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David Deida REturning to California in September

2008-07-10T18:20:25Z

David has agreed to do one additional Live Intensive on the West Coast this year - in Los Angeles -- in Marina Del Rey on the weekend of Sept 12-14.

To learn more - check in at www.DeidaEvents.com or email me directly at DeidaEvents@gmail.com

Hope to see you there!

Adam
Deida Events

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Looking for place to stay in berkeley!!!!!!

2008-06-25T19:39:29Z

So I've realized that this town in the san joaquin valley I live in has been
the cause for some of the negative energy.
I have been feeling the urge to just pack my bags and go for
a long time now, but the urge has now turned into a gut response.
Does anyone know of any open houses or squatter pads or just friendly
people willing to open their home to a central-valley refugee around berkeley?
I am a very down-to-earth, friendly, laughing, hard-working person, and I will
work and help out any way I possibly can.
I am a certified massage therapist and apprentice body piercer (Still need to learn a few things)
so I imagine finding work would not be that hard.........

Please let me know.

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Tantra practice and ADD

2008-06-21T18:56:32Z

[this is a bit of a cross post... I mentioned it in another tribe, but had more thougths later that I wanted to bring here.]

Has anyone ever known/experienced anyone with severe adult ADD who has had trouble with the long tantra practices?

I have severe adult ADD, and even though I don't want to, I often lose focus during extended tantric sex practice. The breathing exercises help, but eventually my mind will wander off.

I'm curious to hear ideas or experiences with this issue.

Thanks
SG

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Background:

A healer who I really trust explained to me that ADD is caused by insufficient release of dopamine in the brain. The brain interprets this low dopamine level as a sign of "completion", that whatever required the focus of attention no longer needs the focus, and it's time to move on to something else. The person experiences this as the inablility to focus and concentrate that is the hallmark of ADD.

Low doses of amphetamines(such as adderal or ritalin) increase dopamine production, and help to "fool" the brain that focus is still required, and the person's attention doesn't wander as much.

I say "as much" becuause the solution isn't perfect.

I realize that dopamine is one of the things released during sex, but so far that hasn't been enough.

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a question

2008-06-21T04:10:55Z

I have had trouble with intimacy for a long time.
A lot of relationships I've had have been very sad and heartbreaking.
I have been wanting to feel a deep connection for a very long time,
to tap into the lifeforce and energy that runs through my being.
I have several books on tantra, but as of lately I have felt so lost and lonely,
my chakras need some intense healing from a bad childhood and past energy that floats around me still.
Sometimes the sadness is so intense I feel like I'm drowning.
I want to know how to better myself, to open up to intimacy, to enjoy life more, and to tap
into my inner being and walk a path of enlightenment.

Has anyone ever been through this also and
has some friendly advice?
Or any information on what I should do?
I have several books but my life has been so hectic that
I can't do any reading.
If anyone can relate to what I feel, that would be wonderful.

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Puja Ritual and Celebration this Saturday!

2008-06-06T16:15:07Z

Evening Tantra Ritual for Singles and Couples
Pre-Summer Puja! Saturday evening, June 7th at Vara Healing Arts in Albany from 7:30-9:30pm.
$30/individual; $50/couple; Pre-registration required.

The approach of summer is a great time to revitalize your life by opening your heart and mind to all that life has to offer.

In this upcoming pre-summer puja - a circle of interactive, heart-centered connections in ritual space - we celebrate and open to the qualities that the season offers: joyful playfulness, sensual warmth, freedom, and carefree exuberance.

You will be gently led through a variety interactive, playful and sensual interactions and exercises to expand your capacity to experience more love, and practice meeting others in your divine essence. In this magnificent dance of masculine and feminine energies, you'll discover an enhancement of spirit, and a joyous embrace of the sensual gifts of the body. Singles will meet new people in a conscious and safe setting, Couples will deepen trust and enhance intimacy. Dress in comfortable, vibrantly colorful, sensual attire.

This event is gender-balanced. Prior experience with tantra preferred.

More info at: http://www.tantricjoy.com/workshops.html or jan@tantricjoy.com

''Whereas most relationships are based on getting energy (love/ attention) from others, spiritual intimacy and true Tantra are based on tapping into a higher, unlimited source of spiritual energy and consciousness. Then the need to get energy from others through control, manipulation, dependency, etc. is purified out and replaced with an experience and trust in unlimited, divinely given love. This becomes the foundation for a true Tantric relationship wherein the energetic merging opens the channels for deepened connection and mutual healing'' ~ Robert Frey, Tantra teacher

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RESCRIPT LIMITS TANTRIC TOUCH FIRES by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D www.schooloftantra.com

2008-06-04T15:50:15Z

RESCRIPT LIMITS TANTRIC TOUCH FIRES by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D www.schooloftantra.com

Learn how to process the emotional material lovers release
when you finger their inner recesses in tantric ritual.

When you explore a Receiver's yoni or base chakra with your
fingers, the Receiver may block pleasure, orgasm and ejaculation. If
the Receiver tenses, numbs or burns at the internal touch at specific
places within her or his body, encourage Receiver to free associate,
to remember touch, sex and times that traumatized or closed her or
him down emotionally and sexually. She or he may even have past life
memories or fantasies as you hold the internal point.

If the Receiver yells, cries, laughs or makes strange sounds,
say,"Let your feelings out." Hold Receiver while she or he screams,
sobs and says what s/he needs to say to each person she thinks hurt
or neglected her. If she's angry at you, say, "Express it louder.
Let me know how mad I make you." Stay centered.

CATHART CONTEMPORARY CONTRATEMPS

If Receiver, while you touch her or his inner recesses,
remembers a person or situation in her or his current or recent life,
help her or him experience the immediacy and intensity her of his
organismic reaction to the person or situation by addressing the
person or situation in the here and now. .

If your Receiver experiences thoughts and emotions toward
someone who is physically absent, bring the absent person into the
Receiver's foreground here-and-now. Tell the Receiver to speak aloud
to the absent other as though the person s/he thought of were
present.

Tell your receiver: "Invoke the absent person you thought of
as I touch you here in your yoni [or base chakra]; say the person's
name aloud. Imagine s/he sits before you.

Then identify with the absent person you invoked. Assume her
or his emotional state.

Roleplay him or her and state your existence. Say what, as
s/he, you're like.

Be yourself again and tell her or him what you've withheld–
didn't say enough before.

Express your resentments, demands and appreciations to the
absent person.

Again, change roles; become the absent other and reply.

Alternate being yourself and the absent person..

REPROGRAM CHILDHOOD, ADOLESCENT OR EARLIER ADULT LIMITS

Again, change roles; become the absent other and reply..

Alternate being yourself and the absent person.
.
Ask Receiver to fantasize and roleplay redoing the painful,
humiliating or inappropriate scenes that traumatized her or him; keep
your fingers lightly on the area that stimulated catharsis.

Enact the part of her or his father, mother or lover the way
Receiver wished they were in the scene she or he recalled.

When s/he relaxes again, move your fingers to and from the
area that stimulated the painful memories and an area that felt good
when touched. Let your fingers stimulate these two areas till she
says she enjoys touch both places.

RESCRIPT PASTLIVES

If the Receiver images her- or himself or another figure with
whom she or he identifies in another body, another time, ask her or
him to recount and experientially relive the main events of this
pastlife. Tell Receiver. "Express your thoughts and feelings."

If s/he gets darkness, or no visions, say, "Imagine that
means you died. Replay the story, just before it darkens." Tell
Receiver, "Forgive yourself and anyone you resented."

Tell Receiver, "Say your last words and thoughts, then relive
your death." Then, "Separate from the body. As the separated soul,
feel peace. Rejoin loved ones who already died. Float with them
toward a light.

"Meet the karma committee and your guide. They review the
lessons you learned in that life. They tell you how to bring the
lessons of that life into this one."

Let us know on this site how exploring a receiver's inner
recesses helped them open up and transcend their limitations.

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TRANSCENDENTAL ORGASM by Janet Kira Lessin

2008-05-31T23:26:03Z

TRANSCENDENTAL ORGASM by Janet Kira Lessin
Relationships, Orgasms and Enlightenment - Entry for May 28, 2008

I wrote this 4 days ago. My life's so hectic, I haven't had much time
to blog. I love writing. Anyway, in between phone calls and people
coming into the office, I managed to write the following:

I journal every morning when I awaken. I guess I was more deeply
affected by the couple we worked with yesterday than I imagined. My
husband and I are relationship counselors. We work with singles and
groups. But most of our clients are couples.

A lot of couples have sexual issues. Many love each other, have
families or have built lives together that are complicated and
intricately entwined. But after a while, resentments, unresolved
emotional and psychological issues and withholds seem to deeply
affect sexuality and eventually lovemaking lessens or falls to the
wayside altogether.

I felt especially sorry for this couple. The woman had never had an
orgasm. Her lack of orgasm was extremely disheartening for both of
them.

A small amount of our female clients have never had an orgasm. Some
may have orgasmed once or twice, but have great difficulty achieving
orgasm at will. Some cannot orgasm during intercourse. Others can't
orgasm with stimulation by their partner and the woman is the only
one who can bring herself to orgasm. Sometimes she can only do so
with a vibrator.

When sexual union doesn't lead to orgasms for both partners, couples
feel great pain, hurt, guilt, anquish and frustration that often
erodes the relationship eventually leading partners to infidelity
which creates further separation and could eventually result in
divorce.

Some couples stay together and deny the importance of sexuality for
themselves and the relationship. Occassionally, couples seek more
modern options, like polyamory or swinging to subsidize and offset
their sexual needs. Mature, more conscious couples can make those
types of options work.

Tantra combined with psychotherapy helps women explore their history
to uncover the origins of their sexual dysfunction. Rape, incest,
molestation, cultural conditioning, pastlife scripts, religious
programming, shaming, blaming and imprinting often are the roots of
sexual disconnection and body dissociation.

The body holds trauma on a cellular level. A good tantric
psychotherapist can help couples overcome these issues and create a
happier, healthier sex life and relationship.

Saturday, May 24, 2008 - REFLECTIONS ON MY TRANSCENDENTAL ORGASMS
We did a session with a couple. The woman has NEVER had an orgasm.
Wow, that has to be frustrating. My orgasm takes me to unity
consciousness experiences. I feel my oneness with the ones involved
with my orgasm, either those connected with me directly, physically,
and those in the room. The veil drops, the curtain parts and I stand
before my Creator and WE ARE ONE. I feel ONE with all that IS, WAS,
WILL BE. I am outside time and space while simultaneously all that
there is. I am the IS-NESS OF IT ALL.

Then I sub-parse, separate, so it seems, to being me. Yet from this
state, I retain my connection with ALL and realize I have NEVER been
apart. Nor will I ever be apart. Yet as the glory of the
orgasm/orgiastic state begins to fade, I devolve, so it seems, to my
Ego Self and begin to doubt, on some level, the unity experience I
just experienced. Such is the power of the Veil and the desire of the
Ego to be truly ALONE with ITSELF. Its sense of importance and
independence is so interwoven with the idea of being separate, being
important, individually that it protects itself with shields of
memories and forgetting.

Yet, there's a point of internalization when the dance between Ego
and Oneness is so purely defined, no matter how hard the Ego Self
attempts to hide and cover up the Oneness phase, the soul remains
connected to WHOLENESS and thus achieves the first level of
consciousness.

Now what? I am aware of higher levels. So I continue to be drawn to
these Unity Experiences so that I can become totally conscious and
aware and assist my fellow souls, my humans, humanity, as they cry so
clearly. I hear you. I am here to help you, help me, help ALL become
enlightened.

How Do You Orgasm? What's your orgasmic peak? What're your methods
of reaching unity consciousness connectiong with yourself and others
tantrically? Share on this site.

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Tantric Massage Trade

2008-05-19T02:26:47Z

I'd love to trade Tantric Massage with a masseuse-dakini in the SF North Bay area.

Love and Light,
Sunyata

www.mythiclove.net/sunyata

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Hi Hi

2008-04-11T20:29:40Z

hello everyone. i want to learn more about tantra and other things but my biggest issue is expense (well 2nd biggest would be transportation). i live in south bay but i wonder if anyone know of groups or clubs that offer classes where i could volunteer in some way to cut down how much it would cost to participate and learn?

More about me, i am a disabled graduate student who is trying to heal from a sexual injury that happened back in June 2007. At this point and for some time the physical injury has long since healed but the spiritual and emotional healing has not. I want to find my center again and be able to embrace the parts that are hurting and find the bliss again that i know exists in my body. It is like part of me is missing because of the injury. I need to relearn to trust my body again.

Any suggestions are welcome. Have a good day everyone.

chel

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Tantric and Sacred Graphics

2008-04-10T08:13:48Z

I am an "up-and-coming" artist in SF and am looking to build my portfolio.

I have an interest in sacred, sensual, art- as well as mandalas and more.

please check out my site and if you would like to support me by commissioning a piece or pieces from me, i would be honored.

I am asking the universe for abundance, renewal, creative opportunity and flow.

something people might be interested in is my chakra series (I have root and svadhisthana posted, the rest to be produced at a later date)

please feel free to take a look at my new site: web.mac.com/ashasophia/

Namaste and Om Shanti to all.

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just got back from the Swiss

2008-03-10T15:33:19Z

and had a great Osho, Barry Long inspired Seminar with Raja and Puja. . . would love to hear from other who have been through the workshop http://www.loveforcouples.com . Found it to be very balanced, gentle and touching. . . and you?

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Male multiple orgasms

2008-02-09T04:16:51Z

I'm sorry if this topic has already been covered. If so, will you please point me to the thread?

One of the practices of Tantra involves male multiple orgasms This ability is achieved by separating orgasm from ejaculation. I have attempted this practice by following the text of different Tantra exercises (all roughly similar), and I have reached some "separation" ... except that it went the "wrong" way! That is, I end up ejaculating without orgasm, which is exactly the opposite of what I was hoping to achieve!

Now, it may be that this is actually a step forward... but it sure doesn't feel like it. I am wondering whether other men here have had similar experiences. I would appreciate comments from men who have tried this or from their partners, or anybody more experienced in tantra practices.

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David Deida is coming to SF!

2008-02-06T00:23:14Z

Hi…

I am working directly with David Deida and letting everyone in the various Deida Tribes know that he is coming to the West Coast this Spring for two LIVE workshops…

These intense weekend long workshops will be in SF in April and Seattle in May.

All the details are over at www.DeidaEvents.com

Please come on over for all the info.

We are trying to reach out to all men and women who would benefit from the kind of deep work David offers.

So please spread the word…

And if there’s anything I can do to help you do that, please write me.

I hope to see you at one of the workshops

Adam Gilad
DeidaEvents@gmail.com

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Share the Bliss of All-Chakra Lovemaking w/ Dr. Sasha Lessin & Janet Lessin

2008-02-02T17:27:00Z

Share the Bliss of All-Chakra Lovemaking w/ Dr. Sasha Lessin & Janet Lessin

The Patti Taylor Show, "Expanded Lovemaking" Episode 33
http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/230-expanded-
lovemaking/episodes/3493-sharing-bliss-chakra-lovemaking-dr-sasha

In this show, hear Dr. Patti talk to Dr. Sasha Lessin and his wife,
Janet Lessin, about All-Chakra Tantra. The Lessins are the founders
of the School of Tantra in Maui, Hawaii, where they teach people to
make love with their whole being, and to unblock any and all stuck
places that get in the way of intimacy, personal power and full
orgasmic presence. Learn what the chakras mean, and how to use them
to create a beautiful lovemaking ceremony. Experience for yourself a
dynamic process that Sasha and Janet use to generate connection using
the seven chakras to send shivers of delight up your spine! You can
feel the energy while listening, and better yet, also reproduce this
in your own home with the handout the Lessins give. Then, tune in as
Sasha gives Janet a reenactment of a full ejaculatory orgasm. Sasha
very specifically goes stroke by stroke over exactly how he evokes
every little nuance and pleasure from Janet's clit and "cave", as
well as creating her "gushing" over the edge. Youwill get lots of
specific ideas. Janet's commentaries on the emotional impact of
Sasha's touches, and her vulnerability, are priceless, as are both of
their spoken words to one another. Learn the kind of work the Lessins
do to help others with issues such as sexual healing and emotional
blocks to sex in their private counseling. This show models how
easily true expanded love can be made! Plus, find out how they
connect their work to planetary healing.

How to Really Love A Woman
Transcript

Dr. Patti Taylor: Welcome to the Expanded Lovemaking show. I'm your
host, Dr. Patti Taylor of Expanded Lovemaking dot com, and I teach
you how to give and receive way more pleasure than you ever dreamed
possible. Today on the show, we are talking about sharing the bliss
of all chakra lovemaking with a partner. Usually, we have guests on
talking about what they do. Today, we're so lucky to have two experts
on the show experiencing intimate yet powerful lovemaking and talking
to us as they go through it themselves. I'll be inviting you to join
in energetically and to take back juicy knowledge and energy into
your own lovemaking enjoyment. Our guests are Dr. Sasha Lessin, Dean
of the School of Tantra, with his wife, Janet Lessin, Professor of
Tantric Studies at the School of Tantra. So, welcome, Sasha and Janet
Lessin.

Janet Lessin: Aloha! Thank you for having us here.

Sasha Lessin: Aloha.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Hi, so, Dr. Sasha Lessin is a practicing
psychotherapist and relationship counselor for over thirty years who
brings many special skills to his counseling, including hypnotherapy,
holotropic breathing, healing and past-life regressions, spirit
releasement, and voice dialogue. Janet Lessin is an accomplished
writer and teacher of Tantra. Sasha and Janet teach their diverse
healing and spiritual paths together through their School of Tantra.
They're the authors of All Chakra Tantra and How to Really Love a
Woman, amongst many other incredible books and things that they've
created. They live in Maui, Hawaii, where they offer workshops,
ceremonies, singles events, couples events, residential retreats,
Tantra training of all sorts, and they also do counseling by phone. I
think our listeners will love this show because, in a real life
experience, you can feel the energy instead of just hearing about it.
And I've always loved being able to model myself after experts. So
today, then, we will find out all about All Chakra Tantra and have
some demonstrations of the Lessins' most requested teachings.
Hopefully some of them, anyway. Including creating an intimate female
ejaculatory lovemaking session. So let's get started! Let's find out
a little bit about All Chakra Tantra, and I think we need to start
out finding out what is a chakra. So hello, and can you tell us a
little about All Chakra Tantra?

Sasha Lessin: Oh, I'd love to, and I'll be posting this stuff on your
site, Patti, so people can get it. Tantra, one of its meanings
is "weaving." It means weaving all levels of your awareness, and
these levels we call "chakras." These are things within you and
between you and those you love. Think of the chakras with your body
parts, the bottom of your torso, genitals is the next one, belly,
heart, throat, brain, then the neocortex. And these are the parts
that make you aware of first security, the sexuality, then power,
love is the heart, talk the throat, clarity- that's the vision
center. And spiritual connection. Each of these chakras constitues an
inner dimension within you and an outer dimension between you and
your lovers, and in each chakra you have a number of sub-cells or
inner voices, energies concerned with the tasks of the chakra
involved. Now, in All Chakra Tantra, you center yourself at each
chakra with regard to the sub-cells active in the issues of concern
to that chakra so you have the benefit of consulting them all. That's
within you. And then you also center yourself in your lover
relationship, so you create a two-person, or multi-person if you're
polyamorous- an interpersonal entity. It could be diadic or triadic,
but it weaves your needs with those of your lovers, and you and your
lovers join together in an ocean of consciousness and merge with all
of the humanities. And of course- let's look at each one, really get
a feeling for it. The first chakra relates to your perineum, it
concerns your need to feel, belong, feel safe, secure, and to take
care of your inner child. And balance within yourself means being
able to take care of this vulnerable part, the part that feels
emotions and can be hurt so easily, and the part of you that protects
that, being able to have a balance. You can decide how emotional
you're going to be. It means that if you're in a Tantric
relationship, you help your mate feel emotionally and financially
secure and take care of each other's health. So that's the first
chakra. We do a whole lot of real, real integration, of getting past
the programs that our inner children have from their parents, the
parents in the real world, so that we can be free to be with our
lovers.

Dr. Patti Taylor: And the perineum is located where?

Sasha Lessin: It's between the genitals and the anal sphincter area.
This is how you relate to the earth. Your security, your sense of
belonging to life, belonging to a relationship. It's really critical
that our children, the sensitive part of us, be allowed to be present
in our lovemaking.

Dr. Patti Taylor: I would think without that active, that you
couldn't even really start your lovemaking.

Sasha Lessin: No, it's really hard. You have to distinguish your
lover from your dad and your mother so that you are just present with
what's real for you in the relationship. It's totally critical. We're
conditioned by so many little habits that we imprinted without even
thinking by seeing how our parents interacted, and by our society.
What we want to do is get free to really feel our sensorium and be
present with all of our emotions. And that means you have to feel
safe with your lover. That's the first chakra, and that's where the
bonding patterns take place, and how to keep sweet interaction going.
The second chakra is what we're going to deal with a bit today, which
is your sexual needs, and within you it's being able to express
yourself sexually and when to hold back. So in other words, for every
chakra we try to balance ourselves out, many aspects of us that are
concerned with in this case chakra two, the sexual chakra. We try to
center ourselves among the impulses we have so we can make
discriminating behaviors. For women, what we teach of the second
chakra, we teach women how to have ejaculatory orgasms, where a fluid-
anrida, it's called, it's alkaline -comes down from the urinary
bladder down the urethra and squirts or burbles out, accompanied by a
clitoral and vaginal orgasm, and it's really great. For a man we
teach complete and total ejaculatory control, which is really very
easy once you control your abdominal muscles. That's chakra two. The
third chakra relates to the belly-diaphragm area. We have power,
being able to lead or follow in the relationship, being able to let
the other person lead, and being able to encourage them to take
what's rightfully theirs in life. The fourth chakra- and we're going
to be demonstrating each one of these when we do our lovemaking in a
little bit, the re-enactment. But the fourth chakra is the heart
chakra, being able to give love and to get love, to not- being so
balanced within you means you're not into giving all the time so you
use up all your energy and feel resentful, or not just demanding all
the time so that you're so selfish no one wants to relate to you, but
the balance. The fifth chakra is the throat chakra, and here we're
concerned with expression, being able to both say what's really real
for you in your authenticity and being able to keep your mouth shut
when what you say won't be helpful, true, or kind. So, being able to
choose what we say and don't say, and to really be able to hear each
other. And then the next chakra, of course, is the brain chakra, and
this is where you have vision, where you see things, intuit, and the
intellect, where you think things. And all those, we ask that to be
present in All Chakra lovemaking, and that's really, really
important, too. Lots of times when you're making love you'll have
visions of your childhood or past lives or archetypes or movies your
saw. Let all those things happen. It really enriches everything. The
seventh chakra, your crown chakra, we think of as opening up and
allowing you to become spiritually one, so that you're not feeling
separate at all from the person you're making love with, but you are
one. You transcend your separate-self sense in that sense, so you're
not just identified with little you and not just identified with your
mate, but you identify with everything in the world, and that is the
spiritual dimension that we seek. And there's a little chant that
goes with it. And we're going to show you how we bring all that stuff
into our lovemaking.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Wow, that's really exciting, and I'm really looking
forward to this. I think a lot of our listeners would love to be
having that kind of fully integrated, alive on all levels kind of
lovemaking.

Sasha Lessin: Cool. Yeah, we love to share that, and also on the site
we have a thing that you can do by yourself where you feel each
chakra, where you empower your inner child, you empower your sexual
part. You go through each one of these. There's the chant you can do
yourself looking in a mirror or, as we'll be doing in a little bit,
with one lover putting their legs around the hips of the other and
looking into each other's eyes and then making these sounds called
the Bija Mantra. These Sanskrit sounds that activate these chakras
doing blessings. We'll be doing that after the break.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, cool. Well, I know this is going to be sort
of the short version of what could take possibly hours, so I thank
you for- but I guess you could do this in a long version of a short
version, so let's go ahead and give it a roll here. I'm all juicy and
waiting to let it go.

Janet Lessin: Okay. So, we begin with the setup. While the woman is
taking a bath and preparing herself for her Tantric ritual, her
beloved prepares the space. And he puts out beautiful tapestries, or
lights incense and candles and brings flowers. He's interviewed her
beforehand so he knows what kind of music she likes, what kinds of
things she likes to relax, maybe some fine wine or something. At our
home, we're located high on West Maui Mountain, and for our date
today, we have the phone on today because we're talking to you, but
normally we turn off the phone, and we would lock all the doors, and
turn off the TV, and get into a sacred ritual space. In our location,
we're very fortunate. Our bed overlooks beautiful Maui Harbor, where
we see windsurfers on the north shore. Sasha has prepared our Tantric
lovemaking nest, and there's tapestries showing deities making love
and he's put down all these wonderful, comfy pillows, and lots of
towels so that when the woman- when I -eventually ejaculate, I won't
be worried about wetting the bed.

Sasha Lessin: If she wets the bed, it's the man's reponsibility to
sleep in the wet spot after. So what we do, way before we even
connect like this, we take the time to share our emotions, so we
makes sure there's no unfinished emotional business that hasn't been
resolved and we can be fully present. Then we sit in this- it's
called "yab yung" position, it's got her legs over mine. And now we
breathe in and out at the same time and gaze in one another's left
eyes. As I let my awareness flow through Janet's left eye, beyond her
face, beyond her present form, I go to her deep soul, to the core of
her. And she's doing the same for me. She meditates on experiencing
my essence through my left eye. It's a portal to my soul. And when I
feel her deepest essence, I can feel that contact, and then it
resonates within me. Her consciousness and mine, I can realize, are
identical. She is me and I am she and we are one. We experience this
existential love. Unity.

Janet Lessin: Then we move into syncopated breaths, where one is
breathing out and the other is breathing in. We're sharing breath.
And I breathe out through my mouth towards Sasha's nose, and he
inhales my breath through his nostrils. Then I inhale through my nose
and he breathes out through his mouth towards my nose. Each time I
inhale I say to myself, "He loves me." Each time I exhale into his
nose, I say to myself, "I love you." And he does the same meditation.

Sasha Lessin: I love you.

Janet Lessin: Back and forth. "I love you, you love me," with each
exhale and inhale.

Sasha Lessin: And now, as we keep gazing into each other's eyes, we
chant this ancient Sanskrit mantra. It's got seven syllable
words, "lam," "bam," "ram," "yam," "ham," and "ohm." Each syllable
will activate a different one of these chakras that we were talking
about. The "lam" will pump our perineum, the "bam" will invigorate
our genitals, "ram" empowers our bellies, "yam" heals our
hearts, "ham" frees our voices. Our third eye, from our head to the
occipit vibrates with "oh," and we think and intuit at the same time.
Then we chant "m" and our crowns open and unite us with all that is
and will be. When we complete the seven syllables, we tighten our PC
muscles and our belly muscles, pulse our anuses, and imagine energy
flowing from the tip of our spine, the bottom, up through our bodies,
out our crowns, where our energies meet. So we're going to chant
these, and if you want to and it's safe to do so, you can even chant
them with them, and they are "lam, bam, ram, yam, ham, and ohm." So
here we go.

Sasha and Janet Together: Lam, bam, ram, yam, ham, oh, m.

Sasha Lessin: Belly hold until you feel this whole field of energy,
baby.

Janet Lessin: So we're vibrating together, sweetheart, in every one
of our chakras.

Sasha Lessin: Oh, sweetheart, thank you for letting me worship and
adore you. I delight in serving you, and I love relating this
intimately. May my adoration heal hurts I have caused you or others
have caused you. May our hearts unite, and may we become one with the
universe. What would you like to say to consecrate the worship I
offer you, darling?

Janet Lessin: Sweetheart, I love how you take the time to pleasure
and honor who I am. You slow things down and listen to me kindly.
Your love compels me until time is slow or all stands still. And
nothing else seems to exist but you and me, as we become one with the
infinite and all that there is. You help me to evolve, grow, expand
in my path to consciousness. I appreciate how you meet me and are so
present, touch me sweetly and softly, and speak these wonderful words
to me as I dissolve into higher states of consciousness, and from
there I can see other worlds and other realms and dimensions, and
find new ways of being and becoming a more loving self. Thank you, my
love.

Sasha Lessin: Okay, honey, I'm going to lie you down on your back. I
wanted to dedicate my intention in this connect. I'm going to put
first my left hand on your heart, there. You put your hand on top of
mine. My right hand is going to be on each one of your chakras as I
bless each. These are called mudras, it's to put you in
the "moodras," so to speak. So first, I put my hand lightly on your
perineum. Pulse your anal sphincter, honey. Sweetheart, I love you, I
want you to feel your base, to enjoy health, safety, and security. I
want you to know you belong and please, may your inner child be
present in this lovemaking. Feel the energy, feel the energy. Now I'm
going to touch your labia. I love you at your yoni- that's Sanskrit
for "vagina" -and bless you sensually. May you be sensual, creative,
and sexual. May your goddess of sensuality, the second chakra
goddess, be present for this trice. Now I'm going to touch your
belly. I love you in your power chakra. Take what's yours,
sweetheart. May the goddess of strength enjoy the sensual touch we
share at your genital chakra. Now I'm going to put both hands on your
heart. I send you love. May you feel the touch with pleasure. May
your romantic subpersonality enjoy this experience. Now the back of
your neck with my right hand. I love you, may you say your thoughts,
make sounds, and express as you connect with me. I'm going to touch
your brow. I celebrate how you understand and intuit. I invite your
visionary to give you images and insight as I stroke your grotto. And
lastly I touch the top of your head. I love you and merge with you.
May your spiritual self be present and may you experience unity with
the universe. And now, sweetheart- oh, this feels so good -I'd like
to give you a gentle massage all over. I'm going to especially rub
the grasillus muscles- that is, the muscles on the inside of each of
your thighs -because massaging this grasillus muscle also stimulates
the lateral ends of your hidden clitoral tissues. There we go. Feel
that?

Janet Lessin: Yeah.

Sasha Lessin: Now your belly muscles, just above the pubic bone, so
that the energy can flow from your power chakra- that's the third
chakra -down from your navel to your genital chakra. It takes a
while. We do a long massage. So we'll just jump to the chase, here,
and I'll say to Janet...I'd really like to give some focused touch to
your temple of love, honey.

Janet Lessin: Okay. Please, please do.

Sasha Lessin: I'm going to massage, then I'm going to kiss your
genital drapes and the valance, so to speak, over your pearl-
clitoral tip. I want you to make sounds and direct me with words or
sounds, give me feedback. I'm going to lick and stroke. I won't be
able to talk soon, but what I'll be doing is I'll be lightly stroking
her outer labia. Relaxing her clitoral hood-

Dr. Patti Taylor: Before we do that, can I just jump in for a second,
before I hop on a plane to Hawaii? First thing I want to say is that
it's totally astonishing, and we are just going to have to pause for
break. Can you, like, hang out in that space for a moment?

Sasha Lessin: Sure, I'll just be sure not to rub her the wrong way.

Dr. Patti Taylor: I don't think that's possible. But we do have to
stop for a quick break, to support our sponsors. You guys just hang
out there. I'm shaking from head to toe, so it won't be a problem for
me. This is Dr. Patti Taylor, and I'm with Sasha and Janet Lessin in
their magical space, and we will be right back. You can learn more
about Sasha and Janet at www.schooloftantra.com.

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Dr. Patti Taylor: We're back, and we are talking about sharing the
bliss of All Chakra Lovemaking with a partner. We were talking about
the All Chakra Tantra blessing, and now we are going into the female
ejaculatory orgasm. Why don't you just keep going?

Sasha: Okay. While we've had the break, I've been stroking her labia,
and gently, gently rolling the clitoral hood around the crown itself.
And I notice, now, that her vaginal lips are starting to swell. The
outer lips are swelling and now I can see the beautiful little inner
lips. I trace circles, spirals, horizontals, verticals, diagonals,
figure eights on them with my finger. I alternate long and short
strokes. Playful. Tap, rub, knead. It takes a lot of air time, but we
would do this for about fifteen minutes until the clitoral hood
itself starts to push back and I can see the tip of the clitoris
itself, and then I say...sweetheart, would you like me to polish your
pearl?

Janet Lessin: Oh, yes. Oh-ho, yes.

Sasha Lessin: First I blow on your genitals. It's really important
not to blow inside the vagina because it's an anaerobic system, but I
just want to make some hot air on the outside, little baby kisses on
the clitoris. I'm going to twirl my tongue around the crown and lick
your labia and reach softly into your yoni with my fingers. All the
time, even though I'm down here, I'm looking into your eyes. I
salivate as much as I can to really lubricate your orifice.

Janet Lessin: Ah, yes. Thank you. What I'm experiencing right now-
I've got to come back into consciousness in order to talk to you -is
I'm not really thinking per se, but I'm evolving into this higher
state of consciousness. And Sasha and I are divine, sacred, twin
souls but I know the way. He's taken me there endless, numerous
times. So here I'm experiencing pure pleasure. It's a state of total
bliss, like a continuous orgasmic state where one orgasm blends into
another, and I become one with my beloved Sasha. I recognize that we
are eternal beings, that we've always been together and always will
be. And then I become one with my animal friends, and nature, the
island of Maui, the earth, the solar system, out to the cosmos and
eventually I feel my oneness with Source, that divine, infinite space
of love and light, and I'm simultaneously feeling my oneness with
Sasha here in the physical plane. So I've transcended and I've
brought Heaven to earth. And he comes into his oneness with me, and
he feels it just as if it's happening to him.

Sasha Lessin: Oh, you bet, baby. I'm taking my mouth off of her
clitoris for a minute to ask a question. I would like to enter your
sacred cave with my right ring finger. Would you like that, honey?

Janet Lessin: Oh, yes, lover. Please take me even higher.

Sasha Lessin: Okay, so I lick my finger so it's quite moist, and I
place the tip of my fingerpad just inside the vaginal opening. Now
pull my finger in, honey.

Janet Lessin: Okay.

Sasha Lessin: I feel the muscles pulsing on my finger. Now I'm going
to curl my fingerpad inside your yoni towards your navel and back
towards your inner leg so it rests gently on your G-spot area, just
behind the pubic bone. Let's breathe together. I'm going to keep my
hand still, and I want you to just to imagine that my finger reaches
inside all the way to your heart. Okay, now I'm going to start
a "c'mere" motion with my finger, taking the pad from the cervix to
the orifice. Slowly, back and forth. From the top of your cave to the
cervix, to the cave's opening. And all the while, I'm going to keep
kissing your pearl and lapping your labia, releasing lots of saliva.
This would go on for some time. Then I start turning my wrist from
side to side, and I trace a crescent over Janet's G-spot. Then, very
soft and light at first, I sweep, turning my wrist from up to down,
from the left half of your cave. Slowly I skim the front of my right
finger from the cave roof to its floor and the outside door, and then
I'm going to have to take my right ring finger and put my left finger
inside. Tben I can get the whole other side of your yoni roof.

Janet Lessin: Yeah. Well, after a few minutes, Sasha changes his
position, so he eases his back and neck, and he rubs and taps and
touches all over inside my vagina. He strokes different levels,
different depths, finding the pressure. He alters his speed, and he
goes in and out, and traces the throbbing veins and the arteries, and
presses gently all the way to the bone in each part of my sacred cave.

Sasha Lessin: Sweetheart, would you like me to pet you with two
fingers inside?

Janet Lessin: Yes, please.

Sasha Lessin: Okay, so now I move my fingers from the cervix- I get
right between my two fingers toward the orifice, and I have in my
fingers- I can feel through the intervening flesh, I can feel the
inner clitoris, and also the urethral sponge. I can feel the sponge,
which surrounds the urethra and goes from the urinary bladder to the
urinary viatus where the urine comes out. The tissue gets rough. You
can feel it descending, it's about the size of a little finger now.
It's getting quite stimulated. The area just behind the pubic bone is
swelling. This is the so-called G-spot area. That's it, that's it. Do
I got it?

Janet Lessin: Yes, you have the right spot, sweetheart. If you keep
going like that, in short order I can ejaculate.

Sasha Lessin: Great! Push your uterus out like you're delivering a
baby. Push out, honey.

Janet Lessin: Thank you, sweetheart.

Sasha Lessin: Wow, that's great, honey! Wow! Oh, Janet's ejaculating,
squirting ounces of anrida. Divine nectar! Now's where I say your
affirmations, honey. You're beautiful! Forever young! I love you
forever! You're coming into your power!

Janet Lessin: I love you, sweetheart.

Sasha Lessin: This is so beautiful, sweetheart.

Janet Lessin: Thank you.

Sasha Lessin: Now let me just hold you a bit. Let me come up here.
I'm going to keep my hand in your yoni, the palm of my hand across
your mons. I love you so much.

Janet Lessin: I love you so much. So, in a normal Tantric day, we
would just keep continuing.

Sasha Lessin: The easiest time to have an orgasm is-

Janet Lessin: Right after you have an orgasm.

Sasha Lessin: What is important when a woman has an ejaculatory
orgasm is not to demand intercourse. If she wants to have intercourse
next you can, but what's really nice is to just, if you're the giver,
to just be there quietly and just see what she wants to say if that's
the entire experience. Because usually when a person has an orgasm
like this, it has clitoral and vaginal, as well as a urinal
ejaculatory aspects, and it's so overwhelming that silence and
meditation is just perfect because you feel at one with your mate and
you feel at one with the universe.

Janet Lessin: It's a very blissful state, but it's also very
vulnerable. So it's important for the giver to be sensitive about his
own needs and not push an agenda. Just be there for his beloved so
that she can reconnect and find all the pieces of her soul and
reconnect with the tissues of her body. And that sometimes takes a
long time, especially if someone had a history of abuse of any kind.

Sasha: Yeah. In a more advanced Tantra, I would put some lubricant on
fingers of my other hand and slowly work those fingers into the base
chakra. Then I would move the fingers in different insane patterns
than the fingers I have in the yoni, my tongue on the clitoris, so
that I have many, many different stimulations going at the same time.
I would tap a little finger against the very tip of her lowest
vertebrae so that the kundolini, the energy from the tip of the
spine, starts to move up. I'm looking in her eyes, and saying
beautiful things. So we have all these things going at once, and then
I may take my other hand, my left hand, out of the base chakra, push
through the top, right underneath the navel, through the outside of
her skin. That's called "uniting the fingers," with my fingers inside
and the fingers outside of her belly go in different directions. I
move the entire clitoris, which is quite a large organ. You only see
the very teeny eighth of an inch or so of the clitoral tip, but
actually the clitoris goes back about an inch and a half into the
body, and then bifurcates, goes down each leg, so that this rubbing
that I did in the beginning of the grasillus muscle, which is one of
the ductor muscles of the leg. This massage of that grasillus was
also massaging the tip of the clitoris, which is a really large
organ. You don't know it, but you can sure feel it inside.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Wow. Well, that is...I just can't thank you enough
for sharing so...I know it's just a re-enactment, but still powerful
and intimate and very inspirational.

Janet Lessin: Thank you for inviting us to share.

Sasha Lessin: We love sharing. We should do it on TV for you sometime.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Well, you know, I wanted to say, I checked out your
website, and we'll give the link again in just a minute. But you have
some beautiful pictures on your website, including how to sit for the
lesson that we talked about in the first segment of the show. And you
have the gorgeous pictures that go along with the beautiful chakras,
and your website is a trip. I absolutely think everybody who listens
to the show should go to www.schooloftantra.com and just spend a day
there or, you know, an hour there, and just tool around and have some
fun with you guys. 'Cause there's just more there than you can
imagine. Anyway, we're going to have to take another break, just for
our sponsors. This is Dr. Patti Taylor, and I'm with Sasha and Janet
Lessin, and we will be right back. And as I said, you can learn more,
and definitely we'll have a great time learning more about Sasha and
Janet. They do so many things. They teach, they have residential
stuff, they write books. Schooloftantra dot com. You can also visit
our episode page and we'll put up some links for them and their new
book All Chakra Tantra.

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Dr. Patti Taylor: We're back, and we are talking about sharing the
bliss of All Chakra Lovemaking with a partner. So, before the break,
we were talking about- I don't know if "talking about" is the right
word. We were in the throes of the most exquisite, intimate sharing
imaginable of your experiencing this gorgeous female ejaculatory
orgasm, and I think I'm still almost speechless with the beauty of it
all. I really want to thank you for an incredible gift that you've
given me and my listeners. Our listeners.

Janet Lessin: Our pleasure.

Dr. Patti Taylor: So, just to kind of close down the show a little,
here, I just want to just talk a little bit about what you do with
the people that go all the way to Maui or people that live in Maui.
But, you know, how you empower people. Who are you? Let's find out a
little about you.

Sasha Lessin: One of the most important things that we do is while
we're doing- instead of just going into merely the pleasure part,
which we've done, we take the time to slowly explore every centimeter
of the inside of the yoni and map where it feels good at different
levels of pressure and where there's a numbness or lack of feeling.
Wherever there's numbness or lack of feeling, I say free associate,
and that's when people start to re-live unfinished emotional things.
They're creating blocks to their ejaculatory orgasms and they will
actually start to re-live things that they've forgotten. And I have
them express more than they expressed in the original situation and
then have an imaginary scenario where they act it out so they get
another program that allows them to feel everywhere. And then I move
my finger back to where it felt good in the yoni and then back to
where it felt numb until that feels good, too, until by stimulus
generalization the entire yoni is like a G-spot and the person
doesn't have any blocks to full emotional and sexual feeling.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Okay, so one thing you do for sure is you help
people wake up their potential for full-on orgasmic expression.

Janet Lessin: Right, if they have any emotional or psychological
issues or trauma it'll block their chakras and they won't be able to
experience their sexuality to its fullest potential. So we do a lot
of cowpering, we do a lot of communications, we help couples grow
closer to each other, we help singles learn how to attract and learn
how to keep their beloved. We use a lot of different
psychotechnologies, and communication techniques, like non-body
communication, voice dialogue, gestalt therapy, existential and past-
life and childhood re-scripting therapies. These are all part of our
Tantra school. People can come and learn how to be Tantric cowpers
and therapists and teachers on all different levels. Some people like
to give workshops and conferences. Some like to do therapy,
individually or couples or in small groups. So Sasha Lessin has been
a therapist, cowper for about forty years. He's just one of the best
on the planet and I'm so blessed to be married to him.

Dr. Patti Taylor: You have stuff going on all the time and it's such
a wide variety of things. Even to get to be around you is just a
cornucopia, an abundance of knowledge pouring out of the two of you.
Do you have any examples of somebody that you've helped recently, and
what happened?

Sasha Lessin: Let's just tell you the story of Janet and how this
worked for her.

Janet Lessin: Oh...well, I wasn't prepared for that. I was very luded
in my childhood. There was a lot of rape and incest issues, so I was
kind of on the way out, I was dying and I'd been to all these
different therapists, and when I met Dr. Lessin we started doing the
yoni work and the- I had what was called "mecunhe," I had a blocked
issue about an incest-rape issue. And once that came forth, it
reversed my physical ails, and once that happened for me I devoted my
life to learning this so I could help other people. So as a
consequence we give people all the time to have these issues, they're
not sure what's going on with them sexually, they don't know why
they're depressed or they're having reactions to where they're
stifling their creativity. They get into incredible negative bonding
patterns with each other. Go ahead, honey. What did you want to say?

Sasha Lessin: It's just so gratifying to realize that you're not
stuck, that you can re-program anything to allow yourself all the
pleasures that life has to hold. And the interesting thing about
ejaculatory orgasms is that since it comes from the urinary bladder,
even people that have had hysterectomies can have incredibly intense
ejaculatory orgasms.

Dr. Patti Taylor: That sounds so amazing. And you combine it with a
trip to Hawaii on top of that, right?

Janet Lessin: Yes, so you want Tantra to become a lifestyle that
affects all avenues of your life. It'll help you in your job, and
transcend over to all your relationships. Your family, friends.

Sasha Lessin: We really think that making love is the alternative to
violence. The evidence is overwhelming that if you don't abuse or hit
your children, and if you allow good sex among people without a lot
of restrictions, then people do not engage in violent crime or war.
So make love, not war. And we teach you how to really make love well.

Dr. Patti Taylor: That's really beautiful. Well, we're almost out of
time, so I just have time for one final question each. So, if you
could leave our listeners today with one final thought, what will it
be? And you can decide who goes first.

Sasha Lessin: Go first, darling.

Janet Lessin: Be true to yourself. In Tantra we encourage authentic
communication. Learn how to speak close to the truth and sometimes
you may have consequences but at least you'll set yourself free. Free
to be who you really are.

Sasha Lessin: Listen to each other. When your lover is emotional,
don't just shut it off, but encourage it. Let their feelings out.
Empathize with those feelings. Find out what they need, and then ask
what you can do to help meet those needs.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Wow. Thank you so much. That's very, very
beautiful, heartfelt advice, but why am I not surprised? I just
deeply want to thank you for revealing of yourselves and essentially
modeling for me and for all of us the beautiful stuff you had to
share today. I want to remind everyone that we will have links up on
our episode page to a handout that you can actually download so that
you can have the bija mantras and take them home and practice them
with your lover, because it sounds like that would be a great way to
kick off any fabulous lovemaking session. And I also want to say that
these beautiful mantras seem to be at the bottom of pretty much every
page of your website as well. So you will be able to go to our
episodes page for this show and get a handout, as well as finding out
about their book, All Chakra Tantra and How to Love a Woman.

Sasha Lessin: And also for those people that have alternate
relationships, that is something we really love to do. You don't have
to be conventional. You get to choose for yourself who make love with
and how.

Dr. Patti Taylor: Right. So you are very, very diverse in your
talents. Thank you once again for coming on the show. I had a
phenomenal time and experience today.

Janet Lessin: Thank you for having us.

[All exchange goodbyes.]

Dr. Patti Taylor: So this brings us to the end of our show. Thank
you, listeners, for listening and joining in. Please send me email at
patti@personallifemedia.com. For text and transcripts of this show
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Looking for a Man to be in a Tantra Video with Me

2008-01-25T06:28:26Z

I teach Tantra Yoga in San Francisco, www.freewebs.com/lucidbody. I'm making an instructional video and would like to offer the opportunity to be in part of the video, no words needed, just circulating energy with me, clothed, meditating. I'd like to find someone who knows how that feels, and would like some free instruction in a beautiful location, or would just like to help spread the word about Tantra, have a nice time, and have a couple videos. They will be not focused primarily on sex, and will have some extravagent visuals. I want to find just the right person and am interviewing.
Thanks,
flameflower@runbox.com
www.freewebs.com/lucidbody
Tantra Bensko

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Has anyone experienced this in Tantra?

2008-01-13T21:59:51Z

The second time I imbibed the mushroom sacrament was just after I graduated highschool, a friend and I were sitting in the park, blissfully enjoying each others conscious company, letting the mushrooms kick in as we basked in the amazement of each others awareness and playfully trying to cross our eyes in a manner that lets us visualize each others third eye. Our conversation became more of a completion of each others thoughts, that click and understanding, until there came a moment where we both felt the same thing, we were conscious of the Us consciousness, I and You melted away. The first click was a brief with a moment of confusion, sort of like 'What was that?' 'There is no 'Was', and We became I again. To keep up our connection it felt as if I would push us further along the spiral and he would pull with the energy of what hed learned, teaching my consciousness something to digest so i could in turn power level us deeper. The whole night our internal and external enviroment was a conscious syncronicity, we felt this is exactly what we should be doing, this is what we pine for, this satisfies every metaneed. The clearest thing that was communicated was him telling me that hed never truly experienced love and was abused as a child, and I could feel exactly how bad it was and cried with direct empathy. The timeless hours had worn out our energy by sunlight, throughout the night to continue stimulating the connection it had degraded a bit because we needed physical manipulation of each other for serotonin drive, still clothed, a pure form of bodywork, pure tantra, occasionally needing an affectionate touch on bare skin.

Id love to talk to other people whove felt that bond!

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los angeles - any teacher/class/tutor recommendations?

2008-01-11T18:13:10Z

any help youd be appreciated.

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Mistake - Consequences and learnings

2008-01-10T17:17:52Z

To err is human, to admit is divine...

This is hard to talk about, but here it is. A few years ago, a very lovely Californian blonde in her early 40s requested me to coach her on the esoteric mysteries of kundalini, its arousal, and awakening. She wanted me to help her unleash the energy through the classical tantric ways using a variety of sensual and sexual methods. She was married, and so I felt it would be highly inappropriate for me to use the sexual approach to kundalini movement. So, I declined.

She was very persuasive, very intent, and gosh darn it, very attractive. So I finally agreed to awaken all the energy latent in her, but through the most secret of all of tantric methods, one that is usually never talked about, written about, and whose use is not looked at kindly by the Goddess - yes, Sarpa Tantra - the path of the serpent. This is the non-sexual (no intercourse) tantric approach that arises awakens and moves the kundalini wherever you want in less than 5 minutes - the time it takes to get a non-fat, single shot, decaf latte at Starbucks. The method is conceptually extremely simple - the awakener (me), embodies, models, and personifies the kundalini energy of the awakened one (her), and systematically moves through each chakra physically. As I act the part of the serpent, breathing, hissing, coiling, and striking each chakra forcefully, her energy also gets the cue and moves, and soon her body starts to shake under the assault of my modeling the serpentine kundalini, and her own kundalini rising to mimic me. It is extremely fast, extremely powerful, and extremely dangerous to directly awaken the energy.

Needless to say, I took the kundalini all the way beyond the Ajna chakra between the eyebrows and into her head. She was shuddering and said the experience was more incredible than any sex she had ever had, and it put her in a state of mind she had never been before. I felt good, and I told her that I had unleashed her great psychic energy, and it was her responsibility to take the energy safely and do good and wonders to this world. I asked her to meditate, and then left the place.

What I had not realized was that I had put great power in her hands when she was ill equipped to handle the energy, channel it in peaceful ways, and transform the great power into happiness for others. She had all the intent, but had no practice or knowhow to do any of it. The consequences were very painful as I later found out. Her sexual appetite had grown a thousand fold causing her to create deep fissures in her marriage, and her focus in her professional life had suffered. Her health, especially her digestion and stomach were totally shot, and she was in an extremely precarious condition. Her marriage was on the rocks, and she was on the verge of a total breakdown.

When I finally met her, she squarely blamed her condition, mental, physical, emotional, familial, and sexual all on me. She said 'Ananth, it is all your fault. Even if I had begged you to release my kundalini, you should not have, especially in the most direct approach you used. What happened to your sense of responsibility? Why did not suggest some gentle incremental approach, but used an approach that even the books ban?"

I agreed with her. It was my fault. I had not gauged where she was in a spiritual sense, and in my eagerness to show her the extent of her own energy, and in a desire to perhaps impress her with my ability to awaken and move her kundalini in an instant, I had erred in a very serious way. Despite my belief in my own evolution, it was obvious that when an attractive woman asked me to move her energy far beyond where it should have gone, I succumbed to my male desire to impress her, and just picked up her kundalini and just tossed it around. It ended up causing her great havoc, and her family great trouble.

So I became more convinced that the tools I know, love, and use, were just not the right ones for most of this world. I also felt poorly that despite my own strength and sense of integrity, a beautiful woman had just made to do things that as a teacher I would have frowned upon. Sarpa Tantra will probably die with me, similar to how the five point palm exploding heart technique dies with Pai Mei in Kill Bill 2. The world is better off without people using tools of tantra to cause mental and sexual havoc in othes. Being generous, kind, and loving to all can take one to everyplace we need to go, and we can dispense with the tantric mumbo jumbo entirely.

I kept this to myself, and became very reluctant to teach anybody, but I thought that this is an important experience in my life that perhaps has lessons for some. So I decided to share. Flame me if you want, blame me if you want. I think I deserve all of it.

- Ananth Tantri

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Recommendations?

2008-01-06T05:23:40Z

Hello to all, I'm just reading a few things about tantra on the web. I've gone to one teacher to start my journey. Does anyone have any recommendations on learning this path? I'm currently working on this solo. I'm trying to make new and renew good connections in my life as well.

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Seeking a partner

2007-10-01T22:09:09Z

Hi, I am seeking a female tantra partner in San Francisco who I could meet to keep up with Tantra practice. Please send me a private email and hopefully we connect.

Namaste

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Upcoming Ipsalu Tantra Classes and Workshops

2007-09-28T01:35:53Z

Upcoming Ipsalu Tantra Classes and Workshops in the East Bay
(more info at: http://www.tantricjoy.com/workshops.html)

FireBreath Orgasm
Ecstatic Breathing for Healing and Transformation
Evening Workshop with Jan

Friday, October 5, 2007
Vara Healing Arts Center in Albany, CA

* * *
Learning to Live in Bliss
Ipsalu Tantra Level 1 Weekend Intensive
with Jan Robinson and Kip Moore

October 26-28, 2007
Heartwalker Studio in Oakland, CA

Friday, Sept. 28 last day to register with a discount!

* * *
NEW!
Chakra Play for Lovers
Evening Workshop for Couples and Paired Singles with Jan

Saturday, November 17, 2007
Heartwalker Studio in Oakland, CA

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Personal growth and fufillment

2007-09-27T06:17:12Z

Im looking for material that deals not so much with the sexual practices of tantra, but with the philosophical ideas of inner fulfillment in daily life. About going from feeling of want, lack, need, and insufficiency or insecurity to feelings of having, appreciating, sharing, and finding confidence and nowness.

These ideas have been explained to me before, but 95% of the material I come across seems to be written by people who
dabble in the philosophical implications but go into detail of the sexual techniques.

Can anybody recomend any good writers for tantric philosophy?

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New Member Wanting To Say Hello

2007-09-24T15:42:25Z

Hello there,

I'm a new member of this tribe and wanted to say hello. I look forward to learning much in this group.

Thank you and have a wonderful day!

Pat

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At what point do dreams become nightmares?

2007-09-24T03:07:29Z

I moderate a tribe called Dreaming.
It is full of very nice people who care about others, with never ever a harsh word.

http://tribes.tribe.net/dreamingknights

I hope you'll all join and talk about your dreams, learn about others dreams too. Find new skills in understanding your dreams.

Come sleep with us,
Daniel

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Compression - A Ritual BDSM PlayShop

2007-09-11T02:57:57Z

This month at PlayShop we'll be examining the concept of compression, both as a force in our lives as well as a force in our bdsm play. Please come prepared to compress and/or to be compressed in as many ways as you can think of. :).

PlayShop is part ritual, part discussion group, part tantra puja, part class, part show-n-tell, part play party, part experimental laboratory. This series of events is an immersive introduction and experience in ritual BDSM sex magick. All genders and orientations are welcome.

All experience levels welcome. If you're a beginner and would like to try some, come. If you're a seasoned magick practitioner, witch, shaman, priest, tantrika, or other ritual worker, and would like to figure out how to mix your skills with BDSM, please come. If you're a seasoned bdsm player and would like to know how to make your play more spiritual, purposeful, and/or meaningful, please come. If you're an experienced ritual magick BDSM practitioner, please come help create. If you'd just like to hang and hold space, please come.

Bring your ritual kit, your toy bag, your drums, your excitement, your enthusiasm, and your partner. Don't fret if you're missing any of these items as we'll likely have enough to share. :-).

http://teamnoir.name/Compression.html
http://edges.biz

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Learning Tantra?

2007-09-06T02:38:39Z

I live in Santa Cruz, just south of SF and west of San Jose. Im curious about where i can get instruction on tantric practices? Im 26, healthy, and a student of natural medicine with some previous experience in bodywork.

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New Tribe Forming: Sensual DO Buddies

2007-08-27T16:15:16Z

Hi there,

I am forming a new tribe, for those of us looking specifically to discuss techniques of expanded orgasm, Morehouse DOing, Deliberate Orgasm, Orgasmic Meditation, G-spot Massage, Sensual Massage, and Sexological Bodywork.

Out of this, people can hopefully find partners for practice. Either one-way or two-way giving and receiving, and, no strings attached. Could be one time only, or, lead to more.

Here's the link: http://tribes.tribe.net/sensualdobuddies

Please come check us out if you are looking for practice partners, and introduce yourself.

Warmly, Patti

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Inner Work, Sacred Relationship, and Marriage

2007-08-23T21:05:10Z

Sean Wensel

Inner Work, Sacred Relationship, and Marriage

Marriages are dissolving because people, in general, have learned to look into the external world to fix their problems, rather than work through their problems internally. This is due to lack of education and information regarding inner work, the de-emphasis on the importance of spirituality and sacred relationship in daily life, and, lastly, the lack of commitment to working through problems and conflicts.

There is a lack of education and information regarding how to do inner work, and why it is so important to do inner work. This education is not implemented or integrated into our school systems, as I think it should be. Some people don’t even think about their inner lives, and solely base and focus their life on the external. Inner work is where most or all growth or serious process happens, and it should be the main focus for any solution for any conflict or problem. There needs to be less emphasis on the external, less of what is “wrong” externally, and more focus on the internal, what can be changed internally to create a better world and life internally and externally. There needs to be more education regarding the important of inner work in our schools, in our parenting, and in our conversations.

Sadly, there has been an increasing de-emphasis on the important of spirituality and sacred relationship in the daily and integrated life of central culture. People are sick of religion, because people misunderstand religion and preach this misunderstanding. This is why people get burned out on spirituality, it is because of misinterpreted preaching and pressing of ideas that have become ego-centralized and externalized. There needs to be a re-centralization of true spirituality and potentially even a universal religion in order for true fulfillment, peace, and harmony to occur in relationships and in the world. There needs to be a realization of this in order for couples to work out their differences and create a long lasting and deep respect for each other and their relationship. Without this spiritual essence, people focus and tire of the external in relationships, and then they search for new external excitements, to fufill their worldly attachments and pleasures. This is why most marriages these days do not work. Sacred relationship needs to be re-discovered, the depth and potential of the connection between two people needs to be re-embraced and respected once again.

Lastly, the lack of commitment most people have to working through their problems and conflicts is the reason marriages are dissolving. Most people aren’t willing to confront and work through their own inner issues, and would rather blame others and look externally to fix their problems. This is widespread, and is learned. Many people would rather jump from partner to partner or lover to lover, blaming everyone else for their break-ups, rather than taking responsibility, committing to a relationship, and working through their own inner issues. We see others doing this, and learn it as children. If more people worked through their own issues, more marriages and relationships would work, and people at large would re-discover the power of two people committed to each other in sacred relationship. In essence, we are spiritually and internally oriented, we work through all of our challenges and work to create our lives and our relationships internally, by working on our selves, defining our contexts and needs internally, being the partner or person that we want to be with, and in doing so creating a more harmonious, balanced and beautiful external world. This is our true nature.

Marriages are happening less frequently for a number of reasons. Here I’ve mentioned the lack of education and information regarding how to and why to do inner work, the de-centralized, de-emphasis on the importance of spirituality and sacred relationship between two people, and of course, the point I feel is most important for to look at and expand upon, the learned lack of commitment to work through problems and conflicts internally and externally, and what we can do to change all of this for the better. Something needs to be done about this, a shift needs to occur, it is occurring, and by reading this paper, contemplating it for yourself, integrating the information into your own life, talking about it with others, you are doing something about it and creating a positive shift in the world.

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Is there a tantra camp or 20 at BM?

2007-08-16T22:55:34Z

Still shopping for the perfect spot on the Playa.
Any suggestions......

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Tantric volunteers needed

2007-07-25T23:41:55Z

Hi peeps,

We're shooting a pilot for a project we call TantraTV. It'll be held on August 4th in the SF Bay Area. We're looking for extras and "audience members" to participate.

Our tantric instructors for this first shoot will be:

Triambika from Oakland (http://www.journeyintobliss.com/)
Ariel White from San Diego (http://infiniteessence.com/)
Amber St. Germain from Seattle (http://www.aubreydevadasi.com)

These three dakini's have committed to "taking their work to the next level", and your participation and support is greatly appreciated.

Here are details:

1) You will be videotaped. So don't wear anything with thin horizontal stripes that might "moire" on video. Bright happy spiritual clothing with solid colors or beautiful patterns is good. Best not to wear logo'ed t-shirts. Otherwise, just come dressed in "workshop clothes" suitable for sitting on the floor of a yoga facility.

2) Let me know if you're coming as a single or a couple. We can accommodate either.

3) You won't have to get naked or anything, but you WILL have to do a few "intimacy exercises". The main thing is that I'm trying to capture the "face of transformation"... you can think of this shoot as sort of a spiritual infomercial... and I want to capture people who are really getting it and grooving on it... in an authentic and spiritually positive way. So expect us to shoot lots of reaction shots of you.

4) There is no pay or cost for this event, but you do get to listen to three great lectures, we'll provide food and drinks, and there will be a cozy little cocktail party afterwards for Bay Area tantra people.

5) Actually, there IS one thing you can bring. Bring flowers! We'll do a darshan line and give our flowers to the goddesses before they begin.

Thanks much! Contact me if this sounds interesting to you!

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Tantra teacher recommendations

2007-07-25T00:29:20Z

I'm interested in learning how to have orgasms without ejaculation with a teacher either in private or group setting. Recommendations? Especially from men who've learned it themselves from someone. Thanks.

I live in Redwood City so Bay Area/Santa Cruz area would be nice.

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Bay Area Tantra Teachers and Classes

2007-07-16T20:09:57Z

So, what tantra classes have you taken that you liked and would reccommend to others?

Have you had any personal sessions with a tantra teacher that you liked and would refer people to?

Would you send singles to one place and couples to another?

Is there something you have been wanting which is not offered?

I'd love to hear any ideas you all have.

Thanks,

Ann

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Book Reading by Tantric Mystic in Marin

2007-07-14T14:53:09Z

I have been sponsoring Nandu ( as he calls himself) in the Bay Area for the last year. He is a wonderfully humble man with great knowledge. I encourage all in the area to attend. He will be staying the weekend for rice readings. He will explain more about his activities and teachings at the book reading.

Book Reading and Chanting to Lakshmi

Amarananda Bhairavan is a renowned Tantric Priest and healer. During his joyous childhood amongst an extended family on the West Coast of India, Amarananda trained in Oti vidya, a tantra peculiar to Odiyyathis or tribal medicine women of Kerala. Initiated at the age of nine by his aunt, Amarananda Bhairavan remains a direct descendant of this six thousand year old tradition of goddess worship. His mystical education and initiations in the ancient Oti vidya tantric practices are the subject of his two visionary books, "Kali’s Odiyya: A Shaman’s True Story of Initiation" and "Medicine of Light: A Shaman’s Journey through Mystic Space-Time." He is currently working on Aghora Rahasyam: Tantric Mysticism and a Doctrine on Consciousness.

Kali’s Odiyya —A Shaman’s True Story of Initiation introduced readers to the world of the odiyyas—shamans of the goddess. In Bhairavan’s new book Medicine of Light, Aunt Preema and her odiyya cohorts continue to teach novices Shambu and Sandhya how to collect the light of awareness to protect and heal their community. This vibrantly written book will make you want to read it in one sitting, but you will come back to it again and again for its extraordinary teachings.

Amarananda Bhairavan will be present at Open Secret Bookstore Friday July 27th at 7:30 PM for the reading of his second book Medicine of Light
A Shaman’s Journey through Mystic Space-Time.
After this he will lead all in chants to guru, Ganesha and Goddess Lakshmi.

For further information please contact Rob at:
Open Secret Bookstore
923 C St., San Rafael, CA 94901
414-457 4191

Amarananda Bhairavan at odiyya@socal.rr.com

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crying as a energetic release / tantric expression?

2007-07-10T00:54:04Z

I know I cry sometimes, not because I am sad, but because I feel really touched, and a sense of openness. A feeling of being trusted, loved and honored...

I am wondering if any of you have a similar experience? can crying be one form of having a deeply moving energetic experience, one that can also manifest in intense bliss and pleasure that is more classically tantra?

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So you really know how to fuck

2007-06-20T18:32:20Z

This question is about the shear physical feeling of fucking.
What makes a great fuck. Dick and pussy action? Is it a mind thing.
How important is your climax or would you rather have your partner cum?

This is not about making love, this is doing the dirty.
Daniel

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6/10, 6/17 Tantric Sensations

2007-06-15T20:36:54Z

Tantric Sensations
An Introduction to Skydancing Tantra
With Gaia and Chris

Sunday, June 10, 10am - 6pm
Santa Clara, California, (Edges)

Sunday, June 17, 10am - 6pm
San Francisco, California, (Citadel)

Ever wondered about Tantra? Interested in improving your communications skills? In learning to build further intimacy and trust? Especially around the intersection of sexuality and spirituality? Curious about creating sacred space? Or about developing your connection with a partner?

Come find out how to use your body, your breath and your truth as tools to open a pathway for your sensations, expanding your consciousness and connection to others, moving from fear to trust and from desire into bliss.

In this full day workshop you will be introduced to Tantra in general and to Skydancing Tantra in specific by Gaia and Chris. Both Gaia and Chris are Skydancing Tantra facilitators in training and students of internationally acclaimed Tantra expert and author Margot Anand. Tantra is an experiential discipline and this class is no exception. You will have the opportunity to explore for yourself some of the exercises of Skydancing Tantra in a private, supportive, encouraging, nonjudgmental environment.

* The same course will be offered both days. Pick the one which is most convenient for you.
* This workshop is open to singles and couples of any gender.
* These classes are not specifically nor exclusively BDSM related. Anyone who is interested is welcome.
* Preregistration is required!

For more info and to register: http://teamnoir.name/Skydancing.html

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Phat-ass panty party

2007-06-08T21:20:22Z

Big Beautiful Women are PHAT! That's right!! Positively Hot And Tempting! Especially in panties and other lingerie!
Those big asses all warm in hot panties ready to play. And the men and women who love to play with them pantie asses.
It's also a place to talk about pantie party games. So let's all put on a pair of clean panties and get dirty.

No matter if your a man or women, slim or PHAT, phat-ass pantie party is were it's at.

come and join our big party
http://tribes.tribe.net/bbwpantyparty

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Evoking Divine Passion: Men & Women's June 15-17

2007-05-30T22:03:36Z

Evoking Divine Passion
An Introduction to Tantra and the Arts of Sacred Love
Led by Evalena Rose and guest teachers

June 15-17, Women and Men

Learn ancient arts of Tantra that link spirituality and sexuality:

Enhance your capacity for deeply satisfying intimacy
Access states of ecstasy and energetic orgasm
Learn breathing that energizes and empowers your life
Explore healthy boundaries and good communication skills
Experience a nurturing and compassionate sacred community

"Tantra with such an incredibly masterful teacher has helped me
attune to my essential self and meet my needs for fulfilling intimacy."
Awaken and revitalize your sensual, erotic nature through breath practices, sexual healing meditations, movement, and dance. Learn practices that can open your body to full-body orgasms, explored within our deeply sacred temple atmosphere that makes learning a joy. Increase your capacity to receive love and to ask for what you want in ways that enhance intimacy as you explore contact. Enjoy the energy-producing charging breath, and the sweet, romantic alternate breath.

"A weekend of profound bliss and even greater healing and learning about self.
I am deeply impressed, even awed, by your ability to create truly safe, sacred space."
Our community has mostly served women, so men get the privilege of entering the sacred womb of women's space and feeling the warm receptivity this Temple fosters. See web site for 10 minute video of women's workshops: www.tantraforwomen.com.

"Absolutely, touchingly wonderful. So exquisite and life-changing that even the day after, I remain enthralled and full of joy!"

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Introductory evenings for a lovely taste of this work:

Men and Women: Thursday, May 31 - Sebastopol
Friday, July 13 - Sebastopol
Women only: Tuesday, June 5 - Sebastopol
Thursday, July 19 - Sebastopol

7-10 PM, $25 or $40 for two, free if have come before and bring someone.
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BECOME YOUR OWN BEST BELOVED

Workshops and evenings draw singles and couples. Many who've taken these weekends return to deepen their skills and add to the richness of the Temple community.

"Excellent. I enjoyed the beautiful care Evalena took to teach
boundary setting, the sweet and powerful Puja, and the loving,
supportive community. I am in awe!

People report passions returning, gains in self esteem, more expansive relationships,
enjoying more love. The nurturing atmosphere created by therapeutically trained
assistants helps release sexual wounding. We reclaim sovereignty over our bodies.

Our Saturday ritual allows for practice of intimate and romantic arts in joyful, sacred ways that heal the heart. Singles become their own best beloved, more available for sacred union. Couples find a safe haven to revitalize passion and eroticism and open to new levels of connection.

“Life altering and heart opening. It helps bring me to the
truth of who I am.”

Hours for workshop: Fri: 7 -10 PM, Sat: 10 AM -10 PM, Sun: 10:30 AM - 5:30 PM
Private, quiet retreat site near Sebastopol, hot tub, expansive temple feel.
Overnights possible for additional fee, including breakfast.

Pre-registration requires $100 non-refundable deposit due June 1.
$415 full fee, or $385 if pre-paid by 6/1.
Couples: $750, or $710 if pre-paid by 6/1.
Includes healthy, tasty, catered meals and a booklet of practices
If coming from out of the area, take Airporter to Santa Rosa and we'll pick you us.

Pay by credit card online or by phone, or send check - call for address.
Payment plans, work exchange in set up/take down, gardening, flyering
(Work exchange can begin any time and be done ahead)

707/824-1118
E-mail: evalena@tantraforwomen.com
See our WEB SITE to learn about LoveJourney programs and a video about LoveJourney's work with women from an award-winning documentary on lesbian Tantra, "Hearts Cracked Open". http://www.tantraforwomen.com

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another tantra forum, social community site

2007-05-29T03:01:51Z

dear friends,

a client of mine (from my regular job) runs the web site me.com which is another social networking site similar to tribe.
they allow for people to create their own community...

just to play with it and become familiar with his business, I created a http://meditation.me.com community... then I ended up posting new threads and creating categories for meditation, enlightenment, tantra, etc etc... people have been visiting it, and some new members have joined.

additionally, I've created categories specific to the bay area, for practitioners, healers, teachers, and events to be posted. of course I don't know where this may go, but I generally like the setup quite a bit. There are a lot of features for setting up polls, quizes, and you can actually attach images to each post/thread, and many other features.

I wish to invite you to take a look, browse through, and hopefully sign and up and post.

URL: http://meditation.me.com

Kindly,
ramiel

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Is Tantra the new way to have Relationship?

2007-05-21T18:14:20Z

Is Tantra emerging as the new way to have relationship? What do you think?

I am currently offering private instruction and group classes for men, women, and couples. Here's my bio:

Tj is a Level III Advanced Certified Tantric Educator who utilizes ancient Taoist, Vedic, and Tantric methods combined with today's cutting edge modalities of personal growth, allowing him a powerful and unique way of teaching Conscious Loving and Conscious living.

Tj has studied with most of today's top teachers including Tony Robbins, Charles Muir and Margot Anand + has a B.A. in psychology from San Diego State University. His mission is to raise consciousness and awareness on the planet by educating, spreading massive amounts of love, healing, joy, and bliss while thoroughly enjoying the process.

(408) 313-1522
tj@dakalove.com
www.dakalove.com

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