affects all avenues of your life. It'll help you in your job, and
transcend over to all your relationships. Your family, friends.

Sasha Lessin: We really think that making love is the alternative to
violence. The evidence is overwhelming that if you don't abuse or hit
your children, and if you allow good sex among people without a lot
of restrictions, then people do not engage in violent crime or war.
So make love, not war. And we teach you how to really make love well.

Dr. Patti Taylor: That's really beautiful. Well, we're almost out of
time, so I just have time for one final question each. So, if you
could leave our listeners today with one final thought, what will it
be? And you can decide who goes first.

Sasha Lessin: Go first, darling.

Janet Lessin: Be true to yourself. In Tantra we encourage authentic
communication. Learn how to speak close to the truth and sometimes
you may have consequences but at least you'll set yourself free. Free
to be who you really are.

Sasha Lessin: Listen to each other. When your lover is emotional,
don't just shut it off, but encourage it. Let their feelings out.
Empathize with those feelings. Find out what they need, and then ask
what you can do to help meet those needs.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Wow. Thank you so much. That's very, very
beautiful, heartfelt advice, but why am I not surprised? I just
deeply want to thank you for revealing of yourselves and essentially
modeling for me and for all of us the beautiful stuff you had to
share today. I want to remind everyone that we will have links up on
our episode page to a handout that you can actually download so that
you can have the bija mantras and take them home and practice them
with your lover, because it sounds like that would be a great way to
kick off any fabulous lovemaking session. And I also want to say that
these beautiful mantras seem to be at the bottom of pretty much every
page of your website as well. So you will be able to go to our
episodes page for this show and get a handout, as well as finding out
about their book, All Chakra Tantra and How to Love a Woman.

Sasha Lessin: And also for those people that have alternate
relationships, that is something we really love to do. You don't have
to be conventional. You get to choose for yourself who make love with
and how.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Right. So you are very, very diverse in your
talents. Thank you once again for coming on the show. I had a
phenomenal time and experience today.

Janet Lessin: Thank you for having us.

[All exchange goodbyes.]

Dr. Patti Taylor: So this brings us to the end of our show. Thank
you, listeners, for listening and joining in. Please send me email at
patti@personallifemedia.com. For text and transcripts of this show
and other shows, please visit our website at personallifemedia.com.
And come post a blog comment at our blog page, too. So, if you
haven't already, please be sure to subscribe to the Expanded
Lovemaking show, so that you can get automatic updates as soon as
they become available. And please visit me, Dr. Patti Taylor, at
expandedlovemaking.com, where you can join my mailing list and find
out more about my products, services, and events. So this is your
host, Dr. Patti Taylor, and that's all for now. And I remain yours in
ever expanding lovemaking. And I'll see you next week.

Patti's wonderful site:
http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/230-expanded-
lovemaking/episodes/3493-sharing-bliss-chakra-lovemaking-dr-sasha

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Looking for a Man to be in a Tantra Video with Me

LucidTantra — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 05:56:19 GMT

I teach Tantra Yoga in San Francisco, www.freewebs.com/lucidbody. I'm making an instructional video and would like to offer the opportunity to be in part of the video, no words needed, just circulating energy with me, clothed, meditating. I'd like to find someone who knows how that feels, and would like some free instruction in a beautiful location, or would just like to help spread the word about Tantra, have a nice time, and have a couple videos. They will be not focused primarily on sex, and will have some extravagent visuals. I want to find just the right person and am interviewing.
Thanks,
flameflower@runbox.com
www.freewebs.com/lucidbody
Tantra Bensko

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Has anyone experienced this in Tantra?

alyx — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 20:22:01 GMT

The second time I imbibed the mushroom sacrament was just after I graduated highschool, a friend and I were sitting in the park, blissfully enjoying each others conscious company, letting the mushrooms kick in as we basked in the amazement of each others awareness and playfully trying to cross our eyes in a manner that lets us visualize each others third eye. Our conversation became more of a completion of each others thoughts, that click and understanding, until there came a moment where we both felt the same thing, we were conscious of the Us consciousness, I and You melted away. The first click was a brief with a moment of confusion, sort of like 'What was that?' 'There is no 'Was', and We became I again. To keep up our connection it felt as if I would push us further along the spiral and he would pull with the energy of what hed learned, teaching my consciousness something to digest so i could in turn power level us deeper. The whole night our internal and external enviroment was a conscious syncronicity, we felt this is exactly what we should be doing, this is what we pine for, this satisfies every metaneed. The clearest thing that was communicated was him telling me that hed never truly experienced love and was abused as a child, and I could feel exactly how bad it was and cried with direct empathy. The timeless hours had worn out our energy by sunlight, throughout the night to continue stimulating the connection it had degraded a bit because we needed physical manipulation of each other for serotonin drive, still clothed, a pure form of bodywork, pure tantra, occasionally needing an affectionate touch on bare skin.

Id love to talk to other people whove felt that bond!

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los angeles - any teacher/class/tutor recommendations?

jim — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 02:42:58 GMT

any help youd be appreciated.

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Mistake - Consequences and learnings

ananth — Sun, 06 Jan 2008 23:47:16 GMT

To err is human, to admit is divine...

This is hard to talk about, but here it is. A few years ago, a very lovely Californian blonde in her early 40s requested me to coach her on the esoteric mysteries of kundalini, its arousal, and awakening. She wanted me to help her unleash the energy through the classical tantric ways using a variety of sensual and sexual methods. She was married, and so I felt it would be highly inappropriate for me to use the sexual approach to kundalini movement. So, I declined.

She was very persuasive, very intent, and gosh darn it, very attractive. So I finally agreed to awaken all the energy latent in her, but through the most secret of all of tantric methods, one that is usually never talked about, written about, and whose use is not looked at kindly by the Goddess - yes, Sarpa Tantra - the path of the serpent. This is the non-sexual (no intercourse) tantric approach that arises awakens and moves the kundalini wherever you want in less than 5 minutes - the time it takes to get a non-fat, single shot, decaf latte at Starbucks. The method is conceptually extremely simple - the awakener (me), embodies, models, and personifies the kundalini energy of the awakened one (her), and systematically moves through each chakra physically. As I act the part of the serpent, breathing, hissing, coiling, and striking each chakra forcefully, her energy also gets the cue and moves, and soon her body starts to shake under the assault of my modeling the serpentine kundalini, and her own kundalini rising to mimic me. It is extremely fast, extremely powerful, and extremely dangerous to directly awaken the energy.

Needless to say, I took the kundalini all the way beyond the Ajna chakra between the eyebrows and into her head. She was shuddering and said the experience was more incredible than any sex she had ever had, and it put her in a state of mind she had never been before. I felt good, and I told her that I had unleashed her great psychic energy, and it was her responsibility to take the energy safely and do good and wonders to this world. I asked her to meditate, and then left the place.

What I had not realized was that I had put great power in her hands when she was ill equipped to handle the energy, channel it in peaceful ways, and transform the great power into happiness for others. She had all the intent, but had no practice or knowhow to do any of it. The consequences were very painful as I later found out. Her sexual appetite had grown a thousand fold causing her to create deep fissures in her marriage, and her focus in her professional life had suffered. Her health, especially her digestion and stomach were totally shot, and she was in an extremely precarious condition. Her marriage was on the rocks, and she was on the verge of a total breakdown.

When I finally met her, she squarely blamed her condition, mental, physical, emotional, familial, and sexual all on me. She said 'Ananth, it is all your fault. Even if I had begged you to release my kundalini, you should not have, especially in the most direct approach you used. What happened to your sense of responsibility? Why did not suggest some gentle incremental approach, but used an approach that even the books ban?"

I agreed with her. It was my fault. I had not gauged where she was in a spiritual sense, and in my eagerness to show her the extent of her own energy, and in a desire to perhaps impress her with my ability to awaken and move her kundalini in an instant, I had erred in a very serious way. Despite my belief in my own evolution, it was obvious that when an attractive woman asked me to move her energy far beyond where it should have gone, I succumbed to my male desire to impress her, and just picked up her kundalini and just tossed it around. It ended up causing her great havoc, and her family great trouble.

So I became more convinced that the tools I know, love, and use, were just not the right ones for most of this world. I also felt poorly that despite my own strength and sense of integrity, a beautiful woman had just made to do things that as a teacher I would have frowned upon. Sarpa Tantra will probably die with me, similar to how the five point palm exploding heart technique dies with Pai Mei in Kill Bill 2. The world is better off without people using tools of tantra to cause mental and sexual havoc in othes. Being generous, kind, and loving to all can take one to everyplace we need to go, and we can dispense with the tantric mumbo jumbo entirely.

I kept this to myself, and became very reluctant to teach anybody, but I thought that this is an important experience in my life that perhaps has lessons for some. So I decided to share. Flame me if you want, blame me if you want. I think I deserve all of it.

- Ananth Tantri

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Recommendations?

Thu, 27 Sep 2007 06:27:00 GMT

Hello to all, I'm just reading a few things about tantra on the web. I've gone to one teacher to start my journey. Does anyone have any recommendations on learning this path? I'm currently working on this solo. I'm trying to make new and renew good connections in my life as well.

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Seeking a partner

zaid — Mon, 01 Oct 2007 22:09:09 GMT

Hi, I am seeking a female tantra partner in San Francisco who I could meet to keep up with Tantra practice. Please send me a private email and hopefully we connect.

Namaste

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Upcoming Ipsalu Tantra Classes and Workshops

Shakti_Jan — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 01:35:53 GMT

Upcoming Ipsalu Tantra Classes and Workshops in the East Bay
(more info at: http://www.tantricjoy.com/workshops.html)

FireBreath Orgasm
Ecstatic Breathing for Healing and Transformation
Evening Workshop with Jan

Friday, October 5, 2007
Vara Healing Arts Center in Albany, CA

* * *
Learning to Live in Bliss
Ipsalu Tantra Level 1 Weekend Intensive
with Jan Robinson and Kip Moore

October 26-28, 2007
Heartwalker Studio in Oakland, CA

Friday, Sept. 28 last day to register with a discount!

* * *
NEW!
Chakra Play for Lovers
Evening Workshop for Couples and Paired Singles with Jan

Saturday, November 17, 2007
Heartwalker Studio in Oakland, CA

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Personal growth and fufillment

Djinn — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 06:17:12 GMT

Im looking for material that deals not so much with the sexual practices of tantra, but with the philosophical ideas of inner fulfillment in daily life. About going from feeling of want, lack, need, and insufficiency or insecurity to feelings of having, appreciating, sharing, and finding confidence and nowness.

These ideas have been explained to me before, but 95% of the material I come across seems to be written by people who
dabble in the philosophical implications but go into detail of the sexual techniques.

Can anybody recomend any good writers for tantric philosophy?

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New Member Wanting To Say Hello

Thu, 13 Sep 2007 21:38:10 GMT

Hello there,

I'm a new member of this tribe and wanted to say hello. I look forward to learning much in this group.

Thank you and have a wonderful day!

Pat

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At what point do dreams become nightmares?

Mon, 24 Sep 2007 03:07:29 GMT

I moderate a tribe called Dreaming.
It is full of very nice people who care about others, with never ever a harsh word.

http://tribes.tribe.net/dreamingknights

I hope you'll all join and talk about your dreams, learn about others dreams too. Find new skills in understanding your dreams.

Come sleep with us,
Daniel

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Compression - A Ritual BDSM PlayShop

teamnoir — Thu, 06 Sep 2007 00:24:58 GMT

This month at PlayShop we'll be examining the concept of compression, both as a force in our lives as well as a force in our bdsm play. Please come prepared to compress and/or to be compressed in as many ways as you can think of. :).

PlayShop is part ritual, part discussion group, part tantra puja, part class, part show-n-tell, part play party, part experimental laboratory. This series of events is an immersive introduction and experience in ritual BDSM sex magick. All genders and orientations are welcome.

All experience levels welcome. If you're a beginner and would like to try some, come. If you're a seasoned magick practitioner, witch, shaman, priest, tantrika, or other ritual worker, and would like to figure out how to mix your skills with BDSM, please come. If you're a seasoned bdsm player and would like to know how to make your play more spiritual, purposeful, and/or meaningful, please come. If you're an experienced ritual magick BDSM practitioner, please come help create. If you'd just like to hang and hold space, please come.

Bring your ritual kit, your toy bag, your drums, your excitement, your enthusiasm, and your partner. Don't fret if you're missing any of these items as we'll likely have enough to share. :-).

http://teamnoir.name/Compression.html
http://edges.biz

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Learning Tantra?

Djinn — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 21:40:36 GMT

I live in Santa Cruz, just south of SF and west of San Jose. Im curious about where i can get instruction on tantric practices? Im 26, healthy, and a student of natural medicine with some previous experience in bodywork.

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New Tribe Forming: Sensual DO Buddies

pattiluv — Mon, 27 Aug 2007 16:15:16 GMT

Hi there,

I am forming a new tribe, for those of us looking specifically to discuss techniques of expanded orgasm, Morehouse DOing, Deliberate Orgasm, Orgasmic Meditation, G-spot Massage, Sensual Massage, and Sexological Bodywork.

Out of this, people can hopefully find partners for practice. Either one-way or two-way giving and receiving, and, no strings attached. Could be one time only, or, lead to more.

Here's the link: http://tribes.tribe.net/sensualdobuddies

Please come check us out if you are looking for practice partners, and introduce yourself.

Warmly, Patti

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Inner Work, Sacred Relationship, and Marriage

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 21:05:10 GMT

Sean Wensel

Inner Work, Sacred Relationship, and Marriage

Marriages are dissolving because people, in general, have learned to look into the external world to fix their problems, rather than work through their problems internally. This is due to lack of education and information regarding inner work, the de-emphasis on the importance of spirituality and sacred relationship in daily life, and, lastly, the lack of commitment to working through problems and conflicts.

There is a lack of education and information regarding how to do inner work, and why it is so important to do inner work. This education is not implemented or integrated into our school systems, as I think it should be. Some people don’t even think about their inner lives, and solely base and focus their life on the external. Inner work is where most or all growth or serious process happens, and it should be the main focus for any solution for any conflict or problem. There needs to be less emphasis on the external, less of what is “wrong” externally, and more focus on the internal, what can be changed internally to create a better world and life internally and externally. There needs to be more education regarding the important of inner work in our schools, in our parenting, and in our conversations.

Sadly, there has been an increasing de-emphasis on the important of spirituality and sacred relationship in the daily and integrated life of central culture. People are sick of religion, because people misunderstand religion and preach this misunderstanding. This is why people get burned out on spirituality, it is because of misinterpreted preaching and pressing of ideas that have become ego-centralized and externalized. There needs to be a re-centralization of true spirituality and potentially even a universal religion in order for true fulfillment, peace, and harmony to occur in relationships and in the world. There needs to be a realization of this in order for couples to work out their differences and create a long lasting and deep respect for each other and their relationship. Without this spiritual essence, people focus and tire of the external in relationships, and then they search for new external excitements, to fufill their worldly attachments and pleasures. This is why most marriages these days do not work. Sacred relationship needs to be re-discovered, the depth and potential of the connection between two people needs to be re-embraced and respected once again.

Lastly, the lack of commitment most people have to working through their problems and conflicts is the reason marriages are dissolving. Most people aren’t willing to confront and work through their own inner issues, and would rather blame others and look externally to fix their problems. This is widespread, and is learned. Many people would rather jump from partner to partner or lover to lover, blaming everyone else for their break-ups, rather than taking responsibility, committing to a relationship, and working through their own inner issues. We see others doing this, and learn it as children. If more people worked through their own issues, more marriages and relationships would work, and people at large would re-discover the power of two people committed to each other in sacred relationship. In essence, we are spiritually and internally oriented, we work through all of our challenges and work to create our lives and our relationships internally, by working on our selves, defining our contexts and needs internally, being the partner or person that we want to be with, and in doing so creating a more harmonious, balanced and beautiful external world. This is our true nature.

Marriages are happening less frequently for a number of reasons. Here I’ve mentioned the lack of education and information regarding how to and why to do inner work, the de-centralized, de-emphasis on the importance of spirituality and sacred relationship between two people, and of course, the point I feel is most important for to look at and expand upon, the learned lack of commitment to work through problems and conflicts internally and externally, and what we can do to change all of this for the better. Something needs to be done about this, a shift needs to occur, it is occurring, and by reading this paper, contemplating it for yourself, integrating the information into your own life, talking about it with others, you are doing something about it and creating a positive shift in the world.

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Is there a tantra camp or 20 at BM?

Roy — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 23:16:31 GMT

Still shopping for the perfect spot on the Playa.
Any suggestions......

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Tantric volunteers needed

TantraTao — Wed, 25 Jul 2007 23:41:55 GMT

Hi peeps,

We're shooting a pilot for a project we call TantraTV. It'll be held on August 4th in the SF Bay Area. We're looking for extras and "audience members" to participate.

Our tantric instructors for this first shoot will be:

Triambika from Oakland (http://www.journeyintobliss.com/)
Ariel White from San Diego (http://infiniteessence.com/)
Amber St. Germain from Seattle (http://www.aubreydevadasi.com)

These three dakini's have committed to "taking their work to the next level", and your participation and support is greatly appreciated.

Here are details:

1) You will be videotaped. So don't wear anything with thin horizontal stripes that might "moire" on video. Bright happy spiritual clothing with solid colors or beautiful patterns is good. Best not to wear logo'ed t-shirts. Otherwise, just come dressed in "workshop clothes" suitable for sitting on the floor of a yoga facility.

2) Let me know if you're coming as a single or a couple. We can accommodate either.

3) You won't have to get naked or anything, but you WILL have to do a few "intimacy exercises". The main thing is that I'm trying to capture the "face of transformation"... you can think of this shoot as sort of a spiritual infomercial... and I want to capture people who are really getting it and grooving on it... in an authentic and spiritually positive way. So expect us to shoot lots of reaction shots of you.

4) There is no pay or cost for this event, but you do get to listen to three great lectures, we'll provide food and drinks, and there will be a cozy little cocktail party afterwards for Bay Area tantra people.

5) Actually, there IS one thing you can bring. Bring flowers! We'll do a darshan line and give our flowers to the goddesses before they begin.

Thanks much! Contact me if this sounds interesting to you!

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Tantra teacher recommendations

Jeremy — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 02:45:27 GMT

I'm interested in learning how to have orgasms without ejaculation with a teacher either in private or group setting. Recommendations? Especially from men who've learned it themselves from someone. Thanks.

I live in Redwood City so Bay Area/Santa Cruz area would be nice.

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Bay Area Tantra Teachers and Classes

annann — Sat, 30 Dec 2006 18:38:09 GMT

So, what tantra classes have you taken that you liked and would reccommend to others?

Have you had any personal sessions with a tantra teacher that you liked and would refer people to?

Would you send singles to one place and couples to another?

Is there something you have been wanting which is not offered?

I'd love to hear any ideas you all have.

Thanks,

Ann

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Book Reading by Tantric Mystic in Marin

shaktihooker108 — Sat, 14 Jul 2007 14:53:09 GMT

I have been sponsoring Nandu ( as he calls himself) in the Bay Area for the last year. He is a wonderfully humble man with great knowledge. I encourage all in the area to attend. He will be staying the weekend for rice readings. He will explain more about his activities and teachings at the book reading.

Book Reading and Chanting to Lakshmi

Amarananda Bhairavan is a renowned Tantric Priest and healer. During his joyous childhood amongst an extended family on the West Coast of India, Amarananda trained in Oti vidya, a tantra peculiar to Odiyyathis or tribal medicine women of Kerala. Initiated at the age of nine by his aunt, Amarananda Bhairavan remains a direct descendant of this six thousand year old tradition of goddess worship. His mystical education and initiations in the ancient Oti vidya tantric practices are the subject of his two visionary books, "Kali’s Odiyya: A Shaman’s True Story of Initiation" and "Medicine of Light: A Shaman’s Journey through Mystic Space-Time." He is currently working on Aghora Rahasyam: Tantric Mysticism and a Doctrine on Consciousness.

Kali’s Odiyya —A Shaman’s True Story of Initiation introduced readers to the world of the odiyyas—shamans of the goddess. In Bhairavan’s new book Medicine of Light, Aunt Preema and her odiyya cohorts continue to teach novices Shambu and Sandhya how to collect the light of awareness to protect and heal their community. This vibrantly written book will make you want to read it in one sitting, but you will come back to it again and again for its extraordinary teachings.

Amarananda Bhairavan will be present at Open Secret Bookstore Friday July 27th at 7:30 PM for the reading of his second book Medicine of Light
A Shaman’s Journey through Mystic Space-Time.
After this he will lead all in chants to guru, Ganesha and Goddess Lakshmi.

For further information please contact Rob at:
Open Secret Bookstore
923 C St., San Rafael, CA 94901
414-457 4191

Amarananda Bhairavan at odiyya@socal.rr.com

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crying as a energetic release / tantric expression?

jamielove — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 02:05:23 GMT

I know I cry sometimes, not because I am sad, but because I feel really touched, and a sense of openness. A feeling of being trusted, loved and honored...

I am wondering if any of you have a similar experience? can crying be one form of having a deeply moving energetic experience, one that can also manifest in intense bliss and pleasure that is more classically tantra?

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So you really know how to fuck

Fri, 15 Jun 2007 20:53:20 GMT

This question is about the shear physical feeling of fucking.
What makes a great fuck. Dick and pussy action? Is it a mind thing.
How important is your climax or would you rather have your partner cum?

This is not about making love, this is doing the dirty.
Daniel

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6/10, 6/17 Tantric Sensations

teamnoir — Fri, 11 May 2007 00:29:16 GMT

Tantric Sensations
An Introduction to Skydancing Tantra
With Gaia and Chris

Sunday, June 10, 10am - 6pm
Santa Clara, California, (Edges)

Sunday, June 17, 10am - 6pm
San Francisco, California, (Citadel)

Ever wondered about Tantra? Interested in improving your communications skills? In learning to build further intimacy and trust? Especially around the intersection of sexuality and spirituality? Curious about creating sacred space? Or about developing your connection with a partner?

Come find out how to use your body, your breath and your truth as tools to open a pathway for your sensations, expanding your consciousness and connection to others, moving from fear to trust and from desire into bliss.

In this full day workshop you will be introduced to Tantra in general and to Skydancing Tantra in specific by Gaia and Chris. Both Gaia and Chris are Skydancing Tantra facilitators in training and students of internationally acclaimed Tantra expert and author Margot Anand. Tantra is an experiential discipline and this class is no exception. You will have the opportunity to explore for yourself some of the exercises of Skydancing Tantra in a private, supportive, encouraging, nonjudgmental environment.

* The same course will be offered both days. Pick the one which is most convenient for you.
* This workshop is open to singles and couples of any gender.
* These classes are not specifically nor exclusively BDSM related. Anyone who is interested is welcome.
* Preregistration is required!

For more info and to register: http://teamnoir.name/Skydancing.html

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Phat-ass panty party

Fri, 08 Jun 2007 21:20:22 GMT

Big Beautiful Women are PHAT! That's right!! Positively Hot And Tempting! Especially in panties and other lingerie!
Those big asses all warm in hot panties ready to play. And the men and women who love to play with them pantie asses.
It's also a place to talk about pantie party games. So let's all put on a pair of clean panties and get dirty.

No matter if your a man or women, slim or PHAT, phat-ass pantie party is were it's at.

come and join our big party
http://tribes.tribe.net/bbwpantyparty

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Evoking Divine Passion: Men & Women's June 15-17

Evalena — Wed, 30 May 2007 22:03:36 GMT

Evoking Divine Passion
An Introduction to Tantra and the Arts of Sacred Love
Led by Evalena Rose and guest teachers

June 15-17, Women and Men

Learn ancient arts of Tantra that link spirituality and sexuality:

Enhance your capacity for deeply satisfying intimacy
Access states of ecstasy and energetic orgasm
Learn breathing that energizes and empowers your life
Explore healthy boundaries and good communication skills
Experience a nurturing and compassionate sacred community

"Tantra with such an incredibly masterful teacher has helped me
attune to my essential self and meet my needs for fulfilling intimacy."
Awaken and revitalize your sensual, erotic nature through breath practices, sexual healing meditations, movement, and dance. Learn practices that can open your body to full-body orgasms, explored within our deeply sacred temple atmosphere that makes learning a joy. Increase your capacity to receive love and to ask for what you want in ways that enhance intimacy as you explore contact. Enjoy the energy-producing charging breath, and the sweet, romantic alternate breath.

"A weekend of profound bliss and even greater healing and learning about self.
I am deeply impressed, even awed, by your ability to create truly safe, sacred space."
Our community has mostly served women, so men get the privilege of entering the sacred womb of women's space and feeling the warm receptivity this Temple fosters. See web site for 10 minute video of women's workshops: www.tantraforwomen.com.

"Absolutely, touchingly wonderful. So exquisite and life-changing that even the day after, I remain enthralled and full of joy!"

**********************************************
Introductory evenings for a lovely taste of this work:

Men and Women: Thursday, May 31 - Sebastopol
Friday, July 13 - Sebastopol
Women only: Tuesday, June 5 - Sebastopol
Thursday, July 19 - Sebastopol

7-10 PM, $25 or $40 for two, free if have come before and bring someone.
**********************************************
BECOME YOUR OWN BEST BELOVED

Workshops and evenings draw singles and couples. Many who've taken these weekends return to deepen their skills and add to the richness of the Temple community.

"Excellent. I enjoyed the beautiful care Evalena took to teach
boundary setting, the sweet and powerful Puja, and the loving,
supportive community. I am in awe!

People report passions returning, gains in self esteem, more expansive relationships,
enjoying more love. The nurturing atmosphere created by therapeutically trained
assistants helps release sexual wounding. We reclaim sovereignty over our bodies.

Our Saturday ritual allows for practice of intimate and romantic arts in joyful, sacred ways that heal the heart. Singles become their own best beloved, more available for sacred union. Couples find a safe haven to revitalize passion and eroticism and open to new levels of connection.

“Life altering and heart opening. It helps bring me to the
truth of who I am.”

Hours for workshop: Fri: 7 -10 PM, Sat: 10 AM -10 PM, Sun: 10:30 AM - 5:30 PM
Private, quiet retreat site near Sebastopol, hot tub, expansive temple feel.
Overnights possible for additional fee, including breakfast.

Pre-registration requires $100 non-refundable deposit due June 1.
$415 full fee, or $385 if pre-paid by 6/1.
Couples: $750, or $710 if pre-paid by 6/1.
Includes healthy, tasty, catered meals and a booklet of practices
If coming from out of the area, take Airporter to Santa Rosa and we'll pick you us.

Pay by credit card online or by phone, or send check - call for address.
Payment plans, work exchange in set up/take down, gardening, flyering
(Work exchange can begin any time and be done ahead)

707/824-1118
E-mail: evalena@tantraforwomen.com
See our WEB SITE to learn about LoveJourney programs and a video about LoveJourney's work with women from an award-winning documentary on lesbian Tantra, "Hearts Cracked Open". http://www.tantraforwomen.com

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another tantra forum, social community site

OnlyNow — Tue, 29 May 2007 03:01:51 GMT

dear friends,

a client of mine (from my regular job) runs the web site me.com which is another social networking site similar to tribe.
they allow for people to create their own community...

just to play with it and become familiar with his business, I created a http://meditation.me.com community... then I ended up posting new threads and creating categories for meditation, enlightenment, tantra, etc etc... people have been visiting it, and some new members have joined.

additionally, I've created categories specific to the bay area, for practitioners, healers, teachers, and events to be posted. of course I don't know where this may go, but I generally like the setup quite a bit. There are a lot of features for setting up polls, quizes, and you can actually attach images to each post/thread, and many other features.

I wish to invite you to take a look, browse through, and hopefully sign and up and post.

URL: http://meditation.me.com

Kindly,
ramiel

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Is Tantra the new way to have Relationship?

Tj — Sat, 19 May 2007 15:55:02 GMT

Is Tantra emerging as the new way to have relationship? What do you think?

I am currently offering private instruction and group classes for men, women, and couples. Here's my bio:

Tj is a Level III Advanced Certified Tantric Educator who utilizes ancient Taoist, Vedic, and Tantric methods combined with today's cutting edge modalities of personal growth, allowing him a powerful and unique way of teaching Conscious Loving and Conscious living.

Tj has studied with most of today's top teachers including Tony Robbins, Charles Muir and Margot Anand + has a B.A. in psychology from San Diego State University. His mission is to raise consciousness and awareness on the planet by educating, spreading massive amounts of love, healing, joy, and bliss while thoroughly enjoying the process.

(408) 313-1522
tj@dakalove.com
www.dakalove.com

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Upcoming Ipsalu Tantra Daylong with Shakti Jan*

Shakti_Jan — Mon, 14 May 2007 17:02:34 GMT

"Secrets of Love and Liberation"
Ipsalu Tantra Daylong Workshop
with Jan Robinson, Ipsalu Tantra Kriya Yoga Instructor
Kat Maguire, Assistant

Date: Sunday, May 20, 2007
Time: 10am - 5:30pm
Where: Center for Healing and Expression, 1749 O'Farrell Street, San Francisco, CA 94115
Cost: $125 per person, $80 for Ipsalu Grads! Includes catered lunch,
take-home materials and practice CD
Contact: Jan Robinson, jan@tantricjoy.com, 510.469.8268

Dear Ones, I'm really excited to share with you this day of tantric practice and play around the theme of love and liberation - exploring what happens when you bring the energies of shiva and shakti to dance and merge in the heart! The day will include sufi songs and dances, techniques to merge the separation between heart and sex during lovemaking, a meditation experiment of restructuring the essence of wine through our heart energy (a la Dr. Emoto's water crystal work), a powerful mantra to, at once, bring the experience of divine love to yourself and affirm that as your nature. You'll also learn a potent technology from the Heart-Math Institute to access the wisdom of your heart (it's amazing and it works every time!), and of course we'll use the Ipsalu TantraBliss formula to awaken our bliss body and support the group in coming into a divinely loving space. I'm delighted to present Kat Maguire in her debut as an Ipsalu tantra teacher. Go Kat! So, I really look forward to seeing you there (and your friends too). It's an ideal workshop to bring them to. It's open to beginners and initiates alike, singles and couples, and individuals of any sexual orientation.

Much love, Jan

View Registration Form and Flyer at:
www.tantricjoy.com/workshop..._of_Bliss

"With love you become more! Your consciousness is more, your feeling is more, your ecstatic sensation is more. You are more alive."
~Osho

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Ipsalu Tantra is a unique approach within the variety of Tantric paths. Faithful to Tantra's ancient original purposes and researched techniques, it is an adapted system to meet the interests of people in the western world at the present evolutionary level. What distinguishes Ipsalu is the focus on realizing your true Self, attention to emotional flow, and the skillfully designed sets of yogic techniques for safely activating your kundalini (most powerful and creative) energy.

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Penetration - A Ritual BDSM PlayShop

teamnoir — Wed, 09 May 2007 21:25:55 GMT

Penetration - A Ritual BDSM PlayShop
with Chris English & Daddy Darin
Sunday, May 20th, 1-4pm
at Edges - http://edges.biz (San Jose)
$10 admission, no one turned away for lack of funds

I’ve never done needles. From either side. I’ve been to a number of classes on the topic, but I keep thinking that I want to try them for the first time in a ritual setting. But I keep not having the right opportunities.

This month at PlayShop I’ve asked Daddy Darin to come teach us how to penetrate with needles, while poking me. We’re going to have a class/demo/poking ritual. So take a deep breath or three and come poke or be poked! Or come explore penetration in whatever way suits you.

Part ritual, part discussion group, part tantra puja, part class, part show-n-tell, part play party, part experimental laboratory, PlayShop is a series of events intended to be an immersive introduction and experience in ritual BDSM sex magick. All genders and orientations welcome.

All experience levels welcome. If you're a beginner and would like to try some, come. If you're a seasoned magick practitioner, witch, shaman, priest or whatever, and would like to figure out how to mix your skills with bdsm, then come. If you're a seasoned bdsm player and would like to know how to make your play more spiritual, purposeful, and/or meaningful, then come. If you're an experienced ritual magick bdsm practitioner, then come help create. If you’d just like to hang and hold space, then come.

Bring your ritual kit, your toy bag, your drums, your excitement, your enthusiasm, and your partner. Don't fret if you're missing any of these items as we'll likely have enough to share. :-).

Questions? mailto: ice@noir.com
or check http://teamnoir.name

Look for my Skydancing Tantra workshops.

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10 Maha Vidyas - Tantra in Committed Relationships

ananth — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 08:45:32 GMT

How can a couple continually transform through the days, nights, moons, and months they are together?

How can experiencing life together migrates from being an endless series of "being taken for granted", and "pushing each other's buttons" to becoming a dazzling dance of discovery through the same through each other's eyes?

How can assumptions about each other transform to aspirations for each other?

What alchemy mutates in a couple the mundane to profound, easy to charming, and complacence to daring?

How can all of this be accomplished without and endless search for "new partners", "full body orgasms", "esoteric sexual techniques", "state sanctioned swinging", "perpetual polyamory", or any other "me-centric, freedom loving" old-new-age technique? There appear to be no direct, safe, and practical answers to those that prefer committed long term relationships. How many tantriks, tantrikas, dakinis, and others do you see in long term relationships, and picking up kids, ferrying them to soccer games planning family finances, and cooking dinner. After all, there are only so many full body orgasm techniques you can ponder while screwing in a lightbulb in the kitchen, helping with homework, and balancing the checkbook.

I really believe that the 10 Maha Vidyas provide pragmatic, direct, and actionable answers, without the elaborate need for "training workshops", "certificate courses", and "deeksha by cellphone".

As a couple ponders each mahavidya (decode the iconography, understand the core concept, manifest the aspects of the divine feminine and the divine male in their everyday activity), one Mahavidya for each month, in 10 months, much like a baby being born, the couple too will be reborn. This is the secret of the Mahavidyas.

If anyone else is interested in sharing their learnings and experiences with the Mahavidya, I welcome that.

- Ananth Tantri

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Corporate Tantra - Are Mergers and Acquisitions a form of Tantra

ananth — Sun, 06 May 2007 00:12:47 GMT

Two luscious corporations eyeing each other... subtle winks and nods... arousal at all chakras, all the way from the worker bees in the Muladhara all the way to the primadonnas in the executive suite of the Sahasra...

Properly instructed by the guru - cadre of investment bankers... a wonderful panchamakara ceremony... a true union of brands, products, customers, employees, and finances... ah, that delicious wonderful ecstacy...

I can see the stock price rise like the kundalini....

This is corporate tantra...

- Ananth Tantri

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FireBreath Orgasm Class in Oakland, CA with Jan

Shakti_Jan — Sat, 07 Apr 2007 07:09:42 GMT

Ecstatic Breathing for Healing and Transformation

Date: Thursday, April 12
Time: 7-10pm; check in at 6:45pm
Location: Heartwalker Studio, 4920 Telegraph Ave., Oakland, CA 94609
Cost: $25 per individual; $15 for Ipsalu Grads
What to Wear: Loose, comfortable clothing
What to Bring: small blanket or yoga mat, sitting cushion or backjack, water bottle

Contact: RSVP with Jan Robinson at jan@tantricjoy.com or 510.469.8268.
Everyone welcome! Men and women of any sexual orientation, singles, couples, beginners and advanced alike.

Use breath, sound and movement, to release your limits and expand your capacity for orgasmic ecstasy!

FireBreath Orgasm, also known as Seven-Chakra Orgasm, is one of the most powerful methods of transmuting sexual energy in the body. It is a Kriya breath that consciously pulls sexual, earth energy into the body and directs it through the chakra system. The benefits of the FireBreath process include:

*Enhanced sexual arousal; full-body orgasm
*Increased intuitive ability
*Deepened capacity to feel energy
*Optimal health; natural stimulation of the endocrine glands
*Release of blocked energies, emotional flow
*Purification of the subtle body: energy pathways and chakras

Join us for this thrilling tantric breath and energy practice!

Love, Jan

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David Deida

annann — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 17:48:14 GMT

I aam just finding out about him and reading his books.

I would love to take a class from him but he does not have any around here and it's too hard for me to travel.

Has anyone taken any of his classes or know anythig about him?

Thanks,

Ann

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2 Great Tantra Experiences This Week in Berkeley!

Shakti_Jan — Mon, 12 Mar 2007 15:11:30 GMT

TantraBliss in the Bedroom - Evening Workshop for Couples

Date: Monday, March 12, 2007
Time: 8-10pm.
Location: Good Vibrations Store in Berkeley. 2504 San Pablo Avenue (at Dwight Way)
Cost: $45 per couple or paired singles
Contact: Call the Berkeley Good Vibrations Store to make your reservation. 510.841.8987

Transforming your sexual relationship into an ecstatic communion is easier than you may think. Come learn the TantraBliss method from Jan Robinson, Certified Ipsalu Tantra Teacher. This blend of foundational knowledge, specific techniques and expanded awareness can help couples of all genders and sexual orientations find their way to loving, blissful connection. Working with practices from several traditions, this method can be used by Tantra novices or folks with more experience, and can serve as a daily spiritual practice or to create an evening of unforgettable lovemaking. Open to couples and paired singles.

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Introduction to Tantra in Berkeley

Invite your friends to this fun, relaxed introduction to tantra!

Date: Thursday, March 15
Time: 7:00-9:00pm
Location: Berkeley, CA
Cost: $10-$20 suggested donation. No one turned away for lack of funds. Space is limited to 12 participants.
Contact: For information and to RSVP contact Jan at jan@tantricjoy.com or 510.469.8268.

What is it about learning or practicing Tantra that intruiges you? Perhaps it's a longing from your spirit to be truly alive! Perhaps it's a desire to be deeply connected with your True Self and to be in authentic, intimate connection with others. Or perhaps it's a wish to experience yourself as an absolutely free being, erotically awakened, and creatively self-expressed!

Enjoy an introductory evening learning about and experiencing Ipsalu Tantra. The class will include solo and interactive exercises (including conscious use of the breath, movement, dance, sound, meditation, and energy exercises) to awaken your BlissBody as you connect with yourself and others in a safe, friendly and sacred environment. Learn practical techniques to take home with you to enhance your sexual love life and spiritual well-being. Hear about the opportunities for life-changing courses, tantra festivals, teacher training, and ongoing community through Tantrika International.

Singles and Couples welcome! No prior Tantra experience required.

Jan Robinson, M.A., is a Certified Ipsalu Tantra Kriya Yoga Instructor & Mentor with Tantrika International and Certified Tantra Educator through Source School of Tantra. She has taught internationally, having recently returned from her first European tour. Working with the body as a gateway to the Divine, Jan assists others to integrate love, consciousness, and sexuality into the wholeness of their being. She offers evening classes, weekend workshops, transformational coaching and intimate mentoring training to individuals and couples in the Bay Area. Above all, Jan joyfully holds space for all to awaken to their Divine Magnificence! Her website is www.tantricjoy.com.

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Repetitititition - A Ritual BDSM PlayShop

teamnoir — Thu, 08 Mar 2007 01:30:44 GMT

Repetitititition
A Ritual BDSM PlayShop
with Chris English
Sunday, March 18, 1-4pm
at Edges - http://edges.biz

Repetition has a strange effect on our experience, both in play and in ritual. Come join us as we experiment with and practice this technique together in both contexts. Please come prepared to repeat something, either in play or in ritual, and to share that.

Part ritual, part discussion group, part tantra puja, part class, part show-n-tell, part play party, part experimental laboratory, this series of events is an immersive introduction and experience in ritual BDSM sex magick. All genders and orientations are welcome.

All experience levels welcome. If you're a beginner and would like to try some, come. If you're a seasoned magick practitioner, witch, shaman, priest, tantrika, or other ritual worker, and would like to figure out how to mix your skills with BDSM, please come. If you're a seasoned bdsm player and would like to know how to make your play more spiritual, purposeful, and/or meaningful, please come. If you're an experienced ritual magick BDSM practitioner, please come help create. If you'd just like to hang and hold space, please come.

Bring your ritual kit, your toy bag, your drums, your excitement, your enthusiasm, and your partner. Don't fret if you're missing any of these items as we'll likely have enough to share. :-).

Questions? mailto: ice@noir.com
or check http://teamnoir.name/ChrisEnglish/PlayShop.html

Admission is $10 - no one turned away for lack of funds.

Also note the following dates:

* Sunday, May 20 - Penetration - A Ritual BDSM PlayShop (at Edges)
* Sunday, June 17 - Objectification - The opening of Chris' photographic art show (Citadel)
* Sunday, Sept 16 - {untitled} - A Ritual BDSM PlayShop (Citadel)
* Sunday, Oct 21 - {untitled} - A Ritual BDSM PlayShop (Citadel)

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How do I begin?

Kathleen — Mon, 22 Jan 2007 06:55:29 GMT

I've been interested in Tantra for a long time and have picked up bits and pieces. I'm adept at working with chi and subtle forces and would like some suggestions on how to apply Tantra to my life. I have a feeling I already do, but perhaps there are some helpful excersizes for me to focus on.

I'm also in a relationship with someone who would be open to exploring this.

Warmly,
Kathleen

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Declaration - A Ritual BDSM PlayShop (San Jose - Jan 21)

teamnoir — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 19:51:56 GMT

Declaration
A Ritual BDSM PlayShop
with Chris English
Sunday, January 21, 1-4pm
at Edges - http://edges.biz

Some things become true simply by stating them. This works both in play and in ritual. Come join us as we experiment with and practice this technique together in both contexts.

Part ritual, part discussion group, part tantra puja, part class, part show-n-tell, part play party, part experimental laboratory, this series of events is an immersive introduction and experience in ritual BDSM sex magick. All genders and orientations are welcome.

All experience levels welcome. If you're a beginner and would like to try some, come. If you're a seasoned magick practitioner, witch, shaman, priest, tantrika, or other ritual worker, and would like to figure out how to mix your skills with BDSM, please come. If you're a seasoned bdsm player and would like to know how to make your play more spiritual, purposeful, and/or meaningful, please come. If you're an experienced ritual magick BDSM practitioner, please come help create. If you'd just like to hang and hold space, please come.

Bring your ritual kit, your toy bag, your drums, your excitement, your enthusiasm, and your partner. Don't fret if you're missing any of these items as we'll likely have enough to share. :-).

Questions? mailto: ice@noir.com
or check http://teamnoir.name/ChrisEnglish/PlayShop.html

Admission is $10 - no one turned away for lack of funds.

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New Year's Sexual Resolution

annann — Wed, 27 Dec 2006 18:24:02 GMT

I did not write this but I think it is worth reading. I don't have time to add my two cents to it now, I wish I did.

Enjoy and Happy Hew Year!

Ann

New Year's Sexual Resolution #1: Integrate Your Sexual Self

Many of us tend to compartmentalize our sexual selves. We try to remove sex from the rest of our identity (so sex becomes merely a thing we do, not all the things we are) and we draw artificial boundaries around our sexual desires. We deny long held sexual fantasies, we act in certain ways because it is what we think is expected of us.
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But sexuality is who we are, and no matter how hard we try to deny sexual aspects of ourselves we might consider embarrassing or unseemly, sexuality is one of the life forces that touches all aspects of who we are; our mind, our body and our spirit. Decide to take some time in the new year to become more aware of the ways that your sexual mind, sexual body, and sexual spirit, act in harmony, and how tapping into those connections can open up new sexual possibilities in 2006. It's not as flakey as it sounds!

New Year's Sexual Resolution #2: Speak Your Sexual Mind

In his passionate book, “The Politics of Lust” author and sex activist John Ince describes our culture as one that is "sexphobic". In his estimation, we are raised not only to be embarrassed or ashamed of our sexuality, but to actually fear sex itself. He makes a convincing argument (much better than my little description suggests) and the evidence can be seen in the ways that many of us avoid speaking our sexual minds.

Whether it's telling a partner we love to be spanked, or telling our spouse about a painful time in our sexual past; whether it's telling a parent that we don't plan on getting married because we like having multiple partners, or telling a best friend that you've always wanted them in a less than platonic way, in the new year, consider the ways you might be able to give voice to the thousands of sexual thoughts you have each day, and experience some of the awesome and empowering results of speaking your sexual mind.
New Year's Sexual Resolution #3: Share a Few of Your Sexual Secrets

One of the drawbacks of not speaking your mind (see resolution #2) is that most of us carry around any number of sexual secrets. Some of these we hold dear and enjoy the thrill of the secrecy, other secrets are ones that feel too painful to share, but that we might benefit greatly from speaking out loud. Consider taking stock of your current inventory of sexual secrets, and sharing a few this new year with people who are worthy of them.

New Year's Sexual Resolution #4: Stand Up for Your Own Sexual Rights

In her moving and incisive essay, "It's Time to Politicize Our Sexual Oppression" the late Barbara Waxman Fiducia suggested that one of the reasons we don't stand up for our own sexual rights is that we may believe it's our fault we aren't having the kind of sex we want to have, or aren't living the kind of sexual life we want to live. Many of us are unaware of our sexual rights, either because they are summarily dismissed by the mainstream, or because we look and act mainstream enough that the ways we are actually different are swept under the rug.

This year take time to consider your sexual rights, and more importantly, think about the ways they are ignored, stomped on, and taken away, by others and also by your own actions and inactions.

New Year's Sexual Resolution #5: Support Someone Else's Sexual Rights

Standing up for our own sexual rights would be much easier if we felt like we weren't the only ones struggling. So in addition to the important act of fighting for your own rights this new year, consider supporting the rights of others to be sexual on their own terms. I find it's best to do this when the person you're supporting isn't even around. You avoid the moral quandary of whether you're only doing it for gratitude, plus you'll aggravate bigots who can't figure out why you care so much, when you aren't even (gay/lesbian/polyamorous/or fill in any number of other things people like to put down).

New Year's Sexual Resolution #6: Try Something New For You

What's a new year's sexual resolution list without something salacious? After you've worked on your inner self, make sure to spend plenty of time satisfying, and encouraging, your sexual curiosity.

Buy a vibrator, start a phone sex relationship with your partner, write some smutty love letters, rent some porn, take a sex workshop, read a how-to book, stretch yourself in whatever ways you are resisting. You may find some, or even all of the new things you try are boring and unsatisfying, but what's important is the journey, not the final destination. This isn't about following the latest trend, or keeping up with the Joneses, the key is to find what's new for you, and to experiment with things that you're interested in but are shy of trying. I'm constantly amazed at how many people feel as if their sex lives are what they are, and can't be changed. If this is you, make a new year's resolution to do something about it in 2006.

Any comments?

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photographing great intimacy (this week)

Mon, 22 Jan 2007 05:27:10 GMT

hi all~

i have some time this week so am throwing this out there.

i would like to photograph great intimacy - the merging of souls - the Divine - in images.

this is the latest 'hit from the Universe' along the path of a passion project i'm working on, The Naked Project (http://www.divine-eye.com/projects.html), in which i'm capturing people in moments of bareness - free of masks.

if this speaks to you, and you and/or someone you know feel drawn to letting me photograph you this week, please say hello.

thank you!
antonia

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Another Valentines Day Event

Wed, 31 Jan 2007 17:23:38 GMT

My Tantric Valentine

Sunday, February 11th

Join us for a day of romantic Tantric practices:
Gazing, Dancing, Energetic Meditation,
Sexual Healing Ritual and a Festive “Aloha Puja.”
And of course, Chocolate and Valentines!
Teachers include Waihili (Nectar & Flame), Shakti-Iva (Ipsalu Tantra),
Chris English (Skydancing Tantra), Leah Kenaga (Iyengar Yoga)
Harp performance by Cecily Bauer

10 AM to 5 PM
Empty Gate Zen Center, 2200 Parker Street, Berkeley
Empty Gate Zen Center is close to downtown Berkeley BART station. Easy Sunday parking.
$95 Per Person
Individuals, couples, other intimate groupings , all orientations welcome.
Please contact waihili@aol.com to register by Feb. 1st.
For more information go to http://tantra-intimacy-aspergers.com/nectarandflame

(For those who may be wondering -- there is no nudity in class.)
Please attend “fragrance free” so that we may all breathe freely! Thank you!

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Tantra and the art of changing patners, or not

).(KANE)*( — Sat, 03 Feb 2007 00:51:49 GMT

I am curious. My wife and I have looked for a tantra practice and have been told that it is only for those willing to change partners. Since my wife and I are not at that place yet, but are still looking for a sexuality practice, what would you recommend. Is there really a guideline in the tradition of tantra that would limit monogomous partners?

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Members with no Photos Deleted

annann — Sun, 28 Jan 2007 05:52:54 GMT

Hi everyone,

Some of you may have noticed that our membership total has dropped considerably.

I took a rash action on my own without consulting you. I'm sorry about that I got carried away.

I deleted the members with no photos and no friends.

I am tired of all the lurkers on Tribe who have no photo, no friends and an empty profile. I would just as soon not have them in this tribe or any of my others.

I did this because I have done it in one of my other tribes and I asked the members how they felt about it and a lot of them did not like have these lurkers around. They do not participate, just lurk and they do not make me and others feel safe about talking about personal information.

So, members, how do you feel about what i did?

And the members who I left who have no photo and just one friend or two, you are next on the chopping block unless you add a photo soon.

If you need help adding a photo to your profile please feel free to ask me and I will help you.

I am not heartless, I just want a tribe or real people, not faceless ones.

Namaste,

Ann

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Prime Yourself for Valentine's Day with 2 Great Tantra Classes!

Shakti_Jan — Wed, 24 Jan 2007 08:19:00 GMT

Valentine's Day Weekend . . .

LEARNING TO LIVE IN BLISS
Ipsalu Tantra Kriya Yoga Weekend Intensive
Level 1 for Singles and Couples
with Jan Robinson & Kip Moore, Certified Ipsalu Tantra Kriya Yoga Instructors
Wildwood Retreat Center, Sonoma County

February 9-11, 2007
$495 includes organic meals, cozy accommodations, course fee, take-home materials and on-going support ($395 for Ipsalu Grads who are repeating)

Phone: (510) 469-8268
E-mail: jan@tantricjoy.com
Web Site: www.tantricjoy.com

In Level 1 you learn to:
* Transmute sexual energy to rejuvenate the body and stimulate creativity
* Prolong & deepen lovemaking by generating and containing more sexual energy
* Transform your "reality" so you can manifest your life's purpose
* Prepare to awaken kundalini safely using Babaji's Cobra Breath
* Honor your humanness: Silence the self-critical voice
* Blend the energies of Consciousness, Heart and Sex.

The course builds toward initiation into the First Level of Cosmic Cobra Breath. This wonderful technique transmutes sexual energy to open your third eye. Then you begin to see the truth behind the illusions of the objective world and become the Witness to your life-drama, rather than its victim. We celebrate our aliveness with song and dance and healing massage. You'll find yourself playing with subtle energy, sharing energies with others, finding a sense of inner unity, feeling at one with God. The mood is fun and playful and at the same time deep and profound. It is joy beyond words!
____________________________________________

. . . the evening before Valentine's Day!

Tantric Kissing Secrets
Evening Workshop for Couples

Date: Tuesday, February 13
Time: 7:30-9:30pm
Location: Bay Area Location TBA
Cost: $45 per couple
Contact: Jan for all the juicy details at jan@tantricjoy.com or 510.469.8268
Advanced registration required

Kissing's easy, right? You start out practicing with your stuffed animals, and then move on to more animate objects, trying out techniques as you go. But if you want to take it to another level, bring your favorite kissing partner to Tantric Kissing Secrets. Come for an evening of juicy fun that will introduce you to exotic modalities of kissing and subtle-energy tools to amp up the electricity of your kiss (and not just lip-to-lip!). The evening is sure to inspire renewed devotion to this amorous enterprise. Workshop is held in a safe, playful, and sacred space. Couples practice exclusively with their own partners. Invite your sweetie to come and share this luscious lips-on learning with you. Bring a pillow and small blanket to create your own little lovin' space, and bottled water to quench your lusty thirst.

Love, Jan

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what is your definition of Tantra?

Inner_Mission_Chiro — Wed, 10 Jan 2007 21:36:00 GMT

Hello,

Tantra is a word that I see thrown around alot. I have not studied Tantra much, but I know what I think it means. What is your definition?

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How Do You Bring Enough Sensual Touch into Your Life?

GoddessLinda — Fri, 22 Dec 2006 01:53:59 GMT

The reason why I ask, is that I wish to bring more sensual touch, massage, hugs, and yes, sex into my life. Also, more lovers as well as friends.

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A Tantric Perspective - Everything is Lakshmi

jmb — Mon, 25 Dec 2006 22:16:06 GMT

A Tantric Perspective - Everything is Lakshmi

I have been deeply studying yoga and the have become enraptured with the beauty therein. From the plentiful poses to the myriads of miracurlous mantras to the liberating experiences of the scriptures.

The glorious yogis have given us the truth. Everything is one vibration, which is Om.

From Om comes Shiva and Shakti. Shiva is seen as everything, and in the case of Shiva and Shakti, Shiva is the physical world, and Shakti is what moves it. A simple example is a boat is shiva, and the wind that moves it is shakti. Or your mind is shiva, and your thoughts are shakti.

But, as we see in the world of classical science (you know microscopes, mathematical formulas, etc.), which is just as much yoga as the ascthetic meditating in the cave, when we break down the physical beyond atoms, quarks, etc. we see that it is all moving. We only experience stillness because of movement. The floor you are on is solid because it is moving in one fashion and you are moving in another.

This is the experience of shakti. The infinite shoreless ocean of conciousness is called "Chitta", which you could also call Lakshmi. Chitta, in her infinite creativity, attains the entire universe for the pleasure of playing with herself and re-recognizing herself after hiding from herself. A cosmic game of hide and go seek, if you will. This means that everything we experience is really the entire infinite conciousness playing her game. We are this blissful conciousness, indeed she has CHOSEN to be you, so that she may experience herself.

The only way to experience yourself is to experience not yourself. The only way to know that you are you and not me is for you to see you and then see me. We appear different, but there is great joy in experiencing our oneness when we come together and join hands, or dance or sing the same song.

So this is what Chitta has done, she's some infinitely powerful, she wants to delight in her own creation, so she hides herself from herself as us and then unfolds herself back into herself.

That sounds great, what does it mean?

1) We are desire. A lof of yoga seeks to rid ourselves of desires, attachments, thoughts, etc. But, we are desire. Chitta has desired us into being, and in fact everything that we desire is her desire. There can be nothing else! Beyond the whole universe has desired to be us and every thought we have is a reflection of that infinite shakti. We need only be careful that following our desires bring us into a greater relationship with Chitta, because sometimes she desires to hide herself even more. But eventually she can only love herself.

2) Nothing is seperate from us. The scriptures state that the most terrible form of Lord Shiva, known as Rudra, the destroyer, gets his shakti, his power, from Lakshmi, the most beautiful, abundant, smiling, genorous and glorious form of the goddess you can imagine. She love us so much that she will let us reject her blessings.

There is great power in the experience that nothing is seperate from us, and everything is a manifestation of Lakshmi or Chitta. Take the most macho, annoying person you know. If they are moving, they are shakti, if they are breathing, they are shakti, whatever you see is shakti.

And so are you!

So, if you want to have an effect on the annoying people in your life, the first thing you must do is to experience them as nothing else than another facet of yourself. If you seperate yourself and say, "I am good, that person is bad, I am not that person." You lose all your power to affect them. You build a wall, and that's violent.

If you see them as nothing other than the form of the shakti, twisted up in some wierd shape, or covered up like a glove on your own hand, there is some communication that goes on between you. There are no walls. When there are no walls, love can conquer fear.

This is the key to humanity's survival. When we are in a situation with someone we don't like, we can not seperate ourselves from them, and feel that we are not them because they appear so different from us. We must instead pull them into us. When someone hurts you, it is as if they are a cut on your pinky finger. If you build a wall and try to seperate yourself from your finger, it will hurt more than if you show greater love. Love is stronger than fear, if it wasn't there wouldn't be a universe anyhow because nothing would hold it together.

When someone makes you angry, picture the person in your mind. Then you feel the anger, then just feel the anger. You are making the anger yourself, it doesn't exist anywhere else, not in the person or the relationship, just in you. So experience this anger, let it do it's thing, but do not act on it. It will not last forever. Eventually it will dissipate into pure energy and then you can ask yourself, "How do I show love in the face of something that I don't like?"

My teacher Douglas Brooks brings the core teachings of non-dual tantric philosophy into what he calls the triatic heart. There is you and there is me. An apparent duality, seperateness. The triatic heart then looks at this as:
1) I am you. This means I am everything, including you and myself.
2) I am nothing but you. This means that I am only you, indeed you are yourself.
3) I am not you. This means that I am only me.
These 3 "rules", or observations rather, exist BECAUSE of eachother, not instead of eachother. They actually support eachother. If you can grasp this, you can begin to feel what non dual tantric philosophy is all about. And it is a feeling, more than a conceptualization.

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So that's the "what", now here's the "how":

Keep breathing into your heart. Everything is there. Every great teacher, every ashram or holy place, even the power of the stars themselves is accesible through your heart, right here, right now.

It's all just a bunch of shakti playing with itself anyhow...

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Hi

Fri, 22 Dec 2006 00:18:53 GMT

I recently joined this tribe. Just wanted to say hi.....

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Global Orgasm Day (GOD) 12/22/06

annann — Fri, 22 Dec 2006 03:14:04 GMT

Global Orgasm for Peace-Dec 22

I have copied this from Evenlena Rose, a tantra teacher. Her info is at the bottom.

Two peace activists have called for a Global Orgasm for Peace on the winter solstice, Dec. 22, and this seems a cause worthy of being shared in the Tantric world! Please pass this on and join us in the energy of ecstasy on the day of the longest night. Let's collectively bring our breath and our passion into this world, and co-create world peace doing what we love best -- dancing in the kundalini.
See: http://www.globalorgasm.org/

The beauty of knowing Tantra is that having orgasms is not dependent upon having a partner or even love-making, it can occur with yourself and Spirit through the breath.

May our ecstasy help the Light return ever stronger and more powerful in our hearts,
our lives, and upon our planet.

May our species remember they are god embodied.

Blessed Be the Love.

With abundant love and bliss,

Evalena

First Annual Synchronized GlobalOrgasm for Peace

WHO? All Men and Women, you and everyone you know.

WHERE? Everywhere in the world, but especially in countries with weapons of mass destruction.

WHEN? Winter Solstice Day - Friday, December 22nd, at the time of your choosing, in the place of your choosing and with as much privacy as you choose.

WHY? To effect positive change in the energy field of the Earth through input of the largest possible surge of human energy.

Our minds influence Matter and Energy fields, so by concentrating our thoughts during and after The Big O on peace and partnership, the combination of high orgasmic energy combined with mindful intention will reduce global levels of violence, hatred and fear. “Our feelings about yet another escalation of war are not unlike what initiated and spawned Baring Witness.Org. in Pt. Reyes Station, California. Again, it is time to try something new. We are inspired by the Global Consciousness Project as a scientific way to measure and honor our efforts.” said Donna Sheehan.

See http://www.Global-O.org/

California Couple Calls for Orgasm for Peace
November 19, 2006, Washington Post/Associated Press

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/11/19/AR2006111900837.html

Two peace activists have planned a massive anti-war demonstration for the first day of winter. But they don't want you marching in the streets. The Global Orgasm for Peace was conceived by Donna Sheehan, 76, and Paul Reffell, 55, whose immodest goal is for everyone in the world to have an orgasm Dec. 22 while focusing on world peace.

"The orgasm gives out an incredible feeling of peace during it and after it," Reffell said Sunday. "Your mind is like a blank. It's like a meditative state. And mass meditations have been shown to make a change."

The couple have studied evolutionary psychology and believe that war is mainly an outgrowth of men trying to impress potential mates, a case of "my missile is bigger than your missile," as Reffell put it. By promoting what they hope to be a synchronized global orgasm, they hope to get people to channel their sexual energy into something more positive.

The couple said interest appears strong, with 26,000 hits a day to their Web site, http://www.globalorgasm.org. "The dream is to have everyone in the world (take part)," Reffell said. "And if that means laying down your gun for a few minutes, then hey, all the better."

Anti-war couple conceive new way to generate peace
November 19, 2006, San Francisco Chronicle (San Francisco's leading newspaper)

http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2006/11/19/GLOBAL.TMP

Living on their houseboat off the Marin County coast, anti-war activists Donna Sheehan and her partner, Paul Reffel, concocted a way for the world to communally create a lot of peaceful vibes. They want everyone to have an orgasm on the same day.

On Dec. 22, they're asking the world to contribute in their own way to the Global Orgasm for Peace. Sheehan said not to worry if you don't have a partner. Busy multi-taskers shouldn't despair about trying to cram this global activism into their busy schedules, either, she said. Take any time during the 24-hour period at the beginning of the winter solstice to join the demonstration. Just make sure to think of peace before or after participating.

Once you've committed, there's even a secret sign to show others that you plan to take part: Flash the universal "OK" sign and wink. Or, as it has been redubbed, "The O" sign. While the Global O may sound much like other collective actions attempted over the years, the O's organizers promise something more on their Web site: "The combination of high-energy orgasmic energy combined with mindful intention may have a much greater effect than previous mass meditations and prayers."

Deeply committed to what's best for all of us and to personal & global transformation through love & empowerment.

"There is a vitality, a life force, an energy... that is translated through you into action. ...there is only one you in all time, this expression is unique.... if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium... the world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is… It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open." M. Graham

Evalena Rose, M. A., MetaTherapist, Channel
Evalena Rose <evalena@tantraforwomen.com>

LoveJourney: The Healing Path of Tantra

Featured on award-winning documentary, "Hearts Cracked Open"
Sample of film: http://www.tantraforwomen.com <http://www.tantraforwomen.com/>

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Thank you, Shakti Jan

annann — Wed, 20 Dec 2006 20:05:27 GMT

Shakti Jan,

Thank you for transfering moderatorship of this Tribe over to me.

I am so happy that you did not just delete the whole tribe.

I only hope that I can do as good a job as moderator as you have done.

I hope that you will continue to post your classes and thoughts.

Love,

Ann

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Toxic Male Gonads - Database lists chemicals by illness caused

ToxicReverend — Tue, 05 Dec 2006 23:05:03 GMT

Are your Gonads on Endocrine Disruptors ?
A picture is worth a thousand words, so see
Male Gonads on Endocrine Disruptors
http://www.angelfire.com/nm/redcollarcrime/yg.html

And I wondeer why I have so few friends.

Now that I have your attention:>

Database summarizes between chemical
contaminants and approximately 180 human
diseases or conditions.
http://database.healthandenvironment.org/

The database is a work in progress.
Many of the members of this project are
with the Breast Cancer Fund
www.breastcancerfund.org
Of which was the main grassroots organization
behind California Senate Bill 600 to start testing
patients for toxic chemicals. The bill was signed
into law 09, 2006 and testing has yet to begin.
Numerous organizations and individuals have
joined this database and submit peer
reviewed medical journal articles concerning
chronic illnesses and toxic chemicals.

Presently, I am working on the book,
"American Roulette: Guns are for Russian Roulette.
We use products and services.
The Red White and Blue of crime in America".
Red Collar Crime KILLS, are YOU their next victim ?
Homicide Charges For Corporations
(a District Attorney with ten convictions)...
www.angelfire.com/nm/redcollarcrime

The 1991 Gulf War Vets are exposing the use of Americans for
biological weapons testing since the 1940's, with documentation
http://www.gulfwarvets.com
Check their "Beyond Treason" posting:>
"What you do not know about our government could kill you:...

The "chapter "Toxic Revelations" is in a state of flux ...

Toxic Revelations and censored military information
Toxic fraud, exposure sources and biological weapons /
chronic illnesses, cancers, sub-clinical infections,
mycoplasma treatment, low dose cumulative ...
verifiable peer reviewed medical journals linked in
http://www.angelfire.com/in/sickbuildingsyndrome/tr.html

Blessings,

The Toxic Reverend
An Environmental Technologist

Toxic's Profile - tribe.net
I will be editing "Toxic Revelations" as I can,
and want to add more of this type of information
to it. Blessing's, The Toxic Reverend ...
http://people.tribe.net/toxicreverend

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Adieu!

Shakti_Jan — Thu, 21 Sep 2006 05:41:07 GMT

Hi Folks~ I notice I've been feeling unsatisfied about the lack of participation in the Bay Area Tantra Tribe. It's not been meeting my need for connection, community, fun, and inspiration. I imagine, it's probably not fulfilling the same for others either.

So this is it! Shiva is the Hindu god responsible for change both in the form of death and destruction and in releasing what no longer serves. I no longer see that this forum serves so, I'm planning to delete it by next Monday. May its absence create room for a new and unique manifestation! Until then, please share whatever communications you would like to in order to feel complete.

I honor your interest in tantra and the eternal Divine essence in each one of you. Many joyous blessings to you on your path!
Namaste! Love, Jan

P.S. If you'd like to stay in touch with me and/or receive information about my events and classes, please feel free to join my mailing list at www.tantricjoy.com.

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Censorship on Tribe!

baredick — Wed, 20 Dec 2006 06:15:43 GMT

Tribe today (12/18/06) censored this pic of me!
Damn, I wish there were some way to protest within Tribe. Can't even send a message to multiple people/tribes at once!
Tribe is FUCKED!!!
RICHARD

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A Taste of Bliss Daylong Workshop Jan. 14

Shakti_Jan — Wed, 20 Dec 2006 01:51:22 GMT

A Taste of Bliss
Ipsalu Tantra Daylong Workshop
”The Bliss of Breath and Subtle Energy Ecstasy”
with Jan Robinson, Ipsalu Tantra Kriya Yoga Instructor

Sunday, January 14, 2007

Phone: (510) 469-8268
E-mail: jan@tantricjoy.com
Web Site: www.tantricjoy.com

WHEN: 10am - 5:30pm
WHERE: Heartwalker Studio, Oakland, CA
COST: $125 per individual; $80 for Ipsalu grads. Includes gourmet catered lunch, practice CD, and take-home materials. Open to beginners and adepts alike, singles and couples, and all sexual orientations.

In this daylong experiential course in tantra learn and explore tantric breath and energy techniques for better health, better sex, and expanded awareness!

Our breath is one of the most powerful spiritual tools we have for creating states of well-being, healing, and spiritual transformation. Through breath, and a variety of other techniques you will learn, you also open your perception to the world of subtle energy. Working with the subtle energies is at the heart of tantric practice and is where the magic lies. Learn ways to deepen perception of the energies in and around you, to activate, expand, and integrate consciousness, heart, and sexual energies, to direct the flow within your body or with a partner.

Once we open to the flow of the energy within our own body, we also open up to the flow of energy in the universe. ~ Wilhelm Reich

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11/19 Introduction to Skydancing Tantra - Santa Clara, CA

teamnoir — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 16:45:57 GMT

Other than the fact that I'm teaching this one, and it's being held at Edges, it's not otherwise pain based. :-).

Introduction to Skydancing Tantra
With Liz and Chris

Sunday, November 19, 10am - 6pm
Santa Clara, California

Ever wondered about Tantra? Interested in improving your communications skills? In learning to build further intimacy and trust? Especially around the intersection of sexuality and spirituality? Curious about creating sacred space? Or about developing your connection with a partner?

In this full day workshop you will be introduced to Tantra in general and to Skydancing Tantra in specific by Liz and Chris. Both Liz and Chris are Skydancing Tantra facilitators in training and students of internationally acclaimed Tantra expert and author Margot Anand. Tantra is an experiential discipline and this class is a start in that direction. You will have the opportunity to explore for yourself some of the exercises of Skydancing Tantra in a private, supportive, encouraging, nonjudgmental environment.

This workshop is open to singles and couples of any gender.

For more info and to register: http://teamnoir.name/SkydanceIntro20061119.html

Questions? mailto: ice@noir.com

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Poly/ Open Relationship Support Group starting Nov 5th in SF

Meriana — Mon, 30 Oct 2006 23:01:05 GMT

Dear friends & whomever might be interested..

Meriana de Jager and Ty Gesyuk would like to invite you to a bi-weekly poly/open relationships support group, beginning Sunday, November 5th from 6-8 PM, in the Glen Park neighborhood of San Francisco.

We believe that each individual has an inner knowing of what relationship models fits them best so this group is being formed in order to help you create more choices in relationship.
We will:
* discuss the difference between polyamory and open relationships.
* share concerns around why different models of relating hasn't worked for you.
* focus on specific issues such as jealousy management, the negotiating of boundaries, etc.
* ascertain which models of relating is best for you and learn how to assert and manage each one.
* discuss and provide information, tools and skills about how to create more options for either polyamory or open relationships.
* illuminate the ways in which we stop ourselves from getting what we want.
* offer integration techniques for successfully negotiating differences in relationship models.

We are committed to creating a safe and comfortable environment for communication, innovation and experimentation. There will be plenty of room for discussions and exchange of experiences, as well as guided exercises and structured interactions.

This group is open to individuals and couples with all kinds of experiences with poly/& open relationships from any sexual orientation. You are welcome whether you are already in or contemplating an open/polyamorous relationship, or you are much more monogamous with a polyamorously inclined partner.

THE FACILITATORS:

Meriana de Jager earned her Masters in Counseling Psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies and is currently working at New Perspectives Center for Counseling. She has been working with individuals and couples for 5 years. Some of the psychotherapeutic modalities she has extensive training and practice in are Psychodynamics, Cognitive Behavioral, Hakomi, RCS and Body-centered psychotherapy.
Meriana feels strongly about each persons right to create for themselves the life they truly desire. She is passionate about helping people find, define and be empowered in what is true for them and is committed to helping them actualize it in their lives.

TY GESYUK has worked as a personal coach for many years and has interviewed thousands of couples on what makes a healthy relationship last. His approach in coaching couples is rooted in the oriental wisdom of nature. Apart from working as a personal coach he has an extensive background in yoga, meditation, dance, massage, martial arts, nutrition and personal training. He draws from modern and ancient systems to teach, in simple terms, a language of health. His core belief is that health equals freedom. After observing people suffer with health concerns and in a prison-of-sorts from their pain, he vowed to do something about it. Since then he has founded three centers of health, taught over a hundred thousand yoga students, and massaged at least twenty thousand people.

Address: 298 Laidley St. @ Miguel
in the Glen Park neighborhood of San Francisco

RSVP is recommended

This first gathering on November 5th will be donation based. If you feel this information will help you to the point of wanting to continue to come to these gathering, in the future there will be a sliding scale of $20-$50. No one will be turned away for lack of funds. Call Meriana at 415-713-3338 or Ty at 973-495-5996 if you have any questions. Hope to see you there!

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Conscious Realtionship Workshop

sadasiva — Fri, 16 Sep 2005 03:50:51 GMT

hey folks,
I will be leading the "Conscious Relationships through Vedic Astrology" workshop at One Taste SF -

this should be a lot of fun,, we will be doing some breathing exercises and mantra chanting as well as discussing the timeless, powerful relationship principles used in vedic (Indian) Astrology - this is the same Spiritual tradition of Yoga and Tantra and have been predicitng happy marriages for thousands of years - Yet modern Western relationship gurus like David Deida also refer to the same timeless archetypes or the empowered, yet sensitive male and female.

http://www.vedicastrologycenter.net/relationship-workshop.html has more info an the ability to register. email me with questions..

Modern relationship paths and Western relationship gurus like David Deida have led the way to a deeper and clearer path of understanding in relationships. These relationships find men and women meeting from postions of strength and respect for the sacred masculine and feminine.

Did you know that these techniques are clearly and succinctly revealed in the Vedic Astrological texts and ancient archetypes? These are the same powerful techniques that have been accurately predicting happy, long-lasting marriages in India for thousands of years. These techniques and principles can be applied to support all of your relationships, not just romantic ones."

Bonus: Everyone will receive a free quick Astro analysis and a mantra / gem recommendation based on the planets in their birth charts (sent via email afterwards).
* for these FREE extras you should have accurate birth info (date/time/place).

When: Wed 10/26 AND Thurs 10/27 | 7:30-9:30PM (4 hrs. total)
Where: One Taste SF - 1074 Folsom at 7th (415.503.1100)
Price: $45 for individuals - $80 for couples
(couples may have their charts looked at as a part of the class, with permission)

FORMAT:
Day 1: (2 hrs) Larger themes, male|female strengths and archetypes discussed within the relationship dynamic, Sun and Moon discussed
Day 2: (2 hrs) Other planets discussesd, see these themes and techniques illustrated in real charts
* We will be chanting the names of the planets (mantras) at different times - there is no better way to feel what the planets do than by chanting their mantras.

about me:
Sam Geppi (Sadasiva) has over 20 years of Vedic Study and experience. He is a Hatha Yoga instructor and certified Vedic Astrologer and Teacher through the American Council of Vedic Astrology (level 2) as well as a contributing author to various Astrological publications and the Author of "The Ascendant - 108 Planets for Vedic Astrology".

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Acupressure for Lovers with Shakti Jan

Shakti_Jan — Thu, 12 Oct 2006 22:43:10 GMT

“Awakening the Goddess: Acupressure Love Points for Women”
Evening workshop for couples or paired singles

Date: Monday, October 23, 2006
Time: 8-10pm. Doors open at 7:30pm
Location: Good Vibrations Store in Berkeley. 2504 San Pablo Avenue (at Dwight Way)
Cost: $45 per couple

What to Wear: Loose, comfortable clothing
What to Bring: Pillow and a yoga mat or small blanket
Contact: Berkeley Good Vibrations at 510.841.8987.
This is a popular class. It's strongly advised to register in advance.

Conscious, loving touch is one of our best resources for creating deep intimacy with one another. In this special acupressure arousal routine for women and their partners, cultivate your sexual and spiritual connection as a couple as you open a space for your beloved's sexual energy to emerge and flow. We will explore six sets of love points to nurture, arouse, and awaken the goddess within. Routine may be performed either by a man or another woman. No experience with acupressure necessary. As a warm-up for the goddess massage, you'll experience a set of tantric partner exercises to attune to yourselves and to one another on the levels of heart, sex, and spirit.

If you are single and would like to attend "Awakening the Goddess", post a message on this thread. It could be just the thing to connect with a new tantric practice partner!

Namaste, Jan

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10/15 Restriction - A Ritual BDSM Playshop (Santa Clara)

teamnoir — Fri, 29 Sep 2006 15:34:30 GMT

Restriction
A Ritual BDSM PlayShop
with Chris English
Sunday, October 15, 1-4pm
at Edges - http://edges.biz

This month at PlayShop we will be constructing a new ritual together with the intent of creating safe and sacred space sufficient to support each participant exploring the experiences of both restriction and of restricting in at least minor ways.

Part ritual, part discussion group, part tantra puja, part class, part show-n-tell, part play party, part experimental laboratory, this series of events is an immersive introduction and experience in ritual BDSM sex magick. All genders and orientations are welcome.

All experience levels welcome. If you're a beginner and would like to try some, come. If you're a seasoned magick practitioner, witch, shaman, priest, tantrika, or other ritual worker, and would like to figure out how to mix your skills with BDSM, please come. If you're a seasoned bdsm player and would like to know how to make your play more spiritual, purposeful, and/or meaningful, please come. If you're an experienced ritual magick BDSM practitioner, please come help create. If you'd just like to hang and hold space, please come.

Bring your ritual kit, your toy bag, your drums, your excitement, your enthusiasm, and your partner. Don't fret if you're missing any of these items as we'll likely have enough to share. :-).

Questions? mailto: ice@noir.com
or check http://teamnoir.name/ChrisEnglish/PlayShop.html

Admission is $10 - no one turned away for lack of funds.

This will be the last PlayShop in 2006. Mark your calendars now! The next PlayShop will be Jan 21, 2007.

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Thanks Jan

Seraf — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 04:55:51 GMT

I attended your class in Santa Cruz this last Saturday, (the 16th) and I really enjoyed it. It was my first Tantric experience, and I am looking forward to learning more. I intend to join the current tuesday practices held at the Vets Hall. Thanks for sharing your passion and time. I hope to meet you again sometime, perhaps in a more intimate setting.

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Has Anyone Visited Kali Ma?

ashuru — Wed, 06 Sep 2006 20:10:59 GMT

Namaste

:)

Recently a friend of my dad recommended visiting:

http://www.tantrayogainternational.org

Has anyone here visited Kali Ma or any of her dharma centers? If so, what was your experience?

Love,

Luke

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Prana Touch Ayurvedic Massage Class in SF

Fri, 08 Sep 2006 08:04:07 GMT

Prana Touch Ayurvedic Massage
With Andrew Assalian, CMT

Fall classes start September 13, 2006.
New schedule is now available at www.pranatouch.com.

This Fall dive deep into Ayurvedic massage. Learn the luxurious warm oil massage techniques of southern India and take home the knowledge to perform a full-body Ayurvedic massage. Explore the bodies vital energy centers, marma points, and practice the long flowing strokes that make this massage form unique.

Prana Touch Ayurvedic Massage meets weekly at Medicine Buddha Tea House in the Mission district of SF. We are a short block from Rainbow grocery and 3 blocks to 16th and Mission BART.

Classes meet every Wednesday from 6-9 pm giving you the chance to learn Ayurvedic massage and 4 Handed massage in a relaxed and supportive environment.

The whole series is covered in 10 classes which repeat 4 times each year. Every class is held on a drop-in basis so if you miss a class you can come back in 3 months and take it then. We meet weekly to give you the chance to practice and integrate the information, no intensives here.

The goal of the class is to train students to perform authentic Keralan Ayurvedic massage. Your instructor trained in Kerala, India, this class remains true to those teachings.

More Info
Students will be given the tools to customize the massage sequence to balance the recipients individual constitution or dosha type. You will also explore the use of special herbal massage oils and herbal preparations and take home samples of these products for practice after the class.

At Prana Touch you learn classical Keralan abhyanga, or oil application, which is traditionally performed to prepare one for the deep mind and body purification technique known as panchakarma. Kerala, India which is regarded as the birthplace of Ayurvedic warm oil massage.

Ayurvedic massage benefits both the physical body, especially the circulatory, lymphatic and nervous systems, as well as the energy body, which influences our mental and spiritual well-being.

Following successful completion, students will be able to:
· Offer traditional Ayurvedic massage to clients and prepare them for panchakarma
· Apply knowledge to the massage in order to balance the doshas of clients
· Gain a foundation for practicing a wide array of classical Keralan warm oil treatments like 4 handed abhyanga, shiroabhyanga, and shirodhara

This class is open to anyone with a basic knowledge of Swedish massage, who is comfortable moving around a massage table. Limit 10 participants.

Enrollment Fee
First class is $30, each additional class $45

Meeting Times and Location
Every Wednesday, 6-9 pm
Classes held at Medicine Buddha Tea House
2 Shotwell Street
San Francisco, CA 94103

Space is limited in order to maximize personal attention. Advance registration is preferred but not mandatory. To register please call 415.513.7271. For more information please call or email the instructor directly: andrew@natmedworks.com.

COURSE CONTENT & WHAT YOU WILL LEARN
· A full body abhyanga-a traditional Ayurvedic massage from Kerala, India, that can be sculpted to balance your clients doshas
· The long flowing strokes that are unique to Keralan Ayurvedic massage
· Therapeutic uses of Ayurvedic massage oils
· Energetic anatomy including the movements of prana and the chakra system
· Ayurvedic theory as it relates to massage
· Guidelines for stimulating Marma points
· The nadi’s of ayurveda, which mirror the meridians of Acupuncture theory and the Sen lines of Thai massage

HANDS ON:
· Selecting the proper Ayurvedic Massage Oil
· How to properly position the client
· Proper Draping Technique
· Specific full-body massage sequence
· Palpation and Theory of the Marma points

What to Bring:
Do not bring any clothing or linens that you would want to get oily, especially with rich and fragrant ayurvedic oils. Dress light and comfortable in clothing easy to get into and out of.

Class #1:
Bring an old thin bath towel to wrap your head (we will perform a scalp treatment), and a full size fitted sheet. If you can, please bring a small metal bowl.

All other Classes and Practice Sessions:
Bring a big beach towel, a regular size bath towel, a hand towel, an old pair of socks and a full size fitted sheet.

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Tantra Training or Groups in California?

Phoenix — Wed, 06 Sep 2006 04:44:41 GMT

Hi. I am new here and have been interested in Tantra for many years. Are there any groups in either Northern or Southern California that provide legitimate training in Tantra?

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Ipsalu Tantra Kriya Yoga Intro Class this Wednesday in Berkeley

Shakti_Jan — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 19:23:25 GMT

Fun Introductory Class - Ipsalu Tantra Kriya Yoga

Date: Wednesday, Sept. 13
Time: 7:30-9:30pm
Location: Berkeley, CA
Cost: $10-$20 suggested donation. No one turned away for lack of funds. Space is limited to 12 participants.
Contact: For information and to RSVP contact Jan at jan@tantricjoy.com or 510.469.8268.
Facilitator: Jan Robinson

What is it about learning or practicing Tantra that intruiges you? Perhaps it's a longing from your spirit to be truly alive! Perhaps it's a desire to be deeply connected with your True Self and to be in authentic, intimate connection with others. Or perhaps it's a wish to experience yourself as an absolutely free being, erotically awakened, and creatively self-expressed!

Enjoy an introductory evening learning about and experiencing Ipsalu Tantra. The class will include solo and interactive exercises (including conscious use of the breath, movement, dance, sound, meditation, and energy exercises) to awaken your BlissBody as you connect with yourself and others in a safe, friendly and sacred environment. Learn practical techniques to take home with you to enhance your sexual love life and spiritual well-being. Hear about the upcoming Level 1 weekend intensive “Learning to Live in Bliss” at Sierra Hot Springs, October 27-29th and have an opportunity to register with a discount.

Singles and Couples welcome! No prior Tantra experience required. Invite your friends!

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Please introduce yourself!

Shakti_Jan — Mon, 04 Sep 2006 21:28:21 GMT

Tribe offers a wonderful opportunity for creating community. In a community, people know one another. There is a sense of warm familiarity, appreciation of one another, and a sense of safety that allows for authentic expression.

So, please introduce yourself! Who are you? What brings you here? What is it you are seeking or wanting to share or create?

To introduce myself . . .
I'm Jan, Jan Robinson. I live in Berkeley and am a Bay Area native. I spent about 2 1/2 years total also living in Germany and Italy as part of my studies in musicology. I went to UC Berkeley to get a Ph.D. in that field but left my program before completing because my life was in crisis. In that extreme, competitive environment I came up against my major ego strategies. They were no longer working for me and it really scared me. I was so depressed and I wanted to die. In retrospect I see that it was my ego that was dying. The stress I was experiencing opened up a crack in its hard, hard shell and finally the light of my soul could then begin to emerge. My life since then has been devoted to my own healing and transformation. It's been a process of learning to follow my life energies and listening to my body (as opposed to living according to "shoulds" and only listening to my mind). It's been a process of deepening my connection into my body and discovering how my body serves as a doorway to the Divine (that is tantra). It's been a process of learning to identify more and more with my higher self and less with my ego, its history and beliefs. That is what is necessary to grow spiritually and as I result I have rediscovered (and am continuing to discover) my essence as being-consciousness-and-bliss (Sat-chit-ananda). I believe that on a communal, planetary level as our path of spiritual evolution unfolds and we move towards Oneness, we will experience ourselves and our lives, our culture more and more as a harmonious balance and interplay of the enlightend masculine and feminine energies (Shiva/Shakti). We are at a critical time in the history of humanity where has perhaps never been as important to awaken spiritually. A critical mass of awakened beings may be all that it takes to alter the course of destruction we are on as a collective humanity and re-orient ourselves towards harmony (oneness). I believe tantra today is playing a crucial role in this evolutionary process of consciousness on our planet. I devote myself completely and passionately mind, heart, body, and soul to the cultivation of myself as a conscious, ecstatic being through tantra, as I understand it, and feel it as my soul purpose to share tantra with others.

Namaste, Jan

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Timeless Loving

teamnoir — Mon, 04 Sep 2006 18:10:31 GMT

People have asked for more check backs and the like, so...

This weekend I assisted Steve and Lokita Carter,

http://ecstaticliving.com

with their Timeless Loving workshop

http://ecstaticliving.com/workshops/timelessloving.html

up at Harbin

http://harbin.org

It was a full class, a couple folks from around tribe were present but I'll let them speak for themselves if they choose.

Honestly, I'm not sure what else to say, really. Harbin is always lovely. I had many good soaks in their fabulous pools. It was a great group. Steve and Lokita were each in excellent form. Food was excellent, weather was lovely.

I'm looking foward to the first 8-day session of Margot Anand's facilitators' training which starts at Harbin in a couple of weeks.

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Plans For The Weekend?

ashuru — Fri, 08 Sep 2006 17:22:43 GMT

Namaste

:-)

What are everyone's plans for the weekend? Is there anything fun going on in Santa Cruz? Would anyone like to get together? :-)

Here's my plan:
* play some poker tonight (Friday)
* have a nice long meditation session Saturday morning
* go see a friend play at his first gig at The Britannia Arms in Aptos 10PM Saturday night
* go to the Stillpoint satsang Sunday morning
* watch the "Final Conflict: Absolute" Pride fight at 6PM Sunday night

Other than that, i'm just going to play it by ear and see where the present moment takes me.

Spread the love everyone!

:-)

~Luke

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Conventional vs. Tantric Lovemaking

Shakti_Jan — Tue, 05 Sep 2006 02:10:36 GMT

Some distinctions between conventional lovemaking and Tantric lovemaking . . .

Sex is goal-oriented. Some people never touch each other unless bound for orgasm. They don’t want to start something they can’t finish. The end of lovemaking is often determined by the male ejaculatory orgasm.
Tantric lovers enter into loveplay without expectations, especially regarding orgasm. It is a spontaneous exploration. In tantric lovemaking, you could gracefully stop at any point and feel complete. Why not enjoy the start as much as the finish?

Western lovers tend to hurry their passion
Tantric lovers celebrate and embrace their divine connection. Tantric lovemaking takes more time. Take a minimum ½ hour each for foreplay, union, afterglow.

Western lovers usually practice friction sex
Tantric lovers may enjoy friction sex for a while and then go beyond into energy sex, moving orgasmic energy upward through the body. This spiritualizes the sexual energy so both partners are nourished while making love. Tantric lovemaking does not require erection/penetration. Tantra is about feeling energy and moving it through the bodies.

Sex is often riddled with guilt, judgment, fear, and shame. Many people feel guilty about sex. Western lovers make love in the dark or with bodies covered. It is common to suppress or reject sexual energy.
The point in tantra is not to avoid desires, sexual or otherwise, but rather to express and fulfill the desire consciously, appropriately, being the Witness, without guilt or judgment. Sprit cannot abide where guilt and shame prevail. There is nothing to reject or suppress.

Those raised in the Christian culture have been taught that there is something inherently degrading about sex.
Sexuality in the context of love is sacred. All parts of you are sacred. The ritual of sexual union called Maithuna is the essence of your connection to Existence. Sexual energy is vital, precious life force energy.

In this male-dominated society, men set the tone for the sexual experience – they are eager to get started and quick to finish. Their sexual history is based on hurrying to complete the act. Many men are conditioned to respond to their sexual arousal with an impulse to quickly relieve that tension by rushing into penetration and orgasm.
Men in tantra learn to take more time, to let their energy build and expand through the body. They relax into extended lovemaking.

Men attempt to control ejaculation by thinking of something else (disconnect from partner).
Tantric men influence the ejaculatory response through physical relaxation, slow deep breathing through the nose and transmuting sexual energy. He remains fully present and in connection with his partner.

Society teaches that only husbands and wives can share in the expressions of sexual energy.
Tantric practices allow the sexual energy to flow freely, but channel it upward to be expressed through the heart without genital involvement (when that’s not appropriate).

Many suffer from too little sexual energy. Their energy has been shut down by subconscious beliefs and attitudes acquired early in life, traumatic experiences and disappointments with insensitive lovers, physical limitations from unhealthy lifestyle.
Sexual energy is available whenever you desire. Tantric partners have brought to witness old, limiting beliefs about sex, have healed major emotional traumas, care for the health of their bodies, and know techniques for generating and intensifying sexual energy.

Society teachers how wonderful “higher” love is and denigrates “lower” love.
Lower love is a vital component of higher love

Sex is depleting
Sex is nourishing and energizing

Sexual energy is managed by repressing it or blowing it off (tension release orgasm)
Sexual energy is cultivated for increased vitality, love, healing, creativity, and expansion of consciousness awareness

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Damn I wanna try some of that Tantra stuff..

archangel_ariel_777 — Tue, 05 Sep 2006 21:21:23 GMT

How do I hook up with some Tantra babe yo?

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Looking for a good new read about tantra or tantric sexuality?

Shakti_Jan — Tue, 05 Sep 2006 03:42:14 GMT

Recommended Reading List by Shakti Jan
~ Tantra and Tantric Sexuality ~

Osho. Sex Matters. An inspiration to millions in the U.S. and around the world, Osho describes a unique view of sex as a door to self-discovery. He begins with the premise that sex in its uncorrupted purity is simply equivalent to the life force itself. Osho deconstructs layers and layers of sexual repression and guilt to show how people can reclaim the innocent and sensuous playfulness they enjoyed as children. By restoring our sexual functioning to a healthy state, Osho shows how erotic activity can be a valuable tool for self-discovery and transformation, and explores ways to experience sex as a form of meditation.

Sunyata Saraswati and Bodhi Avinasha. Jewel in the Lotus: The Tantric Path to Higher Consciousness and its companion book by Bodhi Avinasha, The Ipsalu Formula: A Method for TantraBliss. True to tantra’s original purposes, these texts focus on tantra as a path of spiritual growth and self-realization. This is an advanced course based on Tantra Kriya Yoga. A must read for anyone who wishes to go deeper into the transformational spiritual practices of tantra. Both books contain excellent guidance on tantric lovemaking.

Charles and Caroline Muir. Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving. Excellent introduction to a modern Western adaptation of tantric philosophy and practice to intimate relationship. Written for couples who wish to deepen their connection and elevate their lovemaking experience to new levels.

Diana Richardson. The Heart of Tantric Sex: A Unique Guide to Love and Sexual Fulfilment. The ancient practice of Tantra, with its unique, intelligent approach to sex has the effect of enhancing intimacy and deepening love. Here Diana Richardson has adapted Tantra for modern Western lovers in a practical, sympathetic way. Tantric Sex can transform your experience into a more sensual, loving, and fulfilling one.

David and Ellen Ramsdale. Sexual Energy Ecstasy: A Practical Guide to Lovemaking Secrets of the East and West.

Georg Feuerstein. Tantra: The Path of Ecstasy. Written by today’s foremost Yoga researcher, this scholarly introduction to Hindu Tantra offers a clear understanding of authentic Tantra. It dispels many common misconceptions about Tantra, providing an accessible introduction to the history, philosophy, and practice of this extraordinary spiritual tradition.

Daniel Odier. Tantric Quest: An Encounter with Absolute Love by Daniel Odier. A true story based on Daniel Odier’s compelling personal journey - his quest for tantra in India and eventual initiation into Shivaic Tantrism by a great female yogi.

David Deida. The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover. Presents a collection of skills for opening to the physical, emotional, and spiritual rewards of intimate embrace. It includes a CD with exercises to guide you alone or with a partner. Also see Enlightened Sex: Finding Freedom & Fullness Through Sexual Union (audio book) and Intimate Communion (book).

Barry Long. Making Love (audio book, also available as a printed book). In his radical teachings on Tantra Barry Long speaks about sexual love the Divine way.

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I'm staying afterall . . . but! . . .

Shakti_Jan — Fri, 01 Sep 2006 23:52:12 GMT

Well, It's September 1st and Bay Area Tantra hasn't turned into a pumpkin. I've decided afterall to continue participating as moderator.

I would, however, like to see more activity here. I know there are lots o' people out there attending tantra workshops, practicing various forms of tantra, thinking about starting to learn tantra, wondering this or that about it. So, I want to hear from you! Geez, we're 720 people here. Step up. Let's get some dynamic sharing happening here. Make this an interesting, engaging, and meaningful resource for yourself. You (we) can do it.

Love and blessings, Jan

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Charles Muir

teamnoir — Mon, 04 Sep 2006 18:13:33 GMT

In the spirit of local news...

I got email a couple weeks ago that Charles Muir is moving to Santa Cruz and was looking for a place to set up shop. This could mean that we may see more from him locally soon.

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prostate surgery, impotence, and tantra

Shakti_Jan — Mon, 04 Sep 2006 20:31:51 GMT

One of my collegues asked the following question:

> One of my students tonight has had prostate removal surgery, and is impotent. Do any of you have experience with people in this situation? Any advice?"

Here was my response:

Prostate cancer patients can benefit greatly from a tantric perspective in 1) re-gaining lost sexual potency AND 2) expanding more fully into their ecstatic potential on account of increased awareness of their sexual energy and approaches to conscious lovemaking.

Times of crisis can lead to spiritual awakening and here is such an opportunity for a man. It's traumatic to lose ones sexual function. Can you imagine how scary that would be? Here are some things he needs to know (and learn):

1) Medical doctors know very little (perhaps next to nothing) about how a man can effectively heal from prostate surgery. Doctors know
about pharmaceutical medicine, but not necessarily energy medicine. They will prescribe viagra or the like and lead the patient to believe he needs it for the rest of his life. As if that's just the way things are. Don't believe what the doctors say about recovery time, and potential for regaining sexual function. They greatly underestimate what is possible.

One client I worked with began to regain his erections only after 2 months following surgery. The doctor predicted 1-3 years, if ever. When my client went in for his next check-up, the doctor was astounded. The doctor asked him incredulously, "WHAT have you been doing?"

2) The area of the body that has undergone trauma needs love, blood circulation and energy flow. Rather than hating that part of his body for the limitations that have resulted from the ailment and the surgery, bring love, compassion, and tenderness to it. Being angry about the situation, hating or banishing that part of the body from ones consciousness (denial) results in fragmentation, splitting ourselves off from ourselves. The healing process is hindered. We all know the healing power of love. Love integrates. Love restores wholeness.

From this place of self-love and self-honoring engage in daily techniques to promote healing. A gentle aswini mudra practice will increase blood circulation (bringing oxygenated blood to the traumatized area), and energy flow necessary for healing. He will likely also increase his consciousness awareness of his root and the subtle energy there. Vajroli mudra will bring increased blood flow to the penis, necessary for promoting erection.

He must know these practices will have cumulative benefit over time only through consistent practice. Consistency is the key. Small amounts of time daily (no more than 5 minutes) over the course of several weeks or months. He must have trust, patience and committment. Ask him to define his purpose for doing the exercises, his feelings about that and what time committment he is willing to make (5 minutes everyday for 6 weeks or 3 months or 1 year? for example).

3) Get creative about lovemaking. Explore new possibilities. As David Schnarch comments in his book "Passionate Marriage" (highly recommended)

"If you want to make love why not use the parts capable of loving - your brain and your heart - and let the rest of your anatomy follow as it will? If not disappointing your wife is important to you, let me ask: when you lose your erection, do you every find your tongue or fingers go limp too?"

While the body is healing use this as an opportunity to get creative about lovemaking, to bring it to higher levels, bring meditation into lovemaking, explore new, conscious ways of making love, take the opportunity to learn what a woman REALLY wants. He may find it has little to do with his erect penis (i.e. presence, emotional intimacy, an abundance of non-sexual affection over her whole body). Discover the great pleasure he can give a woman with his soft-on: Play! Soft-ons are so friendly. Include: "tapping" all over her yoni playfully; "painting" all around her yoni with lots of oil, soft-lingam is the paint brush; "churning" the head of the lingam just inside her yoni with one hand while holding firmly at the base of his lingam with the other. The only problem with these soft-on techniques is that, while doing them, the lingam doesn't usually stay soft. No matter. Make love without expectation!

4) Learn the practices of Witness consciousness and emotional flow. This is essential for healing. It's the best protection against staying stuck in a limiting situation. He must learn to observe neutrally but benevolently his thoughts, feelings, and sensations while experiencing them fully, consciously. Emotional flow practices using the firebreath technique or Osho's dynamic meditation will help him work through difficult emotions and keep his energy body open to the flow of his life force energy.

I know these methods help. Great courage and committement is required. The process is not always easy and in fact is sometimes really hard. I've walked a few clients through their healing process to come out the other side with renewed appreciation for lovemaking, expanded potential for bliss, and gratitude.

Love, Jan

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If you wish to learn any of the techniques and methods referred to above (i.e. aswini mudra, vajroli mudra, firebreath orgasm, Osho's dynamic meditation, witness consciousness), please join me for a weekend intensive of Ipsalu Tantra training at Sierra Hot Springs October 27-29, 2006.

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