TRANSCENDENTAL ORGASM by Janet Kira Lessin
Relationships, Orgasms and Enlightenment - Entry for May 28, 2008

I wrote this 4 days ago. My life's so hectic, I haven't had much time
to blog. I love writing. Anyway, in between phone calls and people
coming into the office, I managed to write the following:

I journal every morning when I awaken. I guess I was more deeply
affected by the couple we worked with yesterday than I imagined. My
husband and I are relationship counselors. We work with singles and
groups. But most of our clients are couples.

A lot of couples have sexual issues. Many love each other, have
families or have built lives together that are complicated and
intricately entwined. But after a while, resentments, unresolved
emotional and psychological issues and withholds seem to deeply
affect sexuality and eventually lovemaking lessens or falls to the
wayside altogether.

I felt especially sorry for this couple. The woman had never had an
orgasm. Her lack of orgasm was extremely disheartening for both of
them.

A small amount of our female clients have never had an orgasm. Some
may have orgasmed once or twice, but have great difficulty achieving
orgasm at will. Some cannot orgasm during intercourse. Others can't
orgasm with stimulation by their partner and the woman is the only
one who can bring herself to orgasm. Sometimes she can only do so
with a vibrator.

When sexual union doesn't lead to orgasms for both partners, couples
feel great pain, hurt, guilt, anquish and frustration that often
erodes the relationship eventually leading partners to infidelity
which creates further separation and could eventually result in
divorce.

Some couples stay together and deny the importance of sexuality for
themselves and the relationship. Occassionally, couples seek more
modern options, like polyamory or swinging to subsidize and offset
their sexual needs. Mature, more conscious couples can make those
types of options work.

Tantra combined with psychotherapy helps women explore their history
to uncover the origins of their sexual dysfunction. Rape, incest,
molestation, cultural conditioning, pastlife scripts, religious
programming, shaming, blaming and imprinting often are the roots of
sexual disconnection and body dissociation.

The body holds trauma on a cellular level. A good tantric
psychotherapist can help couples overcome these issues and create a
happier, healthier sex life and relationship.

Saturday, May 24, 2008 - REFLECTIONS ON MY TRANSCENDENTAL ORGASMS
We did a session with a couple. The woman has NEVER had an orgasm.
Wow, that has to be frustrating. My orgasm takes me to unity
consciousness experiences. I feel my oneness with the ones involved
with my orgasm, either those connected with me directly, physically,
and those in the room. The veil drops, the curtain parts and I stand
before my Creator and WE ARE ONE. I feel ONE with all that IS, WAS,
WILL BE. I am outside time and space while simultaneously all that
there is. I am the IS-NESS OF IT ALL.

Then I sub-parse, separate, so it seems, to being me. Yet from this
state, I retain my connection with ALL and realize I have NEVER been
apart. Nor will I ever be apart. Yet as the glory of the
orgasm/orgiastic state begins to fade, I devolve, so it seems, to my
Ego Self and begin to doubt, on some level, the unity experience I
just experienced. Such is the power of the Veil and the desire of the
Ego to be truly ALONE with ITSELF. Its sense of importance and
independence is so interwoven with the idea of being separate, being
important, individually that it protects itself with shields of
memories and forgetting.

Yet, there's a point of internalization when the dance between Ego
and Oneness is so purely defined, no matter how hard the Ego Self
attempts to hide and cover up the Oneness phase, the soul remains
connected to WHOLENESS and thus achieves the first level of
consciousness.

Now what? I am aware of higher levels. So I continue to be drawn to
these Unity Experiences so that I can become totally conscious and
aware and assist my fellow souls, my humans, humanity, as they cry so
clearly. I hear you. I am here to help you, help me, help ALL become
enlightened.

How Do You Orgasm? What's your orgasmic peak? What're your methods
of reaching unity consciousness connectiong with yourself and others
tantrically? Share on this site.